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Post by cora on Mar 17, 2022 18:31:12 GMT
Hi everyone,
this is my first post and I think I should start right away with the question that I ask myself most often concerning MDD.
Why do I, as a female, have such excessive fantasies about a fictional gay couple? Do any other females engage in this kind of behavior?
To me, most of my daydreams are quite easy to explain. I can see why I enjoy making up successful, good-looking, popular, intelligent, wise, sensitive, and funny people - they replace what I would like to be myself in real life and their storylines make me go through situations I otherwise don't get to experience.
But what I don't understand is: Why do my main characters have to be a gay couple? Why do I spend so much time fantasizing about how they meet, fall in love, get to know each other very deeply, get to know each other's families, come out to their friends etc.? Quite often, it also turns into a sexual fantasy, even though I myself have never experienced sexual attraction to a man. I have fallen in love several times with guys, but mostly on a quite superficial level, and the last time was many years ago. The only sexual attraction I have ever experienced was towards women, and that, too, has happened only a few times in my life. But still, imagining in great details how these gay guys are intimate with each other turns me on so much. Maybe that is because it is something so distant from my own identity? I wouldn't enjoy making up sexual stories that include me as a character because I don't like myself neither physically nor personally.
Since this is an introductory thread, here are some information about myself. I am 25 years old and just about to finish my Master's degree and start working. Very introverted and socially not very compatible, but trying my best to find friends. I would love to get in touch with some people here because I have never talked to another daydreamer in my life. Today, I opened up about this for the first time to another person, and that was with someone doing research for their doctoral degree in psychology.
Would be happy to read some comments!
Cora
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Post by sarah on Mar 19, 2022 21:52:20 GMT
Hello I'm Sarah. I too have a theme of dding about gay or bisexual men in relationships with other men. It is a theme that occurs so repeatedly in my DDs that I too have questioned why I do it too.
In real life it is rare for me to find anyone attractive too. Of the times I have found someone attractive it is usually a feminine or gay man.
I consider myself in the woman category however mostly come off as gender neutral in terms of the way I behave and dress.
I also dd about heterosexual couples but not as much as homosexual couples. Homosexual couples seem to be my favorite and I don't dd as myself either because it would feel weird for someone real like me to dd about being with someone fictional like my characters. Here is a list of gay couples I dd of
L/light and mello/matt from death note
Jack/john from Torchwood
Legato/knives from trigun
Karl/rob from zoids not to mention all the other characters I have made up that are added into the worlds I have created based on anime's that I like that are also in homosexual relationships.
I would very much like to know why I also dd about homosexual relationships between men too yet in real life come under the category of being a woman.
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Post by cora on Mar 22, 2022 16:54:11 GMT
That is so interesting, thank you for sharing, Sarah, I am glad I am not alone. I kind of knew I wasn't because I had heard about girls writing fanfiction, but I had never really done much research about that because I'm not into anime and these kinds of things. I do watch compilations of gay storylines on YouTube every now and then, but I prefer inventing my own that aren't based on films or series at all.
Do you think that the things we have in common (being female, not experiencing much sexual attraction, also not being a stereotypical woman - I myself, for example, rarely wear feminine clothes and I usually prefer the company of men) have something to do with these fantasies?
And, if you don't mind me asking, do you also engage in sexual fantasies about homosexual male couples? I think that's the weirdest part about it ... it's so weird that for some time I resisted doing it, but eventually I allowed myself (I was like: why not, it's just a harmless fantasy even if it is untypical) and now I am doing it a lot ...
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Post by alvi on Mar 22, 2022 21:48:13 GMT
I'm a heterosexual female and most of the romantic leads in my dds are gay men and always have been. I don't think its that rare and when it comes to sexual fantasies it isn't any different from how a lot of men view lesbian adult videos. I think some of my reasons are that I don't find woman attractive so why would I want to put them in a sexual scenario and also I don't find myself attractive so I wouldn't want to imagine that either.
With a daydream we get to pick characters that are perfect to us and create and control all situations for them to be involved in and that makes it easier to find them attractive, they are perfectly tailored to what we like whereas in the real world people can't live up to our unrealistic expectations.
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Post by cora on Mar 23, 2022 9:39:55 GMT
I'm a heterosexual female and most of the romantic leads in my dds are gay men and always have been. I don't think its that rare and when it comes to sexual fantasies it isn't any different from how a lot of men view lesbian adult videos. I think some of my reasons are that I don't find woman attractive so why would I want to put them in a sexual scenario and also I don't find myself attractive so I wouldn't want to imagine that either. With a daydream we get to pick characters that are perfect to us and create and control all situations for them to be involved in and that makes it easier to find them attractive, they are perfectly tailored to what we like whereas in the real world people can't live up to our unrealistic expectations. Makes so much sense! |
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Post by sarah on Mar 26, 2022 1:16:43 GMT
Yes I do enjoy fantasizing about the gay/bisexual couples in my daydreams. I think your on to something saying us liking gay male couples is sort of like men liking lesbian couples. As for why I like feminine men it might just be because when it comes to masculinity/feminine Im somewhere near the fence on the womans side so I like the opposite which would be a man somewhere near the fence on the mans side. They say opposites attract.
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Post by sarah on Mar 26, 2022 1:32:04 GMT
Also about fanfiction if you research gay couples from popular anime's like death note on fanfiction.net you will find hundreds if not thousands of stories written about gay pairings. Literary just go to fanfiction.net select your favorite TV programs/ book/ anime/movie and search for potential male/male couple from it and its pritty much going to be there.
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Post by iloveyourwife666 on Apr 4, 2022 10:52:01 GMT
god this is all me. I think
1) its like a way we can experience relationships without misogyny, and like power imbalances particularly if we have trauma about that
2) Maybe sexually its like a shield so we can think about the stuff we want too, without shame, and misogyny. also just generally you can be more confident in relationships if you are a guy
3) mdd is escapism and who has more has more of a prestigious position than the hot guy. MDDing As a hotgirl there is still objectification, and people reduce you to your attractiveness. But being a hot guy its like the opposite, people see you as more human.
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Post by maythedreamer on Apr 13, 2022 4:14:01 GMT
Oh god!!!! I have the same "problem"! In my head, i created a story based on the universe of the anime "My hero academia" I'm a student of class 1a, and I have a twin brother (who doesn't exist outside of my imagination), and he's dating Shoto, I spend hours seeing them as a couple, it's become a thousand times more fun than imagining my relationship with Denki, I identified a lot reading your post, I feel the same as you! I like being in the role of my brother, because it's something very different from anything I had ever imagined, this universe of mine in My hero academia, among all the ones I've been in, was the most passionate, I believe that precisely because of the story I created from the two together. And now I ask myself the same question: Why do I like this scenario so much...? Sorry if there is any linguistic consistency error with the text, I'm using google translator  |
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