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Post by alicesea on Aug 3, 2019 11:30:46 GMT
I’ve been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It used to be “innocent” where I would play with dolls and other toys. Then I got imaginary friends and not long after that did I have an alternate (imaginary) life. It would different kinds of daydreams. When I turned 13 it got worse because I didn’t have a lot of friends and I felt lonely. I would get home and talk to my imaginary friends. Of course, I didn’t tell anyone about this, it was too embarrassing. When I turned 14 I got anxiety (not because of my daydreams but because of my parents’ divorce) and I started self harming. During this time of my life, I felt very lonely and I would daydream a lot. When I turned 15 I got bullied and my self harming got much worse. So did my daydreaming. Now I can’t live without it. My daydreams are usually about my life but when I’m older and don’t go to school anymore. I don’t like school and I often feel that my life will start when I’m done with high school. I’ve got many different versions of my future but two main daydreams that I turn to the most. My daydreams also get in the way of doing normal things. I don’t listen in school, I find it hard to study, watch a movie or read a book without my thoughts interrupting me. Anytime that I can daydream, I will. Like when I do the dishes, shower, try to fall asleep or cycle home from school. I’ve got a psychologist but I haven’t told her about my daydreaming. I don’t want to because I’m embarrassed by it, but do you reckon I should? I’m if I’ve got MD and I don’t want to self diagnose. The reason I turned to this website is because I just wanted to talk to other daydreamers.
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Marcydel
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Post by Marcydel on Aug 3, 2019 16:44:29 GMT
Hello. I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. Most MDers are self-identified because they didn’t really have a choice since people outside our world, including professionals, seldom understand it. If you feel like something’s wrong and your fantasizing is out of control, then I guess that’s your call. When I was in therapy, I told my therapist from the beginning about my MD and I explained the overwhelming cravings, self-esteem-boosting tendencies, and difficulty focusing, and she listened pretty well. It was uncomfortable and embarrassing, but we communicate a lot better because of it. You do you, since I’m not really qualified to be telling people what they ought to do on here , I just share my experience. I hope everything gets better for you. Remember you’re not alone, we’re all here for the same reason
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Post by bee on Aug 7, 2019 18:05:16 GMT
Hey, alicesea.
Like Marcydel said, “you do you” and I am also not qualified in any way to tell anyone what to do.
But I will give you my opinion:
Do it. Talk with your psychologist about it. Why? Because at the moment you can easily do it. You are at school and you are already in treatment/therapy/contact with her.
Let me dream-up to possible futures to explain (we are daydreamers after all, aren’t we ?:-)
#1 You are… 26, whatever. Everything goes fine, you have learned to handle your daydreaming without help. Suddenly your daydreaming gets worse. You decide to seek help. Thoughts: Oh, I don't have time, I have to work/look after the kids/finish my book/xy. Does my healthcare-policy cover the help I want? Where can I find a suitable therapist? 6-month-waiting list??!!...
#2 Still 26, still everything fine. DD gets worse. Thoughts: Oh, shit. I had this before. Thankfully I learned something from my psychologist last time I had this. It may not help this time but if I seek help I already know what doesn’t help any more and I can find new ways of dealing with it. Or maybe I can get support from my partner/friends/xy, because I know I can talk to people about it, I’ve done it before…
Mundane reasons, yeah. But in my experience stuff like this can make a huge difference later on. It may not help to talk to your psychologist, but Marcydel wrote about how it helped in her therapy, give it a try.
Just my opinion, discard at your leisure. :-)
Take care!
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