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Post by cyamy123 on May 16, 2021 20:03:31 GMT
I have been hanging around this forum for a while now and I think it's time that I introduce myself. I have been MD since I was 13 years old and I am 44 now and still do it. What triggered it off was a series of unhappy events and I escaped into a fantasy world that I have never really come out of. For years and years I would avoid relationships, either through lack of confidence and also because I didn't want it interfering with my daydreaming. I lived with my parents until the age of 40 and when I got the house to myself was the time that I could really get lost in my fantasy world. I would put on my music, which is a trigger and pace back and forth for hours. I loved it! In 2014 I found the term Maladaptive Daydreaming. I was  to myself that I can't be the only one in the World who does this, so I typed into Google 'I live in a fantasy world ' and MD came up. I was so relieved to know other people do this and it actually has a name. I am now married, although not always happily and I just can't let go of my daydreams. Due to my husbands job, he is at home a lot of the time that I am, so I dont have the freedom to DD as much as I would like. I can only get lost now when hubby is out, which is rare, or when I'm in the bath or I plug my earphones in and shut him and the rest of the world out. My DD's are the one thing that makes me truly happy and I cannot imagine a life without them. I dont ever want to stop doing this.
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Post by Sam on May 18, 2021 14:33:57 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
Many of us don’t want to completely give up our characters and scenes, and that’s totally okay! The goal of any treatment should be to regain a balance between real life and daydreams so that we can do all of the real life stuff we want to do, without giving up the attachment to characters who we love so much.
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Post by herownsociety on Jul 9, 2021 5:19:33 GMT
I'm around your age and have also daydreamed all my life with no intention to quit. I've always daydreamed significantly less when I'm in a relationship. The problem is those never last and I'm just left alone with my day dreams.
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Post by piphirho on Jul 9, 2021 20:50:51 GMT
I am 64 and have been daydreaming for... well, I'm not really entirely sure when it started. It has been for as long as I can remember so if I had to guess I would say that it probably started around the age of 3 or 4. I have never completely stopped. I do it a lot less now than I did when it was at it's worst. I am married and my wife and I are both retired so I get to do it for minutes at a time now instead of hours, but I still do it. I have had a relatively successful life. You don't have to stop. You may not be able to stop. But it is possible to integrate it better into your real life. It is not the daydreaming that is the problem, it is the "maladaptive" part when it becomes an addiction and takes over your real life. Perhaps for some people that have badly addictive personalites they will have to stop altogether, but for most people it has to be better managed rather than eliminated.
But that's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
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