mae1505
New Daydreamer
Probably a million miles away in a better place
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Post by mae1505 on May 19, 2019 9:06:38 GMT
Hey. I’m new on here, as you can probably tell, and I’m probably doing this wrong, but I don’t really know where else to go.
I think I have maladaptive daydreaming. I’ve done quizzes upon quizzes though I know that they aren’t scientific or reliable, I’ve read the PDF of what I think is the official scale, and they all apply to me/ indicate I have maladaptive daydreaming.
What do I do? I have an online friend, she has DID, totally different I know, but she was the one that explained to me about MaDD and gave me the best advice ever.
It was thanks to her I told my friends, and thanks to her I told my parents and asked them to get me tested.
My friends totally got it, as much as is possible. They understood me.
My parents didn’t.
They told me I was ‘overreacting’. That I had an ‘overreactive imagination’. That nothing had happened in my childhood to cause this.
I’m still a child. I’m still young. But in my younger years, I read thousands of books, I was a really advanced reader for my age. But the amount of books I read was the reason I found my childhood boring.
Because I wanted to be in those books. Be in some other world where I was more special than just an average girl.
I don’t know. I don’t know if I have maladaptive daydreaming. I don’t know how to get tested. I don’t know how to make my parents understand.
I just wanted to know I wasn’t alone
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Post by katie on May 19, 2019 15:04:31 GMT
Hi welcome to the forum. The symptoms of Maladaptive daydreaming are: extremely vivid daydreams daydreams triggered by real-life events difficulty completing everyday tasks difficulty sleeping at night an overwhelming desire to continue daydreaming performing repetitive movements while daydreaming making facial expressions while daydreaming whispering and talking while daydreaming daydreaming for lengthy periods (many minutes to hours) There is a website that you can go into and check as there is no where yet that you can get tested for it. daydreamresearch.wixsite.com/md-research/measures There are people with Madd that don't know what caused it so your not the only one hope this helps.
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Post by Sam on May 19, 2019 18:41:32 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
It sucks that your parents don't understand. There really doesn't have to be anything in your childhood to cause your daydreaming to get out of control. I was like you when I was younger--always reading, always wanting to be a badass character in the books that I read. That laid the foundation for maladaptive daydreaming that I then built on for years and years as my mental health got worse (I've had an anxiety disorder since I was like 8 that's gotten progressively worse as I got older) and it became easier for me to rely on the predictability of my dreams than on the unpredictability of real life.
Like Katie said, there is no test for maladaptive daydreaming. You can self diagnose based on symptoms, but its a relatively newly discovered condition, and because of that not many people, even healthcare professionals, know about it.
The forum's been pretty slow for a while, I know that I myself have been exceptionally busy so I haven't been on that frequently, but there's usually a few regulars, so know that you aren't alone. One of the features of maladaptive daydreaming is how isolating it is, so having a forum like this, where you can connect with other people who have had similar experiences, is amazing. I hope that you find the support that you're looking for here.
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Post by alvi on May 19, 2019 22:38:06 GMT
Welcome to the forum.
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Post by jiaoren on Jun 3, 2019 11:05:26 GMT
I know this is kinda a late reply, but anyway. It's interesting you mention you were a voracious reader. I was (and am!) also a huge bookworm. I notice a common thread within these posts: Many of the members happen to be readers with books as a trigger. Perhaps that's a reason that we've developed MD, because I can't think of a particularly traumatizing event that might've started this. Whenever I watch movies, read books, etc, I find my DD tends to revolve around the settings and general plot. For example, I was watching The Tudors, and right after, my DD was set in the Tudor era with me at the battlefront of England's fight against the French. My point is, obviously you're not alone. I don't know if it's something you can get tested for, as there's not much research behind it. Also, when I told my mom, she didn't believe me either, because "everyone has daydreams, it's not just a you thing."
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hanaiyah
New Daydreamer
Self-Acceptance is the way forward!
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Post by hanaiyah on Jun 3, 2019 14:34:44 GMT
welcome to forum Like you nothing bad happened in my childhood but I have had these symptoms since I was around 5/6 years of age.
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