tuffy
New Daydreamer
I haven’t been here because I’m actually trying not to daydream. I read about knowing your triggers.
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Post by tuffy on May 27, 2019 2:18:19 GMT
Hi I’m Tuffy. And I’ve been daydreaming since forever. More than 25yrs. I really want to stop and move on with life. I started therapy recently and I haven’t told my therapist about the day dreaming. I was wondering if anyone else had this problem?
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Post by Herro on May 27, 2019 12:36:50 GMT
Hi, Tuffy. Same here.
I've given my therapist some hint that I daydream a lot, but I haven't gone through details yet. I feel embarrassed by the idea of revealing the content of my daydreams to someone while being in their presence. Besides, I talk to real people, including my therapist, in my head a lot. This is something I feel mostly ashamed of revealing.
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Post by fellowmder on May 27, 2019 14:33:35 GMT
Hi, Tuffy. Same here. I've given my therapist some hint that I daydream a lot, but I haven't gone through details yet. I feel embarrassed by the idea of revealing the content of my daydreams to someone while being in their presence. Besides, I talk to real people, including my therapist, in my head a lot. This is something I feel mostly ashamed of revealing. Me too. I mean i have talked to a therapist i went 2 years ago for depression, talked to my real friend, real crush(old now). I guess everyone faces this one step. By the way i am still 17 and in no way i can ask my mom to take me to therapist for something she will state as non-existent. I ain't judging, i feel this condition itself is so not known amongst the ordinary |
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tuffy
New Daydreamer
I haven’t been here because I’m actually trying not to daydream. I read about knowing your triggers.
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Post by tuffy on May 27, 2019 17:08:07 GMT
I have told him that I have a retirement dream. But nothing else. I don’t know what to do. I know the difference between dreams and reality. But I started going to therapy because while my dreams change, my reality doesn’t. But the more I look into MADD, there isn’t much to go on in terms of help. A coping mechanism for my coping mechanism.
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Post by trex56 on May 27, 2019 17:14:45 GMT
Hi Tuffy! I've never really told anyone about my daydreaming... I think most therapists aren't going to be familiar with MDD, but you can absolutely connect your MDD with things your therapist is familiar with and know how to address. I don't know about your specific situation, but for a lot of us MDD is an unhealthy coping mechanism. For some MDDers it's an addiction. If you want to bring it up with your therapist, maybe frame it so they understand why it's an issue? If you just say 'I daydream a lot' I think most people are going to brush it off because daydreams in themselves aren't a problem. The real issue is how MDD impacts our lives. You could say something like 'So I've noticed that I escape in my fantasies a lot when there is something stressful and I end up avoiding the things I need to deal with' or 'I get lost in my daydreams all the time and that keeps me from getting things done/being present in social situations/etc'. Good luck and let us know how it goes if you end up telling your therapist  |
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Post by Sam on May 27, 2019 20:36:57 GMT
I think that there is a thread buried somewhere about telling your therapist. By katie maybe? I feel like she's talked about it before. I agree with what trex56 said. While there's a good chance that your therapist won't know what this condition is, you might find them more supportive or understanding depending on how you phrase it. A common response that people give when you talk about your daydreaming is that "everyone does that." By choosing a certain kind of wording when you first talk about it, you might be able to convince your therapist that its a problem that needs to be addressed and not something innocuous that you're blowing out of proportion. |
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Post by katie on May 27, 2019 22:10:19 GMT
I have told him that I have a retirement dream. But nothing else. I don’t know what to do. I know the difference between dreams and reality. But I started going to therapy because while my dreams change, my reality doesn’t. But the more I look into MADD, there isn’t much to go on in terms of help. A coping mechanism for my coping mechanism. Yeah I told my therapist she said it is a way people cope started asking me was it compulsive and I explained that I pace and all that goes with MD. She is very understandable and asks me how I am getting on with my daydreaming each time I go now. If you write down what you want to say to you therapist about MD that way you won't get stuck on what you want to say and try and explain it you never know he might be open minded about things and work with you to help you. CBT is the way to go to help MDD. I have my CBT for my issues working on my goals, getting exercise for my body and mind, and make sure I spend time with people I enjoy been around with. Plus working on the addiction side of MDD and it has slowed down a good but do feel the need to daydream but they don't appeal to me anymore and are not really vivid. Make little goals in your life and work up to something that within your reach and it will start getting better slowly. I only found out about MDD last year and I have been working on easing it ever since. Hope this helps you any questions along the way you can message me here. |
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Post by Dimmer on May 28, 2019 12:59:38 GMT
Welcome to the forum! I've been thinking about therapy but haven't pulled the trigger on it. I guess it'd be different since the reason I'd be going is MD and not mentioning it would be like 'why bother at all'.
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Post by alvi on May 28, 2019 14:54:55 GMT
I've told a previous therapist about my daydreaming but I didn't call it MD as its not a recognised medical condition. I simply said I daydream excessively and couldn't stop and explained the negative impact it is having on my life. I think this issues is often played down as the word daydreaming makes it sounds quite whimsical and fun so it is important to really get across how it is making you feel and what problems it is causing you.
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tuffy
New Daydreamer
I haven’t been here because I’m actually trying not to daydream. I read about knowing your triggers.
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Post by tuffy on Jun 19, 2019 22:19:51 GMT
Hi Tuffy! I've never really told anyone about my daydreaming... I think most therapists aren't going to be familiar with MDD, but you can absolutely connect your MDD with things your therapist is familiar with and know how to address. I don't know about your specific situation, but for a lot of us MDD is an unhealthy coping mechanism. For some MDDers it's an addiction. If you want to bring it up with your therapist, maybe frame it so they understand why it's an issue? If you just say 'I daydream a lot' I think most people are going to brush it off because daydreams in themselves aren't a problem. The real issue is how MDD impacts our lives. You could say something like 'So I've noticed that I escape in my fantasies a lot when there is something stressful and I end up avoiding the things I need to deal with' or 'I get lost in my daydreams all the time and that keeps me from getting things done/being present in social situations/etc'. Good luck and let us know how it goes if you end up telling your therapist |
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tuffy
New Daydreamer
I haven’t been here because I’m actually trying not to daydream. I read about knowing your triggers.
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Post by tuffy on Jun 19, 2019 22:25:12 GMT
I’m still learning how to navigate this chat board, so excuse me. I was too scared to tell him full on how much I daydream. I told I fantasize to escape how unsatisfied I am with my life. He actually asked what do I need to make my fantasies a reality? That’s a great question. My daydreams aren’t really unattainable now that I examine them. I’ve been reading a book on how to distract myself from daydreaming.
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yasmine
Active Daydreamer
i see mdd as a gift but i want to reduce it cause it starts looking like a curse
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Post by yasmine on Jun 30, 2019 21:27:18 GMT
Hi, Tuffy. Same here. I've given my therapist some hint that I daydream a lot, but I haven't gone through details yet. I feel embarrassed by the idea of revealing the content of my daydreams to someone while being in their presence. Besides, I talk to real people, including my therapist, in my head a lot. This is something I feel mostly ashamed of revealing. Me too. I mean i have talked to a therapist i went 2 years ago for depression, talked to my real friend, real crush(old now). I guess everyone faces this one step. By the way i am still 17 and in no way i can ask my mom to take me to therapist for something she will state as non-existent. I ain't judging, i feel this condition itself is so not known amongst the ordinary omg yess girl i have like hinted at here that i daydream to much and my sis who i tell stories everynight backs me up but she kinda sees it as jokes and talks with us for a while and than just walks away. if i joked about depression i would sit at a therapist in no time so i think she just doesnt know of mdd |
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Post by fellowmder on Jul 7, 2019 22:11:36 GMT
Me too. I mean i have talked to a therapist i went 2 years ago for depression, talked to my real friend, real crush(old now). I guess everyone faces this one step. By the way i am still 17 and in no way i can ask my mom to take me to therapist for something she will state as non-existent. I ain't judging, i feel this condition itself is so not known amongst the ordinary omg yess girl i have like hinted at here that i daydream to much and my sis who i tell stories everynight backs me up but she kinda sees it as jokes and talks with us for a while and than just walks away. if i joked about depression i would sit at a therapist in no time so i think she just doesnt know of mdd totally. I were a high school-er back then. Because of all that daydreaming about future i was totally unsure of my dreams and goals unlike other friends of mine. This was a bit depressing and i went to a therapist. i couldn't say anything back then for two hours because 1. i hardly knew about madd back then and 2. my mom was sitting right next to me. |
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yasmine
Active Daydreamer
i see mdd as a gift but i want to reduce it cause it starts looking like a curse
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Post by yasmine on Jul 12, 2019 9:53:43 GMT
omg yess girl i have like hinted at here that i daydream to much and my sis who i tell stories everynight backs me up but she kinda sees it as jokes and talks with us for a while and than just walks away. if i joked about depression i would sit at a therapist in no time so i think she just doesnt know of mdd totally. I were a high school-er back then. Because of all that daydreaming about future i was totally unsure of my dreams and goals unlike other friends of mine. This was a bit depressing and i went to a therapist. i couldn't say anything back then for two hours because 1. i hardly knew about madd back then and 2. my mom was sitting right next to me. ughh yikes. my terapist asked me if my mom was welkom but i just said no. the thing is i was there for dysthymia (depression) and i hardly knew about md as well. i figured it out a month later but i never told him cause i was afraid it would interrupt my sessions about dysthymia (depression) and that he would think this two were linked. i think both the depression and the md came because of the same reason yet i dont see a pattern or a link between them. but members of this forum encouredged me to talk with him about it anyway, to find a way to open up about it to my parents cause i really need their emotional support |
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tuffy
New Daydreamer
I haven’t been here because I’m actually trying not to daydream. I read about knowing your triggers.
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Post by tuffy on Aug 28, 2019 23:15:09 GMT
I still haven’t fully confessed to my therapist. I’m trying hard not to quit therapy all together. I’ve only been in therapy for a few months. I don’t feel any better about the things that I avoid. I guess I was looking more for solutions and I’m not getting any besides ‘Get a better job’
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