To those reading, hello! I go by Lyla (my pen name) and I have been maladaptive daydreaming since (probably) childhood. Until recently I didn't even know my secret had a name, much less that so many other people deal with it. I'm twenty years old and a full time college student at the moment, but my daydreaming often impedes my success and daily life. The biggest drawback to my daydreaming is how negatively my imaginary relationships seem to impact my real-life ones. Every romantic relationship I've ever had has failed early on because reality just didn't measure up to the picture I'd painted in my daydreams. I can only hope I'm not the only one. Regardless, I'm really glad to have found a place like this on the internet with others like me. MDD is probably the deepest darkest part of myself. I hadn't told anyone about it ever until two weeks ago with my therapist. That was probably one of the biggest leaps of faith I've ever taken, but I'm grateful it led me here. If anyone has any insight or life tips for how you deal with MDD in your life, I would love to hear. (:
MD impacting your real life relationships, romantic or not, is VERY common. I try not to daydream about people I know in real life because of it.
As for things that might help, figuring out WHY you daydream maladaptively and how to better cope and ground yourself are generally good tips. Sometimes the reason why is trauma or mental illness or loneliness, etc. Basically anything that makes you feel that escaping reality is the best option can cause daydreaming to become maladaptive. Working through the core cause should theoretically decrease the desire to daydream maladaptively, especially when combined with adding in other, healthier coping skills.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.