Hi everyone I always knew my daydreaming habits were getting out of control but realising that others have the same problem and finding this website has been so helpful in understanding it. I’m 17 and daydream through the day, specifically when I’m walking, listening to music, in my room and at night (I can’t go to sleep without pretending someone is there). I know how bad it’s affecting my life and it has intensified with lockdown. I feel as though I can’t move forward in my life and like I’ll never reach my goals. I enjoy the daydreams because I feel wanted, successful and loved but the people I create aren’t real and I know that. Does anyone have any tips to start to ease myself out of daydreaming? It’s too hard to completely stop, but I’d like to get my productivity back and enjoy the moment more, without feeling the need to daydream. I’m so glad I found this website!
Completely stopping daydreaming isn't really a reasonable goal because everyone daydreams and its important for things like problem solving and creativity. However, you can try to regain a balance between real life and daydreams (one that non-MDers have naturally). Anything you can do to ground yourself in reality o better cope with experiences and emotions that make you uncomfortable should lessen the urge to daydream. Because of this, some common suggestions I see are exercise, mindfulness, and journaling.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.
I also don’t really know what to do and how to stop. But I’ve got some tips that are actually helping me:
-Stop listening to music So in my case I always listen to music while MD. Especially Tik Tok Songs/Sounds really trigger me. Now I deleted the app but I still listen to music. I can’t stop.
-Be around people I can’t do MD while being with people. Call a friend! I can’t do MD when I’m talking to someone. I feel bad and am annoyed because I would rather do MD but it helps me.
-Find you triggers When do you always do MD? Do you’vve got times? Is there anything that triggers you? What are you doing (if you even do something) while MD (walking, listening to music, ...)?
-track your MD Always when you notice you start to daydream use an app to track. So you can see when you daydream and for how many hours you do MD. It littetally changed a lot! I don’t know but I’m less likely to do MD if I see how much time I’ve spent on MD.
-relax!!! Don’t think you can stop over night. It’s a progress. And if you want to live the life you want to live and try, you’re far. Don’t be hard to yourself. Be kind to yourself and don’t expect to stop in a few days or stop completely in general. Doing it less is so good! And I’m proud of everyone out there who is on that progress and trys to live a better life. I’m also proud of everyone else just for being here. You’re doing great!
My daydreams are always supporting my weakness, if ı feel week ı imagine myself joining the army if ı feel ugly ı imagine my self beautiful and if ı feel lonely ı imagine ı have so many friends and they all love me. I thought several times about what ı want in this life, and why ı just don't change things so ı can achieve them in real instead of dreaming. It might be sound straightforward but I found the answer for myself. Because I am lazy. Achieving my dreams will make me happy but the dream of achieving them also makes me happy. Why would I bother to go through that painful process? Besides this is an addiction of mine. Like a cigarette when ı was stressful and unhappy ı can easily close the reality and open my imaginary world. Till a point that this obsession becomes psychosis that affects my reality and triggers depression. Since ı imagine a perfect condition for me the reality can't catch up with it, it doesn't matter what ı have in real life it will not satisfy me compere with what ı dreamed of. One day with therapy or not we all need to face with our truth so we can survive. I don't want to lose in this life, I hope you are not wanting to.