Hello everybody, my name is Shan! I found this forum on a health website. Today was the first day where I’ve told someone else about MD. I went on this Health website to find a better explanation when I was telling your sister what I was going through. I was very brief and didn’t go into detail about my DD‘s and how I feel, because I can already tell that she kind of thought I was a little crazy. But I could also tell she was trying not to be judge mental, so I changed the topic. I’m very happy that I found this forum because I know I’m not alone.
I live alone and I work from home, so lately my DD’s have been at an all the time high. I agree with others when they say music intensifies it, which I didn’t even realize. Sometimes I’ll even listen to music to purposely DD. But even if I’m not listening to music and I’m in silence, the DDs are constant. If anyone has any tips or anything helpful that has been working for them, I would greatly appreciate it if you shared.
At this point I’m just trying to reflect on what might possibly be causing this. I don’t know if it’s an escape from reality, if it’s because I’m always alone so I just can’t handle silence. I actually don’t know if my mind can be silent, I don’t know what that feels like. It is almost as if I can only not DD if my mind is fully focused on something else. For example, I’m putting together a TV stand, my mind has no room to DD because I’m fully focused on the task at hand, ya know? And Sleeping these days is really hard. I stay up so long at night because I just can’t turn my mind off. And I can’t stop coming up with things in my head. It’s almost like a full-time job and keeping up with the story that I created from the morning.
Ughh, at this point I’m rambling. SORRY! But happy to be apart of this community, thank you
Finding the reason why your daydreaming is maladaptive can be hard. You mention you’re alone a lot, are you lonely? Loneliness can cause you to want to daydream more. That’s actually one of my personal MD causes.
Daydreaming is often used as a coping mechanism for basically anything. It is important to note that non-MDers can use daydreaming as a coping mechanism as well. The difference is that their daydreaming doesn’t interfere with their ability to function normally.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.