Post by bluebutterfly on Aug 20, 2021 21:11:44 GMT
Hope you are all doing great.
I'm new to this forum and tbh I hadn't thought to join it till now.
This year I discovered the term "Maladaptive Daydreaming" and it has been in my mind for the past few months. As long as I remember myself I've been trying to find some time to escape in my fantasty world.It just seems so much more interesting and happy than my real life that I can't stop daydreaming.Whatever I do my mind just jumps into dreaming again even if I'm trying to complete important tasks or having a conversation.For small periods of time (probably some weeks,a month or two) the unattainable eagerness seems to stop depending on how my life is going but then it comes back.
Uncontrolable daydreaming is interfering to my life and it makes it hard to move on.For example I have been for three years in my university and failed almost all my exams because I never seem to be able to concentrate because of that.I've never spoken to anyone about MD because I don't believe they'll understand, they'll probably think I am just lazy but that's not the case.I don't want to stop it completely but learn how to control it.
If anyone has some advice on this would you share it with me?I feel the need to do something but I've no idea how to begin.
I generally recommend that you start by figuring out your triggers. MD is basically a behavioral addiction, but these things have triggers. Oftentimes they’re emotional states (anger, sadness, boredom, etc) or chronic mental health problems (depression, anxiety, etc). Personally, I tend to daydream maladaptive my because it allows me to release the tension I feel when I experience emotions without actually processing the emotion. Once you know your triggers, you can develop better coping methods for dealing with them. Some common ones are exercise, journaling, and mindfulness.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.