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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2019 15:38:04 GMT
My goals for April:
- pay back all the debts - get out of the apathetic state I have been in
I guess that’s pretty much enough work :)
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Post by Sam on Apr 10, 2019 18:03:26 GMT
How are people getting on with their goals so far? I don't know how well I've been doing with sitting with the urge to daydream, but I do think that I've been doing better at keeping it under control. If I daydream for more than like 15-30 minutes a day, I just don't have time to do all of the other things that I need to do, and since I've had a lot of things on my to do list that are imperative that I get them done, its been a little bit easier for me to limit myself when it comes to daydreaming. I've been continuing to work on exposure therapy every day, and its exhausting, but I'm still doing it. I have almost all of the bottom ribbing done on the sweater/cardigan crochet thing that I was working on last month. I still have the side and sleeve ribbing left, but I put it on hold so that I could crochet that beanie for my friend, since I sort of need to have that done sooner rather than later. I finished the beanie yesterday, minus weaving in the ends, and I'm now working on a teeny tiny project, which is just a bow that can be put on the beanie. I'll post pictures once I'm done. (I know I'm really cutting it close because I still have to send it, but I don't think she'll mind if its a few days late.) I haven't had my grandma over to visit yet, but I'm hoping that I'll be able to maybe this weekend? It depends on how we're both doing. I'm exhausted and stressed out from exposure therapy and tapering one of my anxiety medications, and she, like me, has a hard time with lots of excitement, so she can't really come over on Sundays (she started going to church and that's a lot of social interaction in and of itself). But one of these days we'll figure something out. If nothing else, we'll probably have her come over for Easter.
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Post by Sam on Apr 10, 2019 18:06:17 GMT
Because you don't have the motivation or you just don't have time or ??? Mostly motivation, but maybe time too. I can make the time for it though. Have you tried breaking your goals down into smaller pieces? I know that sometimes when I set goals for myself, they're big goals that take a lot of work and time, and the enormity of the task before me can sometimes deter me from starting at all. Having smaller goals means that it takes less time to complete or achieve them, so you feel yourself making progress in a way that you might not see if you have this big, giant task that only has one endpoint.
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Post by Dimmer on Apr 10, 2019 20:03:05 GMT
I've got most everything under control this month, which is... unusual for me lol. I even got my library books back on time!
I've been using a set of white boards on my kitchen fridge, I've tried bullet journaling and apps but the whiteboard method seems to work best for me. I've got a monthly calendar one and a smaller blank one for miscellaneous notes and reminders.
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Post by alphabetsoup on Apr 13, 2019 3:39:19 GMT
How are people getting on with their goals so far? I wish my news was all positive, but an accountability thread is also meant to keep people honest. For most of the month, I relapsed and daydreamed for entire days. Meanwhile, school is getting harder, I need to study more than ever, and I've accumulated a lot of big assignments by daydreaming instead of doing them. The rational side of my brain knows that the instant gratification of daydreaming should not take priority over my work. But in these past 2 weeks, it has, many more times than I'd like to admit. In other news, I've resisted the temptation to contact that friend a few times and am playing the piano a bit more. I could be better about reading up on current events, though. But today was a good day. I did core and barely daydreamed. It reminded me how good exercise can feel when I stop making excuses and actually do it––exercise really is self-care. And to whoever's reading this, don't forget that if anything is worth your time, energy, and motivation, it's you!
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Post by Sam on Apr 13, 2019 17:53:29 GMT
How are people getting on with their goals so far? I wish my news was all positive, but an accountability thread is also meant to keep people honest. For most of the month, I relapsed and daydreamed for entire days. Meanwhile, school is getting harder, I need to study more than ever, and I've accumulated a lot of big assignments by daydreaming instead of doing them. The rational side of my brain knows that the instant gratification of daydreaming should not take priority over my work. But in these past 2 weeks, it has, many more times than I'd like to admit. In other news, I've resisted the temptation to contact that friend a few times and am playing the piano a bit more. I could be better about reading up on current events, though. But today was a good day. I did core and barely daydreamed. It reminded me how good exercise can feel when I stop making excuses and actually do it––exercise really is self-care. And to whoever's reading this, don't forget that if anything is worth your time, energy, and motivation, it's you! I appreciate your honesty. I've been having a hard time resisting the urge to daydream as well, likely due to stress. It takes a lot of time and effort to overwrite your brains desire for the instant gratification that comes from daydreaming. I've talked about it a few times before and I definitely think that it is a large part of the reason why its so hard to stop daydreaming maladaptively. After all, why bother putting time and effort into things in real life where you might only see the outcome after months or years when you can daydream and instantly be the person you wish to be? Remember to celebrate the little wins in your life, and don't be too hard on yourself if you slip back into old unhealthy habits and patterns.
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Post by Sam on Apr 23, 2019 16:53:31 GMT
Anyone else want to add new goals or update us on current ones? We have like a week left this month!
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Post by alvi on Apr 25, 2019 0:07:08 GMT
I've done ok on my goals so far this month. Not great but better than last month.
I wanted to declutter and have made pretty good progress on this so far. I've slowed down a bit so I think I need to really put some effort into that over the next few days. I've managed to go for a walk every other day and also done over the 30 minutes I planned each time. I did trigger a few pain flair ups but they've been manageable by taking rest days. I got prescribed some sleeping tablets and had made a little progress on fixing my sleep issues but that has also come to a bit of a standstill. I guess I also needed a bit of a reminder to stick to a routine.
So far I've done better in some areas than I did last month but really need to procrastinate less and motivate myself a lot more.
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Post by Sam on Apr 25, 2019 2:39:53 GMT
I've done ok on my goals so far this month. Not great but better than last month. I wanted to declutter and have made pretty good progress on this so far. I've slowed down a bit so I think I need to really put some effort into that over the next few days. I've managed to go for a walk every other day and also done over the 30 minutes I planned each time. I did trigger a few pain flair ups but they've been manageable by taking rest days. I got prescribed some sleeping tablets and had made a little progress on fixing my sleep issues but that has also come to a bit of a standstill. I guess I also needed a bit of a reminder to stick to a routine. So far I've done better in some areas than I did last month but really need to procrastinate less and motivate myself a lot more. Yay! Its good that you're making progress and totally understandable that you're having trouble with motivation. Decluttering can be a pain in the ass and also a ginormous task, so make sure that you're breaking it down into more manageable portions. That could help you keep yourself more motivated. Getting more exercise, but not pushing yourself past your limits is a huge achievement, so be sure to congratulate and even reward yourself from that. Fixing sleep issues is also a pain in the ass. Personally, I got myself onto a routine after paying attention to how crappy I feel when I don't get enough sleep. That gave me the motivation to do whatever I could to avoid the crappy feeling I get when I don't get enough sleep. Once you actually get into a routine, it usually becomes easier. Its starting the routine that's hard. I know that getting unsolicited advice is not always good, but have you made sure that you're following proper sleep hygiene? You know, developing a before bed routine, not eating sugar, caffeine, or heavy meals too close to bed, cutting down or eliminating blue light for at least an hour before bed... those kinds of things. They aren't guaranteed to fix any problems you might be having, but they might make it easier for you to deal with the problems you have with actually sleeping itself. We still have like a week left before the end of the month, so you still have some time to work on anything you might want to improve before the end of the month. But even if you don't get everything done that you wanted to, don't be too hard on yourself. You still tried and that is, in and of itself, worth celebrating.
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Post by Sam on May 1, 2019 17:06:12 GMT
I completely spaced on it yesterday since I was so busy, but does anyone have any final updates on their goals for the month of April?
As for me, I didn't do great on my goals for this month, but I suppose I didn't do too badly either.
I've been trying to work on sitting with the urge to daydream instead of acting on it. I did... okay... on this one. I'm still daydreaming more than I would like to be, but working on this in conjunction with my therapy for my anxiety (the goal of my anxiety therapy is essentially the same as my goal with daydreaming) has helped me make a little bit of progress. Additionally, I've found that if I keep myself very busy with things that I absolutely have to do, its easier for me to resist the urge to daydream. That's a bit of mixed bag though, as its hard for me to not burn myself out very quickly doing so much every single day.
I have continued to work on exposure therapy. Even though I did end up rescheduling the appointment I was supposed to have yesterday to partway through June, I've continued to make progress in exposure therapy. Last Monday I actually started driving around in a car, which is a big deal because I hadn't actually gotten into a car and driven around in over a year.
I didn't finish the crochet project that I had been working on. Truthfully, I've mostly abandoned it. It wasn't turning out the way that I'd hoped and I really wanted to work on other things.
However, I was able to crochet a bun beanie for my friend for her birthday. I haven't posted a picture here, but it did come out really nice. I made a bow to go with it and its really cute.
And finally, I got to spend some time with my grandma. When she came over for Easter dinner, I stayed downstairs and socialized almost the entire time--like 5 hours! My feet and legs were killing me by the end because I was standing most of the time (my only pair of jeans are too tight so its really uncomfortable to sit down) and I wasn't wearing supportive shoes, but it was still a huge win for me. I hope that I'll be able to have her come over to my house more often now.
I know that its technically May already, but feel free to update this thread with your final notes about your April goals. I'm going to go create the thread for May now, so don't post your goals for May here, look for the new thread.
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Post by alvi on May 5, 2019 10:56:59 GMT
I started really well last month then in the last week kind of gave up. Still new month new start!
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