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Post by totallyfiona on Feb 20, 2021 20:35:11 GMT
I seriously don't know what other people think about if they are not doing this 'thing'. My brain just snaps back into whatever fantasy is going on at the time. I keep 3 or 4 stories going on at a time used for different times of the day. A story can last a week to many months. My stories have to be very specific and detail oriented. I cannot just brush over a detail that would not make sense like a movie slip.
I'm really trying to not do this anymore and I'm struggling with what to do instead. Like, I cannot stop doing this if i have nothing to replace it with. So my question is.. If not in a faraway land daydreaming, what else is there to think of? I'm trying to read a really good book and I can't get through a page because I lose myself and have to start the page over and over until I give up and just pretend I'm reading so my boyfriend leaves me alone.
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Post by Lonerlol on Feb 20, 2021 22:02:05 GMT
I ask the same question everyday, like what do they do in their free time . But I’m really jealous of them i wish i was normal because shifting back to reality makes me  :/ and i get triggered by everything 😭so idk what should i do, but studying and socializing really helps like spending more time with your bf or family or friends helps . Anyways I’m glad I’m not the only one  |
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Post by Theaxe on Feb 22, 2021 16:52:55 GMT
I asked this very question to my husband, who knows I am a dreamer - while he is not.
He said that he's content to just sit with no thoughts. Even when he watches TV, he is just receiving information, but not actively processing it. When he goes to bed, he tends to fall asleep within minutes. He just doesn't have the want (or should I say problem) of having constant thoughts or daydreams. He can happily keep a blank mind.
My mom also knows I daydream, and she's a bit different. She's got some anxiety and (mild) OCD issues of her own, and tends to worry a lot. This means her thoughts aren't about made-up situations like what MDers tend to do. She can sit and worry about what will happen tomorrow for hours. She can think of scenarios that can go wrong, and will stew over it for the whole day. With that, she can certainly multi-task and sometimes take her mind off things, but as a worrier, she seems to have the habit of just thinking of real life, and fretting over it. There is no room or want to daydream about made-up things like fantasizing about being with a celebrity (or being a celebrity). For her, it's about things made-up based on things that are happening and could be very real.
I'm guessing a lot of people who don't do MD, do one of these two things, perhaps other things that just don't involve any type of pleasurable fantasies.
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Post by granger on Feb 23, 2021 15:47:28 GMT
I agree with Theaxe. There are times when i am not daydreaming( though rarely) and when that happens, I have a less cluttered mind, sometimes blank also. It is very refreshing and nice. Daydreaming makes me happy but also gives me mental exhaustion.
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nikawska
New Daydreamer
Fifth day of actively trying not to indulge in excessive daydreaming! (April 8)
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Post by nikawska on Apr 5, 2021 13:47:51 GMT
As someone who just started to actively avoid to daydream, I asked myself the same question...
Even though it's stressful, I can stop to wonder into my usual complex go-to dream setting.
However, now I tend to find myself in more realistic daydreams where I am not an idealized version of myself, so they are rather hypothetical situations? Like a conversation with my friend where I am still my flawed self, and not 'perfect'.
Do you think it's better to have realistic daydreams? I think it's easier to snap out of them and they're not as complex as my other dreams. Is this maybe also something normal people tend to do?
I'd love to hear your advice regarding 'realistic' daydreams as they don't happen an excessive amount of times...
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Post by Sam on Apr 5, 2021 18:20:47 GMT
As someone who just started to actively avoid to daydream, I asked myself the same question... Even though it's stressful, I can stop to wonder into my usual complex go-to dream setting. However, now I tend to find myself in more realistic daydreams where I am not an idealized version of myself, so they are rather hypothetical situations? Like a conversation with my friend where I am still my flawed self, and not 'perfect'. Do you think it's better to have realistic daydreams? I think it's easier to snap out of them and they're not as complex as my other dreams. Is this maybe also something normal people tend to do? I'd love to hear your advice regarding 'realistic' daydreams as they don't happen an excessive amount of times... More realistic daydreams are common among non-MDers. Honestly, even idealized-self and/or complex daydreams are common, it's just the level of interference that differs between MDers and non-MDers. The only reason why I would caution you against real life daydreams is if they impact how you behave around others or your feelings about them. Personally, including people I know in real life in my daydreams, even more realistic daydreams, can influence how I feel about and treat them, often in not good ways. But if it's not doing that, then there's no reason why you shouldn't allow yourself to have realistic daydreams. Daydreaming is an important function of the brain, as it helps with creativity, problem solving, and provides the occasional escape from reality, so not daydreaming at all isn't really a good goal. |
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:/ and i get triggered by everything 😭so idk what should i do, but studying and socializing really helps like spending more time with your bf or family or friends helps . Anyways I’m glad I’m not the only one 
