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Post by drakey on Jun 10, 2019 2:24:26 GMT
My name is Drakey. I've had maladaptive daydreaming for twenty to twenty-five years. I haven't had the best relationship with it, and about two and a half years ago, I stopped actively using it.
Since then, I have experienced a lot of trouble with finding a coping mechanism for stress, and I've reached a roadblock in my own personal growth that I think can only be passed by picking up daydreaming as a coping skill again.
Specifically, I have found myself dissociating without being in the specific state that MD created. This uncontrolled dissociation prevents me from progressing in my thoughts while leaving me unaware of how much time has passed. I believe that I need to learn to access daydreaming again so that I can use it consciously and appropriately, but I am afraid that I have, for lack of a better word, killed it in myself. I don't know what to do next, and I am wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.
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Post by Sam on Jun 10, 2019 2:49:56 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
I haven't personally experienced this and I honestly can't think of anyone currently on the forum who has (though I could have forgotten). But you could perhaps still gain some benefit from talking to people here. The goal for a lot of people here is to create a healthier relationship with daydreaming, and it seems like that's your goal as well, though albeit in the opposite direction as most of the rest of us.
Can you still visualize things? Like things that you want to happen or imaginary conversations, normal daydreaming things like that?
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Post by trex56 on Jun 10, 2019 13:14:06 GMT
Hello Drakey and welcome to the forum!
I would love to hear more about how you 'killed' your MDD! Is it just something that happened, or did you use a strategy to stop? Did you completely stop daydreaming?
As for daydreaming again...have you ever tried meditation? There are guided exercises where you have to visualize things. It's different from daydreaming but focusing on imagining and visualizing things could be a first step.
Another idea that comes to mind is exploring your old daydream triggers. Books, shows, and other media that used to influence your daydreams, or the music you used to listen to.
I'd be careful though...the last thing you want is go back to your old unhealthy habits. Are there maybe other things you could do to deal with stress?
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Post by alvi on Jun 10, 2019 15:26:45 GMT
Hello, Welcome to the forum.
I'm also wondering how you managed to stop daydreaming as I desperately need to cut down on this.
Have you ever been able to talk to a therapist about your disassociating and stress?
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Post by Dimmer on Jun 10, 2019 17:39:27 GMT
Welcome! Similar things have been happening to me as I have been working on curbing my MD. I still daydream quite a bit so I'm afraid I don't have any advise, just wanted to weigh in with how relatable this is.
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Post by tinyalien on Jun 13, 2019 15:20:01 GMT
Hi
I also would like to know how you stopped the ability to do it ??
It’s weird because a lot of us want to get rid of it although we enjoy it so much and bc I do use it to cope with stress when I don’t get the chance to daydream I become agitated and uncomfortable kind of like what people with drug withdrawals experience minus the physical sweating and sickness but definitely get the mental withdrawal symptoms that effects my mood. I’m just curious of the negative reactions as well as positive of losing the ability to do it
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