Post by crazydancer on Nov 7, 2021 11:48:37 GMT
Hi everyone.
I've been experiencing maladaptive daydreaming for years now, but it's only recently that I realized how much it destroys my life, for ex. causing panic attacks and depression because I'm hardly able to control my life and complete everyday activities.
But I also discovered that what escalates this whole problem the most is the overwhelming shame every time I try to think about it. Even though I have a few close friends, I just cannot imagine telling them at least overall what my daydreams are about, because it's seems so childish, so irresponsible, so silly, so pathetic (that's the most painful one) to my mind and I just can't get over the fact people are going to think I'm a freak. What makes me especially ashamed of my daydreams is that they're mainly about impressing some other people with my skills, looks, behaviour etc., that I obviously don't have in real life. This shame is so bad, that it often makes going back to my life and tasks ten times more difficult, because I just feel so terribly bad that I've done something so improper. Then I think about the fact that I won't be able to talk about it to anyone and therefore I'm completely alone with this problem which makes me hopeless about all this, about my life basically.
So I've written all of this to ask you guys, do you feel similar about your daydreams, does it hurt you that you're not able to talk about it to anyone and you're forced to hide it? Does realising that you daydream because you lack appreciation, relationship, or happiness in real life makes you feel bad about yourself? How often do you feel bad because of thoughts like "I've done it again..."? Or perhaps there is someone who's able to accept what's happening to them and not blame themselves for doing it? I'd love to learn from that person.
Stay strong guys
I've been experiencing maladaptive daydreaming for years now, but it's only recently that I realized how much it destroys my life, for ex. causing panic attacks and depression because I'm hardly able to control my life and complete everyday activities.
But I also discovered that what escalates this whole problem the most is the overwhelming shame every time I try to think about it. Even though I have a few close friends, I just cannot imagine telling them at least overall what my daydreams are about, because it's seems so childish, so irresponsible, so silly, so pathetic (that's the most painful one) to my mind and I just can't get over the fact people are going to think I'm a freak. What makes me especially ashamed of my daydreams is that they're mainly about impressing some other people with my skills, looks, behaviour etc., that I obviously don't have in real life. This shame is so bad, that it often makes going back to my life and tasks ten times more difficult, because I just feel so terribly bad that I've done something so improper. Then I think about the fact that I won't be able to talk about it to anyone and therefore I'm completely alone with this problem which makes me hopeless about all this, about my life basically.
So I've written all of this to ask you guys, do you feel similar about your daydreams, does it hurt you that you're not able to talk about it to anyone and you're forced to hide it? Does realising that you daydream because you lack appreciation, relationship, or happiness in real life makes you feel bad about yourself? How often do you feel bad because of thoughts like "I've done it again..."? Or perhaps there is someone who's able to accept what's happening to them and not blame themselves for doing it? I'd love to learn from that person.
Stay strong guys
. We all got to come to terms with our traumas and just go with the flow of life. Remember don’t beat yourself up because you can’t ever grow when you are in that state. You have to forgive yourself. Please give yourself love. I hope this helps some and know that you are literally never alone in this journey.
, stressed, uncomfortable etc. they just do what they're able to do to help us; they create a whole new reality just for us, in which all our personal needs and desires are satisfied. And because it works (because we obviously enjoy the daydreams), they keep doing that. This thought, that for a very particular reason so much mental energy has been used in order to comfort me simply makes me appreciate it. Of course it doesn't mean that I want to stay in an imaginary world for the rest of my life; that's why I try to learn from my daydreams. Because they're nothing else than a message from our subconsciousness about what we actually want, which is the key point in making yourself happy in yourreal life. 😊