Hey Everyone, it’s my first time posting here, I just found out this group today and I feel so good of beeing able to speak about DD with anyone, since it’s something I do ever since I can remember.
What you guys believe are the causes of DD?
Because really, I believe I start doing it as an involuntary scape from reality. My childhood was very painful, i suffered of several abuses, I had my brother who would hit me for no reason everyday, my parents who were always fighting, watching my dad hit my mother. My mom who suffers on bipolar disorder tried to commit suicide at least 4 times, I was 9 years old the first time, and a couple of times it was me who found her almost dead, and had to go out for help alone.
Whole life on school was terrible, I couldn’t pay attention to classes, always daydreaming the whole time. People got like “oh he is so distracted, he lives in the moon world” (that’s an expression we have in my country for somebody who’s always lost in their thoughts), they did’t know there was a whole universe of fantasy going on my mind, I failed many years of high school, never got to finish college for the same reason, I daydream everyday, for hours, i can’t help stoping it, even when I try to do something important, or ponctual, I can’t because I DD 5 minutes later, over and over.
I’m 27 today, but I learned about DD just 3 years ago, ever since that I’m paying more attention to it, cause really before I just though I was stupid and helpless. I started realizing I use it to scape from reality since than.
I noticed when I’m going trough hard times, when I’m depressed, or anxious, or scared I DD much more often. I really believe today that my brain learned doing that from the very beginning, to scape the shit childhood I traumas a had.
And it’s something that I carry today, even being an adult, with most of that issues solved, and still can’t help stoping it cause it’s seems I’m addicted to it, and it seems it’s just how I learned dealing with problems and any bad shit.
Escaping from reality is a very common cause of daydreaming that becomes maladaptive. Often this is because of unpleasant things in reality like mental illnesses, trauma, bullying, or loneliness.
Personally, I also feel that it allows me to burn off the energy of emotions without having to process them. I pace while daydreaming, which burns the energy off, but doing so means I can get rid of the worst feelings from an emotion without having it sit with it and process it.
Even non/MDers have a different balance between daydreams and reality when things are bad. If you’re stressed out or depressed, you’re naturally going to need more of an escape because that helps give you a break from whatever intense emotions you’re feeling. We just tend to do this more extremely, since we daydream so much already and often don’t have other coping skills for intense emotions.