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Post by disereez on Jun 1, 2019 3:45:30 GMT
Ive been doing this since as long as I can remember.. even as a small child. I'm 36 now. I avoid life. I avoid people. Even if I do get out I day dream while I'm out and can't wait to get home to lose myself completely to it. I go on walks or pace and listen to music while doing it. I laugh and talk to myself.. even at work. I'm a recovering addict and it seems to have gotten worse since getting clean. I want s real life
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Post by trex56 on Jun 1, 2019 13:54:57 GMT
Hello & welcome to the forum! The best place to find resources and tips is the MD help and research section! We talk about stuff that worked for us in this thread: daydreaminblue.freeforums.net/thread/98/tips-strategies-ideas-keep-controlI don't think I've ever seen any research on recovery and MDD. I know a lot of us use daydreams to cope with things and it would make sense that you need this coping mechanism while you go through recovery. I think the best thing to do is take small steps and look for daily habits you can adopt to kind of anchor yourself and manage the daydreaming as much as possible while doing small things to build a better life so you don't have to daydream to find satisfaction.
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Post by alvi on Jun 1, 2019 17:23:48 GMT
I think the best thing to do is take small steps and look for daily habits you can adopt to kind of anchor yourself and manage the daydreaming as much as possible while doing small things to build a better life so you don't have to daydream to find satisfaction. Welcome to the forum. Well done in recovering from your previous addictions. I can only really echo what trex56 said as I think its great advice. focus on finding daily habits you can implement into your day to day life and avoid things that may trigger your dd. I feel that MD is really only something that can be controlled rather than cured so its about trying to keep it under control so that it doesn't take over your real life.
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Post by Sam on Jun 1, 2019 17:28:28 GMT
Welcome to the forum! trex56 makes some good points and you should definitely check out that link--there are a lot of good tips in that thread. Daydreaming maladaptively is an addictive behavior as well, and when you're going through recovery for addictive behaviors, its very easy to replace one addictive behavior with another. Setting small goals for yourself would be a good way to take your life back. I'm going to create the goals/accountability thread for June in a minute, so if you like, you can post your goals there and receive some encouragement from other people on the forum. Taking control of your life back from daydreaming is very difficult. I know that from personal experience. Perhaps some of the small goals you could set yourself would be things like take 10 seconds during your daydream walks to be present in the moment or setting a timer for 5 minutes when you feel the urge to daydream and saying to yourself that once the 5 minutes is over then you can daydream. Many small things add up to big things.
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yasmine
Active Daydreamer
i see mdd as a gift but i want to reduce it cause it starts looking like a curse
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Post by yasmine on Jun 2, 2019 17:42:46 GMT
Ive been doing this since as long as I can remember.. even as a small child. I'm 36 now. I avoid life. I avoid people. Even if I do get out I day dream while I'm out and can't wait to get home to lose myself completely to it. I go on walks or pace and listen to music while doing it. I laugh and talk to myself.. even at work. I'm a recovering addict and it seems to have gotten worse since getting clean. I want s real life WELKOM TO THE FORUM its to hear md has caused you sufferening and i am more than happy to try and help you out. the first thing you need to recognise is that md is an addiction, you are addicted to daydreaming. its not that daydreaming wants you but you want to daydream this is a very important thing to keep in mind if you want to reduce the daydreaming. when you daydream your brain makes more dopamine. as you said you were addicted to something else too so back then both addictions stimulated your brain to make dopamine, and now that you are only addicted to one it needs to make up for the dopamine that the other addiction caused you to. but like you got clean from the previous addiction you can reduce this to (this is my strategie to stop daydreaming unhealthy amounts of time). first step is what i mentioned in the beginning so recognise its an addiction second step is recognizing you dont need a save space anymore and that its oke to face reality (this one can be difficult if your md was from an trauma but less difficult if it wasnt) then comes something that not many want to do but you need to make your daydream world less fun, kill off characters, sabotage your own mind. than try and reduce it, by now its easier for your mind to do so but you still need to take babysteps and change the source of the dopamine slowly by doing other stuff that are fun. and if this all doesnt help you than there is plan b. learn to be usefull while daydreaming. thats what i do now cause i cant face reality sadly enough. i just cant pass that step.please do this slowly, stopping with an addiction to fast may cause you to fall in another addiction to replace it. and ohww yeah one thing you need to know daydreaming isnt your enemy its your addiction to it that is so daydreaming a few times a weak isnt bad sam from this forum said something helpful too its in the thread under this one called "i want to stop daydreaming"or something along those lines.
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Post by julie on Jun 2, 2019 21:53:56 GMT
Hi Disereez,
I'm a recovering addict as well, and I believe MD is definetly the lesser evil. It's more manageable, healthy and can really save you from the drugs. I'm clean 3 years now, and I would not go back. Just something to keep in mind. Good luck.
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Post by Dimmer on Jun 2, 2019 23:09:58 GMT
Welcome!
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