Lyla
New Daydreamer
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Post by Lyla on Feb 28, 2022 4:16:56 GMT
I know everyone's daydreams are different, but does anyone else find their dreams to be inherently romantic? I have these characters that all love me in different ways and they all tick different boxes but all of them are essentially my perfect or ideal partner. That being said, it's been really difficult for me to form romantic relationships with people in real life. I get lonely and I feel like I want a partner but when someone does come along, no matter how great they are, they just can't compare with the characters in my daydreams. I always end up choosing the daydream over the partner and none of my relationships go further than the talking stage. Can anyone relate? If so, how do you deal with it?
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Post by yesitsmae on Feb 28, 2022 13:45:49 GMT
I know everyone's daydreams are different, but does anyone else find their dreams to be inherently romantic? I have these characters that all love me in different ways and they all tick different boxes but all of them are essentially my perfect or ideal partner. That being said, it's been really difficult for me to form romantic relationships with people in real life. I get lonely and I feel like I want a partner but when someone does come along, no matter how great they are, they just can't compare with the characters in my daydreams. I always end up choosing the daydream over the partner and none of my relationships go further than the talking stage. Can anyone relate? If so, how do you deal with it? Hey Yes I can relate to this. I also feel that real life people are no comparison to my actual MD person too, but I would say that it’s probably because your daydream person can be anything you want them to be. You’re in control of every aspect of who they are and you can omit any flaws or bad things about them that you don’t like. Unfortunately real life isn’t like that, and finding the absolute ideal partner is probably way easier said than done. I find that my daydreams don’t start romantically, but they do go onto have a romantic element to them. For me it’s probably out of curiosity as I too have never experienced a relationship. I will say though that not all of my daydream people have a romantic connection, it seems to be dependant on who the person is and how “close” I feel to them. Because your mind is a very safe way to experience things like this, I wouldn’t be too afraid to embrace the romantic side in your mind, but remember that it is just a fantasy. I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that it’ll never happen in real life, which is something that must be accepted even if it’s really hard. I hope I’ve helped a bit. I’ll also just add that I have daydreams where the people in it all love me in different ways too, and tick different boxes. |
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Post by lfn85 on Apr 27, 2022 23:18:49 GMT
This is such a problem for me. I have created and still create perfect partners for myself whenever I’m unhappy or feel incomplete with a relationship. I’ve been married for over 7 years and often escape into a fantasy relationship to fulfill anything that isn’t perfect. I recently came across MD and it brought me to tears of relief knowing I’m not alone! I wish I had better advice for you but when my fantasies take over an entire day or I notice it’s getting out of control I try to list things off that are happening in real life. Not a negative list but positive things about the person I love. It can help.
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Post by pfeffi on Jun 16, 2022 16:53:46 GMT
I usually develop a crush on a fictional character. I can only be with them in my fantasy, therefore I daydream. I fantasize almost exclusively about romance.
I keep my daydreams and real life strictly separate. I found out a long time ago that I dont really want my daydreams to become reality.
Looking back I now see my daydreams as a way to experience romance without all the challenges that come with connecting with a real Person.
I got married recently. I have been living with my husband for 3 years know. I never stopped daydreaming about romance. I feel extremely guilty about daydreaming and crushing on fictional characters.
I feel in a weird way you are romancing yourself, because your fantasy is by extension a part of you.
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