hey i am yasmine(16). since i am 8 i cant sleep cause my daydreams were so comfortable and made me happy i just didnt want to leave. no one really understood why cause "sleep is fun too"and people even thaught i was staring at them (for an hour) cause i was in a dd in class. i am really tired but i just love it so much its my own save world. i tell my older sister stories about my daydreams i change the name of the main character (which is me) to someone else so she doesnt know the story i tell is a life i live inside my head. she loves it and is suprised about how much fantasy i have. i could never sleep easily cause i loved my world to much i couldnt walk with my full mind on the road cause almost all the time me walking alone is me in my world. and now my sister cant sleep too cause she needs to hear my story "its so fun" . if i refuse telling her a story she simply cant sleep as easily as she does when i do tell her a story. i am addicted to daydreaming and i feel like she is addicted to listening to my dreams. i am now afraid she enters her own daydream world too. yes it is fun but i cant concentrate in class it makes me everytime i realize that that dream isnt my life and that my life is actually unworthy to live. i am happy i have a world i can go too for my own mental sake but it has many negative things too and i dont want my sister to have it too. does someone know if a person without a traumatic past or depression etc. can get this too ? can i infect her?
...does someone know if a person without a traumatic past or depression etc. can get this too ? can i infect her?
I am proof of someone without a traumatic past (also without depression) who developed MD as a toddler/child as a way to cope with feelings of inadequacy. I was brought up in a loving home and have fond memories of my childhood. It was full of laughs, and very stable. There were no drugs or alcohol, and no abuse.
Basically my MD was brought on by feeling like I wasn't as good as my brother, who was given so much more opportunity than me. I was also fattened up a bit as a kid by my mom's outrageously good cooking and baking, making me a chubby girl who was on the verge of some bullying (but managed to avoid it as there were weaker targets than me). Her need to feed me cookies and cakes was her way of showing love, and I often needed to feel loved to make up for my feelings of inadequacy all the time.
Your sister's situation is all her own, and I don't believe your influence of MD could just suddenly make her want to do it -- although I could be wrong! This disorder is so new and many new things develop from research all the time from it. Currently though, I'm a firm believer that those with MD find a way to bring it on because of their own private reasons, not because someone said, "Here, try daydreaming, you'll love it!" as if it was crack cocaine. Someone's need to daydream so excessively is because they find it's more pleasant than real life. It can range from a kid like me who felt bad because I didn't make the track team for being too chubby, or a kid who feels bad because they didn't even try out for the track team because their abusive parents forbade it. Someone's level of "feeling bad" might be worse from person to person, but to that one individual, their reason is all they know. If a daydream makes them feel better to escape to that place, that's what they'll do.
In short, I don't think you can affect her developing depression in the way you think. People can identify that a damaging relationship with a family member or loved one can be the cause of depression, but it doesn't sound like what you're doing is one of those reasons. You're simply sharing your daydreaming ideas with her, no differently than sharing news. If she develops MD on her own, it might be for reasons that have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with how she feels about herself.
thank you this really helped me out and relieved me from the stress i was experiencing.