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Post by tinyalien on Mar 25, 2019 0:21:30 GMT
So I’m  if this is a MD thing or a ADHD thing BUT does anyone else just seem to be extremely forgetful because of being spaced out ??? I have lost my phone probably on some worst years 3 times in a year. I’m constantly losing things. I’ll just put it down and walk away because at some point I went into a DD and completely forget ; phones ,umbrellas, Vapes, bags, keys,wallets I mean the list goes on. I even sometimes miss my subway because I got lost in a daydream and when I look up my train had pulled up, stopped, let passengers on and off and pulled away before o notice it’s already gone ! I take the subway in the wrong directions because I have moments of confusion and forgetfulness because I get caught up in DD DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE? Examples? |
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Post by Dimmer on Mar 25, 2019 2:58:54 GMT
YES. So much yes. I am incredibly forgetful and absent minded. When you say that people think "quirky" and "spacey" and other fluffy things, but it's really not. My SO has a real fear that this somehow foreshadows Alzheimers. It's more than just annoying, it's dangerous and it costs money and, worse, trust.
I've been doing stuff to minimize it. Sleeping better, curbing my daydreaming, making an effort to focus, and endless endless notes.
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Post by tinyalien on Mar 25, 2019 5:01:17 GMT
YES. So much yes. I am incredibly forgetful and absent minded. When you say that people think "quirky" and "spacey" and other fluffy things, but it's really not. My SO has a real fear that this somehow foreshadows Alzheimers. It's more than just annoying, it's dangerous and it costs money and, worse, trust. I've been doing stuff to minimize it. Sleeping better, curbing my daydreaming, making an effort to focus, and endless endless notes. Ha! Even while people are talking to me I have to tell myself “pay attention” . I often have friends who always grab me when we are at a corner because they’re afraid I will start walking at the wrong time . I just forget and it can be dangerous for me! Walking while being so unaware . How can something so amazing also be such a pain in the ass. In college I had received an award from a club I was in as “Qurkiest Member” I was so confused I had never seen myself that way until then but then it kind of made sense <.< |
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Post by Dimmer on Mar 25, 2019 13:26:58 GMT
YES. So much yes. I am incredibly forgetful and absent minded. When you say that people think "quirky" and "spacey" and other fluffy things, but it's really not. My SO has a real fear that this somehow foreshadows Alzheimers. It's more than just annoying, it's dangerous and it costs money and, worse, trust. I've been doing stuff to minimize it. Sleeping better, curbing my daydreaming, making an effort to focus, and endless endless notes. Ha! Even while people are talking to me I have to tell myself “pay attention” . I often have friends who always grab me when we are at a corner because they’re afraid I will start walking at the wrong time . I just forget and it can be dangerous for me! Walking while being so unaware . How can something so amazing also be such a pain in the ass. I DD while I'm talking to people too! Story time! I call it The Pizza Incident: I was chillin' on the couch, Husband comes in and says "I'm gonna heat up some pizza, but I don't feel like using the pizza stone so I'm just going to microwave it, cool?" and I'm like "yep, sounds great" gave him and kiss and off he went. Two minutes later he hands me a plate of pizza, I take a look at it and say "ugh, you microwaved it?" He's like "WE LITERALLY JUST TALKED ABOUT THIS." Sparked a big fight about how I never listen. I'm notorious for leaving the oven on, for leaving stovetop burners on, leaving things to burn in the oven, things in the toaster (which I have actually BURNED DOWN A HOUSE doing). I've gotta triple check that I locked the doors. And I routinely forget appointments, and doctors and dentists only let it slide once or twice, after that you have to start paying them for your missed appointments. It took me three tries and fifty bucks before I remembered to bring my kid to the dentist. |
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Post by june on Mar 25, 2019 14:07:05 GMT
So I’m not sure if this is a MD thing or a ADHD thing BUT does anyone else just seem to be extremely forgetful because of being spaced out ??? I have lost my phone probably on some worst years 3 times in a year. I’m constantly losing things. I’ll just put it down and walk away because at some point I went into a DD and completely forget ; phones ,umbrellas, Vapes, bags, keys,wallets I mean the list goes on. I even sometimes miss my subway because I got lost in a daydream and when I look up my train had pulled up, stopped, let passengers on and off and pulled away before o notice it’s already gone ! I take the subway in the wrong directions because I have moments of confusion and forgetfulness because I get caught up in DD DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE? Examples? It happens to me. My family have complained so much about it, especially the kids. It used to be way worse though I have learned to deal with it better. Also I don't have ADHD. |
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Post by tinyalien on Mar 25, 2019 14:51:36 GMT
Ha! Even while people are talking to me I have to tell myself “pay attention” . I often have friends who always grab me when we are at a corner because they’re afraid I will start walking at the wrong time . I just forget and it can be dangerous for me! Walking while being so unaware . How can something so amazing also be such a pain in the ass. I DD while I'm talking to people too! Story time! I call it The Pizza Incident: I was chillin' on the couch, Husband comes in and says "I'm gonna heat up some pizza, but I don't feel like using the pizza stone so I'm just going to microwave it, cool?" and I'm like "yep, sounds great" gave him and kiss and off he went. Two minutes later he hands me a plate of pizza, I take a look at it and say "ugh, you microwaved it?" He's like "WE LITERALLY JUST TALKED ABOUT THIS." Sparked a big fight about how I never listen. I'm notorious for leaving the oven on, for leaving stovetop burners on, leaving things to burn in the oven, things in the toaster (which I have actually BURNED DOWN A HOUSE doing). I've gotta triple check that I locked the doors. And I routinely forget appointments, and doctors and dentists only let it slide once or twice, after that you have to start paying them for your missed appointments. It took me three tries and fifty bucks before I remembered to bring my kid to the dentist. Thanks for sharing! Does your husband know about your MD? Or anyone for that matter ? Also I saw your YouTube page and I LOVE IT! I actually can focus on it and barely started day dreaming from it ! When I did I just paused the video and continued after. I’m not much of a artist besides doodles but I’m a writer. |
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Post by alvi on Mar 25, 2019 15:26:55 GMT
YES. So much yes. I am incredibly forgetful and absent minded. When you say that people think "quirky" and "spacey" and other fluffy things, but it's really not. My SO has a real fear that this somehow foreshadows Alzheimers. It's more than just annoying, it's dangerous and it costs money and, worse, trust. I've been doing stuff to minimize it. Sleeping better, curbing my daydreaming, making an effort to focus, and endless endless notes. I'm exactly the same. I think I even posted on an old site regarding this (I'm going to try and find the post). I loose things, miss appointments even with a diary and text reminder services, step out into the road without looking, zone in and out during conversations, I can't sit and watch a tv show or film the whole way through and yup I've also left things on the stove and stated a fire. A small one but still a fire and it really bloody scared me. My smoke alarms go off a lot. Epilepsy and the meds I take also effect memory so its really stressful and I do worry about if I'm like this now what will I be like when I'm older? |
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Post by Dimmer on Mar 25, 2019 15:52:25 GMT
I DD while I'm talking to people too! Story time! I call it The Pizza Incident: I was chillin' on the couch, Husband comes in and says "I'm gonna heat up some pizza, but I don't feel like using the pizza stone so I'm just going to microwave it, cool?" and I'm like "yep, sounds great" gave him and kiss and off he went. Two minutes later he hands me a plate of pizza, I take a look at it and say "ugh, you microwaved it?" He's like "WE LITERALLY JUST TALKED ABOUT THIS." Sparked a big fight about how I never listen. I'm notorious for leaving the oven on, for leaving stovetop burners on, leaving things to burn in the oven, things in the toaster (which I have actually BURNED DOWN A HOUSE doing). I've gotta triple check that I locked the doors. And I routinely forget appointments, and doctors and dentists only let it slide once or twice, after that you have to start paying them for your missed appointments. It took me three tries and fifty bucks before I remembered to bring my kid to the dentist. Thanks for sharing! Does your husband know about your MD? Or anyone for that matter ? Also I saw your YouTube page and I LOVE IT! I actually can focus on it and barely started day dreaming from it ! When I did I just paused the video and continued after. I’m not much of a artist besides doodles but I’m a writer. He does, I told him... hm, about two years ago? After we had been together for nine years lol. He's been supportive and helps me to remember appointments and things by texting me reminders. I told a couple other people, friends, but I kind of wish I hadn't bothered. It's not that I had bad experiences with it it's just that... they didn't get it and I realised it wasn't important enough for me to sit down and make sure they got it. Would have been fine to just leave it alone. And thanks! All I can do is doodles too, lol, which is why the entire thing is still-frames of stick figures. MS Paint and free "Movie Maker" app, the hardest part is writing it. |
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Post by lonewolf009 on Mar 26, 2019 19:24:03 GMT
Yeah, all the time. I walk into rooms and be like "whaat am I doing here? " and it takes me a while to figure it out. I often have to talk myself through things so I don't lose track of what I'm trying to do, and sometimes this comes out in whispers and I'm hoping nobody hears.
I also leave things on the stove and forget. So many times.
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Post by mary123 on Mar 28, 2019 15:15:46 GMT
Yess! I'm always forgetting the things. But not like material things but informations. Like when someone tells me something about their life and maybe in the week after I'll have already forgotten. Like I know that grandfather of my friend were sick but I can't remember if he is dead or not. And I feel horrible about it. (That kind of stuff happens all the time)
I forget to paid the gym, or to bring my lunch to the university, I forget birthdays, I forget everything I've just learn in the class in the week after.
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Post by Layla Farrell on Mar 28, 2019 16:54:36 GMT
Undiagnosed Aspie here. It happened very often during my childhood and my pre-teen years, but it got better later and I became over-attentive when the real world pretends me.
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"Honestly, what are we doing here!? Racing or ping pong?!"
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Post by Adam on Mar 28, 2019 18:34:59 GMT
So, I typically don't lose things, but I often forget about things I need to do. Doesn't matter how important it is, its often a 50/50 shot if I even do it. I have to make sure I have reminders set if it's really that important,  . Oddly enough, sometimes, when I'm out of my dream world I'm somewhat hyperaware. I'll either notice weird things that others don't or I'll somehow always remember a very specific aspect of someone. |
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Post by lonewolf009 on Apr 7, 2019 9:58:26 GMT
So, I typically don't lose things, but I often forget about things I need to do. Doesn't matter how important it is, its often a 50/50 shot if I even do it. I have to make sure I have reminders set if it's really that important, . Oddly enough, sometimes, when I'm out of my dream world I'm somewhat hyperaware. I'll either notice weird things that others don't or I'll somehow always remember a very specific aspect of someone. That's interesting about the hyperawareness. I get that too. I found that unlike before, I can't meditate now without the meditation inducing a panic attack (because meditation is supposed to make you more aware of your surroundings) . It's like I'm aware all the time now so reverting into a dream world helps curb that. Yet at the same time we forget stuff? I have a hard time understanding myself, lolz. |
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Post by biancaj on Sept 15, 2019 22:16:18 GMT
So I’m if this is a MD thing or a ADHD thing BUT does anyone else just seem to be extremely forgetful because of being spaced out ??? I have lost my phone probably on some worst years 3 times in a year. I’m constantly losing things. I’ll just put it down and walk away because at some point I went into a DD and completely forget ; phones ,umbrellas, Vapes, bags, keys,wallets I mean the list goes on. I even sometimes miss my subway because I got lost in a daydream and when I look up my train had pulled up, stopped, let passengers on and off and pulled away before o notice it’s already gone ! I take the subway in the wrong directions because I have moments of confusion and forgetfulness because I get caught up in DD DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE? Examples? this happens to me every day of my life. Once I was in a wrong train, I got a fee because obviously I had the ticket for a wrong train, and ended up in a different city. I had to wait there almost all night long, in the station, till another train would take me home, after wasting lots on money for the hotel i had booked in the city I was meant to be... the thing is that when I force myself to be present, try not to do things wrong, try to have everything prepared in advance, I will end up doing something extremely weird, like going to the lecture in my slippers |
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Post by kondiao on Sept 17, 2019 5:01:19 GMT
So I’m if this is a MD thing or a ADHD thing BUT does anyone else just seem to be extremely forgetful because of being spaced out ??? I have lost my phone probably on some worst years 3 times in a year. I’m constantly losing things. I’ll just put it down and walk away because at some point I went into a DD and completely forget ; phones ,umbrellas, Vapes, bags, keys,wallets I mean the list goes on. I even sometimes miss my subway because I got lost in a daydream and when I look up my train had pulled up, stopped, let passengers on and off and pulled away before o notice it’s already gone ! I take the subway in the wrong directions because I have moments of confusion and forgetfulness because I get caught up in DD DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE? Examples? this happens to me every day of my life. Once I was in a wrong train, I got a fee because obviously I had the ticket for a wrong train, and ended up in a different city. I had to wait there almost all night long, in the station, till another train would take me home, after wasting lots on money for the hotel i had booked in the city I was meant to be... the thing is that when I force myself to be present, try not to do things wrong, try to have everything prepared in advance, I will end up doing something extremely weird, like going to the lecture in my slippers that I can say ADD is not involved in this forgetfulness but I am sure that MaDD is is a big part of it too. It is enough of a thing to cause me to be in the frakkn wrong place, on the wrong train, on the wrong day, without my keys, or without my ride..... I mean it is like you don't remember - don't take cognisance of what is happening in your space because you are out there in outer space - so/because the part of the brain that is supposed to note all the little things happening all the time and and bring these things up to conscious awareness when needed is not active. The people that I know who have it together, who remember things appropriately and generally have their keys with them and are wearing the right clothes - these people I believe are paying attention, being present with what is happening in the present. Whether it is lack of ADHD or lack of MADD, the fact is they are doing life right and and so their brains function properly -- something I can only dream about. The best I can do is to go through the anxiety and make lists and try go remember before I go out the door all the things I need and what to take with me and I know if I had been present the previous scene then I would automatically remember the things that I need to remember and life would work smoothly. Like being in harmony. So many reasons to not DD. |
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if this is a MD thing or a ADHD thing BUT does anyone else just seem to be extremely forgetful because of being spaced out ??? 
. Oddly enough, sometimes, when I'm out of my dream world I'm somewhat hyperaware. I'll either notice weird things that others don't or I'll somehow always remember a very specific aspect of someone.