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Post by june on Dec 15, 2018 8:14:36 GMT
Hello fellow day dreamers.
I'm in my forties now, finally arrived here at the middle of my life. There was a time when I thought I would never make it that far.
Through the years I have seen so many shrinks, psychologists, new age gurus and doctors about the weirdness of me. And I can tell you what I am not: I don't have autism, ADHD, personality disorders or holes in my brain. But I do have mild OCD, traumas, pain, and from time to time so called personality fleas from a harsh upbringing and a pattern of connecting to rigid and obsessive people. So much that I can't be around many of them anymore without spiraling into depression and deep anxiety.
I have used daydreams as a means to survive a harsh reality. At one point I used daydreams so much that I became increasingly uncertain of what was real and wasn't. So I took a break but couldn't handle it to be frank. I need them and anyway they show up whenever they are triggered and they are triggered by so many things also a lot that I love or feel emotional about.
What I do now is slowly helping fight procrastination. I use meditation, I try to learn how to organize writing and get the things I want done instead of dreaming about them. It's hard work. And I would like to be part of a community where we slowly go from talking and dreaming about being productive to getting a little done here and there.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 15, 2018 8:56:23 GMT
Hi, June!
It’s great to see you here and thank you for sharing your story. Yes, productivity is something many of us really need. I also use meditation and try to organize myself - though I don’t always succeed. I guess lack (and necessity) of self-discipline is another thing that unites us, daydreamers.
If it’s ok that I’m asking, what kind of stories (or mb even novels) do you write?
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Post by june on Dec 15, 2018 9:54:35 GMT
Mainly science fiction novels and short stories.
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Post by june on Dec 15, 2018 10:03:57 GMT
Hi, June! It’s great to see you here and thank you for sharing your story. Yes, productivity is something many of us really need. I also use meditation and try to organize myself - though I don’t always succeed. I guess lack (and necessity) of self-discipline is another thing that unites us, daydreamers. If it’s ok that I’m asking, what kind of stories (or mb even novels) do you write? I don't know if it is a lack of self-discipline as such? Because ind DD I get a lot done even though it isn't real. I'm also a dedicated mother and take great pride in certain areas of my life. But with things like writing that feels a bit like guilty pleasures I feel this tiredness eating me up, almost like inertia and then I escape into MDD. So maybe learning how to redirect that energy into something useful? Don't know. I'm  how to describe any of it really. Maybe I will be able to once I know more about this condition. |
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Post by alvi on Dec 15, 2018 12:04:34 GMT
Hello June, Welcome to daydream in blue
I love how you put 'I would like to be part of a community where we slowly go from talking and dreaming about being productive to getting a little done here and there.' This is exactly what I need to be doing. I tend to loose myself in DD when my physical and mental health isn't great and that stops me trying to correct the problems in my RL, I just hide in fantasy, so creating a community aimed at supporting and encouraging each other to find a happy balance between their dd life and their real life would be brilliant.
If you ever feel like sharing some of your writing even just a short extract from your story there is a self promotion board here. I would be really interested in reading some. x
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Post by june on Dec 15, 2018 16:49:13 GMT
Hello June, Welcome to daydream in blue I love how you put 'I would like to be part of a community where we slowly go from talking and dreaming about being productive to getting a little done here and there.' This is exactly what I need to be doing. I tend to loose myself in DD when my physical and mental health isn't great and that stops me trying to correct the problems in my RL, I just hide in fantasy, so creating a community aimed at supporting and encouraging each other to find a happy balance between their dd life and their real life would be brilliant. If you ever feel like sharing some of your writing even just a short extract from your story there is a self promotion board here. I would be really interested in reading some. x Thank you  If my texts are ever translated I will post some. Good idea. That happy balance is exactly what I am looking for too. It would be brilliant indeed to find more pieces of it. you must have found some along the way? |
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Post by alvi on Dec 15, 2018 19:02:18 GMT
It would be really good if you can. It is nice to see some of the positive aspects of MD instead of just the fact it can take up so much of our RL.
I have a better balance now then I did a few years ago but it comes and goes in waves. Sometimes the MD waves are big and I feel like I will drown in them and other times they're small enough to paddle.
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Post by Dimmer on Dec 15, 2018 21:58:57 GMT
What I do now is slowly helping fight procrastination. I use meditation, I try to learn how to organize writing and get the things I want done instead of dreaming about them. It's hard work. And I would like to be part of a community where we slowly go from talking and dreaming about being productive to getting a little done here and there. This is what I've been trying to focus on too. At first I was worried I was just 'treating the symptoms' but now, a few years in, I think it's really an indispensable part of getting past the Mal. |
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Post by Dimmer on Dec 17, 2018 21:51:49 GMT
June, I don't know if it's only me, but your avatar is coming up 'broken'. Everyone else's looks normal. Does anyone else see it, or is it just like that for me? Broken for me too |
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Post by june on Dec 17, 2018 22:08:44 GMT
It's not only you. I keep expecting it to heal itself. Has kind of grown attached to it I'm afraid.
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Post by june on Dec 17, 2018 22:33:44 GMT
Oh. That kind of just made it worse.
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Post by june on Dec 17, 2018 22:35:26 GMT
Does it look better now?
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Post by june on Dec 18, 2018 6:36:52 GMT
I see your profile picture now lol. Is that your arm waving across the camera? Don't know. Found it in the discard pile. But my guess is that it is a mix of floor, jacket, paper? |
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how to describe any of it really. Maybe I will be able to once I know more about this condition. 
