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Post by emily on Jun 28, 2019 15:50:50 GMT
Hello fellow Maladaptive Daydreamers I am grappling with a question at the moment and would love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this. From what I can gather, from reading people's accounts of MD (and from my own experience), many MD'ers seem to have created an ideal version of themselves in their fantasy world. Over time this 'imagined self' lives an extensive and detailed life in the fantasy world, very similar to how a real person would live their life in the real world, with close relationships, the usual everyday scenarios, careers, achievements ect. Regardless of how similar this imagined self is to your real self, it appears nevertheless to be a separate entity. And because so much time is spent in the fantasy world, 'living out' the experiences of this imagined self, it seems reasonable to assume that over time your sense of self and personal identity would be somehow affected. Do you agree? Do you feel that your fantasy world has affected your sense of self? And how do you think your sense of self would be affected if you stopped daydreaming? Looking forward to replies!
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Post by cameronthadreamer98 on Dec 13, 2019 13:33:20 GMT
Yes I do! I have this idea of who I am in my head. I’m successful living my dream, I’m in a relationship, and just living normally. That’s not who I am in real life and I found it hard to try because I was so obsessed with the person I am in my head, if I wasn’t anything like her it would make me upset. It’s still that way to this day. I’m so unsatisfied with this person I am now because I’m not like who I am in my daydreams. I know exactly what you mean.
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Post by Sam on Dec 15, 2019 1:34:32 GMT
I do not have time to write much, but I just realized that I never replied to this, even though its definitely a thing that I deal with, and I think I've actually written about it before.
Basically, I have no real sense of self. I'm separate enough from my daydream self that they haven't melded together. But because I've been isolated from other people for so long (and during my teen years, when the sense of self develops), and because I've spent most of that time daydreaming about an idealized self, I literally have close to no sense of self (and used to have even less).
And that's something that's really scary and something that I've been trying to work on for a few years now. It would probably go faster and better if I could stop daydreaming about my idealized self. I spent so much time developing a sense of self for daydream me, that I never developed a sense of self for real life me.
Its interesting because interacting with people here on the forum has been one of the main things that has helped me have more of a sense of self.
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