I was reading about some of the ways that some of you have tried to help with not day dreaming as much. With that said my goals or plans for may are to take notes of when I dd,what are my triggers, what am I trying to escape from, how to I feel before, during and after dding. Also I want to try to work on learning how to meditate or work on meditating more. I am also struggling to cook, clean etc.I want to be able to talk to my husband about the fact that I do dd and also be able to talk to him that in my dd, I dream about a guy that I had a crush on in school the same time I started dating. My husband. I feel shame that I am about another guy and I am afraid of what he will say or do(leave me).Any help or suggestions are welcomed. My hardest thing is to stay focused and hold my self accountable.Again I'm sorry if this is long or like a run on sentence. Thanks for this group and thanks for reading. Farmer Dee.
Update -- since I have written this, when I know that I am going dd (feed the critters, take a shower, take the dogs for a walk at night,etc) I have been trying to take note of my surroundings, my breathing, etc. What I feel (hot,cold, damp,the sun, the rain hitting my face, the twinkling stars in the sky, I can see my breath, etc), what is my mood? I try to get in touch with myself. My inner self. If I am or hurting inside my therapist told me to be compationate and ask myself what I need.Just like you would with a family member, friend or someone you are close to that is hurting.This is what I have been working on aND seems to be helping redirect my mind from dding so much.Setting time in day to just let my mind dding and /or meditate. Mind you that this is a work in progress. But It seems to be helping sofar in getting in touch with my feelings and what I need. Why I do dding so much and my triggers. Hope this is helpful