Post by dreamingoflizards on Nov 25, 2020 12:05:54 GMT
About three years ago, I created a character for a DnD campaign. Shortly after the start of this campaign, I decided to formally contact him via verbal communication (mentally, no physical vocalization needed). One thing led to another, and we've been in a serious, dedicated relationship since then, including having him "switch over" to a subtimeline (B) of reality (A), where he acts as a metaphysical, semi-tactile presence in my life.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? Sorry if I sound crazy, maybe I am. Why stress about that. Peace
If it's sort of the same thing, I created a character on a MMO video game several years ago and entered into a long-distance relationship with someone. We exchanged information, talked off-game for a while, and then we met.
However, I began disliking him rather immediately after meeting. In fact, our time in-game wasn't even all that happy because afterward I noticed certain characteristics that I disliked. The problem was that my game was intertwined with his, so it was hard to avoid him, and if I tried pulling away, he had my personal phone number and even my address that he was causing trouble with. He would text or call me incessantly. When I tried breaking it off, he'd book a plane ticket to come see me.
So in my situation, it was obsessive behaviour and stalking on his part. I was also very hooked on my game and couldn't quit. Every time I logged in, there he'd be. If I tried transferring a character or changing my name, he'd find me. Upon the last time he visited me (if you want to call it that), he put a web-tracker on my computer without my knowing it. I stupidly allowed him time on my computer while I cooked dinner or whatever so he could check his emails or even log into his character in the game. I didn't think he'd ever stoop so low as to invade my privacy, and watch my online habits after he'd gone home. But that's what he did. He had an ID to track my web-use and see what I was doing online. So if I applied for a name-change or a transfer to a different server, he saw it all.
It's as if he knew from my behaviour, trying to pull away, getting annoyed easily with him that I was not interested anymore and wanted out, but he was so troubled that he couldn't let go, even if it meant hanging on to a woman who didn't like him anymore. But as much as this sounds egotistical, it's not about me - he had done this previous to me with other women, and to my knowledge at least one more after me.
I know that online relationships can work and many can be happy. I do know couples who have met various ways online, even playing online games, but in my case it was a horrible experience, and I get very nervous for people when they say they meet people this way.
I learned the hard way of how to keep myself safe, because I opened up way too easily giving out my personal information, and too much of it too quickly, and especially that computer situation - NEVER again will I let someone use any of my devices or my computer. They are private, and locked, and I will never make that error again.