Post by Sam on Dec 26, 2018 19:48:47 GMT
I've used different forms of media as a trigger for daydreaming for years. Books, movies, tv shows, they all become part of a plot. Or, more accurately, I change the storyline of the media to include my character. Despite my anxiety, I'm drawn towards action (likely because then I can make myself badass and brave and anything other than the helpless human that I feel I am in my real life) and pain. The pain is because the person feeling the pain always has people to help them; to support them. You know, a character gets injured and another character(s) gets all protective and cuddly and shit like that. Exactly the kind of attention that I don't receive in my real life. I mean, yeah, my parents are always helpful and kind and whatever, but at a certain point, that isn't enough.
So I daydream myself into situations where I'm not helpless or where I have people other than family supporting me and caring for me. And I used to take great comfort in that, but lately its mostly just made me feel empty.
It probably started during my mental health crisis last year/early this year. I went to a psych facility for 2 days last November. It was honestly the most traumatic event of my life. I know that at least a few of my friends and twitter acquaintances knew that I was there. And no one even bothered to ask me if I was okay. And not even just about the trauma, literally, I was in a mental health crisis from fall 2017 till spring 2018, I was very open about that, and no one bothered to ask if I was okay.
This got way off topic, but I just needed to get that out.
But yeah, I physically can't stop myself from daydreaming when I encounter scenes of action or pain or whatever because I get so goddamn depressed that I'm not that badass or I don't have that kind of support that I can barely function.
[Edit as of 12/27/18 4:42PM] I really need to work on being able to consume media without giving in to the compulsion to daydream. I've completely lost the ability to consume any kind of media without daydreaming or at the very least having the strong urge to daydream. It doesn't matter whether the visual media is sad, happy, adrenaline-causing, hopeful, whatever, it still makes me daydream. I consume it and its like I can't process the feelings that it causes in real life, I have to do it in a daydream. I think I talked about this a bit in this thread that I wrote on a phenomenon that I call "emotional transfer." Music is just as bad because I've used it as the soundtrack to my daydreaming for years. The difference, though, between media like tv shows or movies and music is that with tv shows I'm more likely to insert myself into the storyline or to use the feelings that watching brings up to influence a different daydream not related to that storyline while with music, I generally feel more memories; especially if the music is something that I've been listening to for a long time.
I read a post in the daydream challenge from @beyonddaydreaming on Instagram about music. It suggests consciously breathing while listening to music (though it would probably work for any kind of trigger). The point is similar to what you receive with mindfulness training; teaching yourself to be in the moment, to breathe through your distractions, and to kindly bring yourself back to your point of focus (in this case, the breath).
So I daydream myself into situations where I'm not helpless or where I have people other than family supporting me and caring for me. And I used to take great comfort in that, but lately its mostly just made me feel empty.
It probably started during my mental health crisis last year/early this year. I went to a psych facility for 2 days last November. It was honestly the most traumatic event of my life. I know that at least a few of my friends and twitter acquaintances knew that I was there. And no one even bothered to ask me if I was okay. And not even just about the trauma, literally, I was in a mental health crisis from fall 2017 till spring 2018, I was very open about that, and no one bothered to ask if I was okay.
This got way off topic, but I just needed to get that out.
But yeah, I physically can't stop myself from daydreaming when I encounter scenes of action or pain or whatever because I get so goddamn depressed that I'm not that badass or I don't have that kind of support that I can barely function.
[Edit as of 12/27/18 4:42PM] I really need to work on being able to consume media without giving in to the compulsion to daydream. I've completely lost the ability to consume any kind of media without daydreaming or at the very least having the strong urge to daydream. It doesn't matter whether the visual media is sad, happy, adrenaline-causing, hopeful, whatever, it still makes me daydream. I consume it and its like I can't process the feelings that it causes in real life, I have to do it in a daydream. I think I talked about this a bit in this thread that I wrote on a phenomenon that I call "emotional transfer." Music is just as bad because I've used it as the soundtrack to my daydreaming for years. The difference, though, between media like tv shows or movies and music is that with tv shows I'm more likely to insert myself into the storyline or to use the feelings that watching brings up to influence a different daydream not related to that storyline while with music, I generally feel more memories; especially if the music is something that I've been listening to for a long time.
I read a post in the daydream challenge from @beyonddaydreaming on Instagram about music. It suggests consciously breathing while listening to music (though it would probably work for any kind of trigger). The point is similar to what you receive with mindfulness training; teaching yourself to be in the moment, to breathe through your distractions, and to kindly bring yourself back to your point of focus (in this case, the breath).
that it is just a normal thing.but now I am not able to do my daily activities and iam very much urged to daydream .so can you please say me how you are managing it or how to overcome this .