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Post by songbirdjo on Jun 8, 2019 3:01:15 GMT
I hope I can get some feedback on this post because it would be nice to hear what some of you think. I am new to the forum (just signed up) and I’v only just began some research on MD after discovering that it was even a thing. At first glance it totally sounds like me but after digging a little deeper I’m . It sounds like it affects people differently so maybe there’s some people who have a similar experience to me? I’v always just thought of myself as having an overactive imagination, even as a little kid I just playing make believe. I didn’t use toys as much as just pretending. I’m older now so it kind of bugs me how much I “play make believe” or fantasize or daydream or whatever you would call it. At times I’ll be fantasizing all day without really taking a break. I guess what I’m wondering is how vivid is the daydreaming for those who have MD? What are they like? Is it almost hallucinating (except you know it’s not real) or is just kind of like imagining? Can you control when the dreams start or stop? Can you control all the components of the dream? Do you see your actual surroundings or do you see your dream world when daydreaming? Sorry about all the questions, I just really want to get a good understanding so I can asses whether or not it really applies to me. In my “episodes” I guess, I’m always the main character, they can be about movies or TV shows I’v watched, stories I’v written, or inspired my music/musicians, posts I’v seen, etc. I always have control and sometimes even go back to change parts of the storyline that I didn’t like. I can control when they start and stop but sometimes I can’t help but have the story just kind of playing in the back of mind as I’m going about my daily activities. If I’m interacting with other people my fantasies stop, basically I can come back to real life whenever I want. But the urge to fantasize (I say fantasize because I don’t know if they really qualify as daydreams) is there a lot. Sometimes it’s constant and sometimes it’ll go away for a few days or so. When I’m actually in a fantasy I am completely aware of everything around me, but I do act out what’s going on the scene. I’m basically just imagining the things around me, I can’t really see them but I can picture it if that makes sense. They are really distracting and take my mind of off the things I am doing and are basically just really annoying and sometimes maddening because I just want to be in real life without living a fake one at the same time. I also deal with depression and anxiety, but I wouldn’t say I use the fantasies as an escape necessarily. Maybe, but I’v never really thought about it and a lot of my characters have similar or worse problems than me so idk. This is really long, sorry guys, and thanks if you’v read the whole thing. So what does it sound like to you? Is it just my overactive imagination or could be something like MD?
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Post by Sam on Jun 8, 2019 3:30:17 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
Generally what differentiates regular, healthy daydreaming from maladaptive daydreaming is how negatively it impacts your life, not how vivid it is or whatever. People who daydream normally can have vivid and intense daydreams as well. The difference is that it doesn't really impact their lives as much. They don't lose time to daydreaming on a regular basis, they don't prefer daydreaming over real life, they don't become as emotionally attached to the characters and situations in their daydreams.
I was unsure if I really had it when I first found out about MD too. It took me a year to realize how negatively my daydreaming was impacting my life. How much time I lost to daydreaming, how I'd replaced everything in my real life with daydreams because things are easier when you control everything that happens.
Based on what you wrote, I would guess that you do daydream maladaptively. But you're really the only person who can know for sure. Just take some time to examine exactly how your daydreaming influences and impacts your life. You might find that its healthy, or maybe leaning toward being maladaptive but not quite to the point of what some others experience. Or your might find that it really is maladaptive. If so, I hope that being on this forum will help you deal with it as best as you can.
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Post by songbirdjo on Jun 8, 2019 16:33:05 GMT
Welcome to the forum! Generally what differentiates regular, healthy daydreaming from maladaptive daydreaming is how negatively it impacts your life, not how vivid it is or whatever. People who daydream normally can have vivid and intense daydreams as well. The difference is that it doesn't really impact their lives as much. They don't lose time to daydreaming on a regular basis, they don't prefer daydreaming over real life, they don't become as emotionally attached to the characters and situations in their daydreams. I was unsure if I really had it when I first found out about MD too. It took me a year to realize how negatively my daydreaming was impacting my life. How much time I lost to daydreaming, how I'd replaced everything in my real life with daydreams because things are easier when you control everything that happens. Based on what you wrote, I would guess that you do daydream maladaptively. But you're really the only person who can know for sure. Just take some time to examine exactly how your daydreaming influences and impacts your life. You might find that its healthy, or maybe leaning toward being maladaptive but not quite to the point of what some others experience. Or your might find that it really is maladaptive. If so, I hope that being on this forum will help you deal with it as best as you can. Thank you Sam, that makes sense. I’ll start being more aware of how often/what affect my daydreaming has on my life. I’ll definitely stick around the forum and do some more learning about MD!
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Post by sarah on Jun 8, 2019 20:46:47 GMT
About how people with MD see what their daydreaming. I don't think people with MD literally see what their daydreaming like I would literally see a real person if I meet a real person. It's more imaginary like seeing with the mind.
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Post by trex56 on Jun 9, 2019 11:39:05 GMT
There is no official MDD diagnosis but I think what you are describing if what all of us experience There is a research paper that was written to define MDD in 'official' medical terms: www.somer.co.il/images/docs/2017_SCIMD.pdfIf you skip to the 5th page there is a table that sums up the criteria that could be used to diagnose the condition.
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