Post by everydayisadream on Jul 7, 2019 2:31:28 GMT
Hi, I'm 26 years old and am from the UK.
I have only just discovered this website, and Maladaptive Daydreaming itself. I finally got a bit curious and frustrated, and googled 'pacing all the time, talking through scenarios' and bingo.
Having read a few introductory posts, I feel like my story is fairly similar to most people's here. I have 'daydreamed' for almost as long as I can remember, I think initially it was a way to escape a difficult reality, but as time has gone on, its more of a crutch.
I spend a fair chunk of my day dreaming, when I walk to and from work, when I go shopping, when I'm on a break, when my partner is sleeping and I'm still awake, the list goes on. The frequency varies, and sometimes I can go most of the day without daydreaming, but other days its all I can think about. It's made me late for things, I've sacked things off to do it, and its how I spend most of my alone time.
The real struggle for me I think, is that most of the time I don't want to stop. I know that at times it runs a serious risk of interfering with my day to day activities, and I can usually stop to get on with things when I need to, but I don't actually want to. I want to want to stop, but I don't.
I like being a better version of me, I like the gratification I get from achieving the dreams of my daydream self. I like how easy and un-complicated the other me is. The other me can be whatever she likes, she is universally loved, is rich and accomplished, is the heroine of every fairy-tale, and she is so much more fun to live as, than my real self.
I have tried to go cold turkey a few times, to no avail. I always fall back into it, and then I stop trying. I know the best way to stay away is to be busy, I find that I do it so much less when I am away on holiday, out all day, in company all day, though even then, I tend to do it when I'm walking about, and before I sleep.
Anyway, I'll stop rambling! Its nice to know that I am not alone, and that perhaps I am not quite so strange as I feared.
Hopefully one day real me will get the best of dream me.
I have only just discovered this website, and Maladaptive Daydreaming itself. I finally got a bit curious and frustrated, and googled 'pacing all the time, talking through scenarios' and bingo.
Having read a few introductory posts, I feel like my story is fairly similar to most people's here. I have 'daydreamed' for almost as long as I can remember, I think initially it was a way to escape a difficult reality, but as time has gone on, its more of a crutch.
I spend a fair chunk of my day dreaming, when I walk to and from work, when I go shopping, when I'm on a break, when my partner is sleeping and I'm still awake, the list goes on. The frequency varies, and sometimes I can go most of the day without daydreaming, but other days its all I can think about. It's made me late for things, I've sacked things off to do it, and its how I spend most of my alone time.
The real struggle for me I think, is that most of the time I don't want to stop. I know that at times it runs a serious risk of interfering with my day to day activities, and I can usually stop to get on with things when I need to, but I don't actually want to. I want to want to stop, but I don't.
I like being a better version of me, I like the gratification I get from achieving the dreams of my daydream self. I like how easy and un-complicated the other me is. The other me can be whatever she likes, she is universally loved, is rich and accomplished, is the heroine of every fairy-tale, and she is so much more fun to live as, than my real self.
I have tried to go cold turkey a few times, to no avail. I always fall back into it, and then I stop trying. I know the best way to stay away is to be busy, I find that I do it so much less when I am away on holiday, out all day, in company all day, though even then, I tend to do it when I'm walking about, and before I sleep.
Anyway, I'll stop rambling! Its nice to know that I am not alone, and that perhaps I am not quite so strange as I feared.
Hopefully one day real me will get the best of dream me. 
