lou
New Daydreamer
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Post by lou on Aug 26, 2019 8:03:08 GMT
Hello all I have just discovered the term Maladaptive dreaming yesterday for the first time, and I have little doubt that I suffer from it and have been for a very long time. As a teenager I already tried to curb it and repress it, because I was ashamed of the content of my dreams. It feels very nice to see that it's actually "a thing" and I'm not the only one out there. I suffer from a range of other things, including general anxiety disorder, social anxiety, PTSD. But I don't have the feeling that my MD gets more severe when my anxiety is the most severe... I feel that it also gets triggered by simply feeling happy. Overall I tend to destroy "real feelings" whether positive or negative by escaping in an imaginary world that leaves me detached and confused in the real world, giving me further incentives to escape, etc... I think the core of all my mental issues is my compulsion to avoid strong emotions by "dissociating" - and yet I seek them so much in my imaginary world. It's very confusing. Now that I have discovered about MD I will pay more attention to what triggers it. I'm hoping that through this forum I could get some external perspective on my daydreams and what could be my motivations for them? Some of them bother me tremendously, and it's hard not hating myself for dreaming them. It's already a really long post! All this is very fresh and I'm just this through! Thank you for reading this :-) Would you guys share with me what's been one helpful thing for you to improve on MD? (From an insight gained through therapy or writing about the dreams, or an online resource, etc.)
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Post by Sam on Aug 26, 2019 17:30:54 GMT
Welcome to the forum! I actually have a thread about a similar emotion thing that I've been adding to over the past 8 months. You can find it here. Even though you're avoiding strong emotions in real life, you might be seeking them out in your daydreams because it feels like its a safe way to express them. Personally, I feel more capable of things in my daydreams, so I feel more capable of dealing with my strong emotions there than I do in real life. Additionally, since you control everything in your daydreams, you don't have to worry about hurting others or getting a reaction that you didn't want from them. Take being happy for example. If you're really happy in real life, you might resist experiencing that strong emotion fully because you're afraid that someone will burst your happy bubble with a hurtful comment. But if you shift that happy feeling to your daydreams, you control what you do and feel like AND you control how everyone else reacts to it. There are many tips and tricks for dealing with MD, but one of the main ones that I've seen over and over and have had some benefit from personally is mindfulness. Teaching yourself to come back to the present moment over and over can help you resist the urge to daydream and to come back if you've fallen into one.
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Post by bee on Aug 26, 2019 17:34:34 GMT
Hey lou,
welcome, nice to meet you!
There is a lot of good advice around, "Help and Research" might be a good starting point.
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Post by alvi on Aug 27, 2019 11:13:49 GMT
Hi Lou Welcome to the forum
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Post by Dimmer on Aug 27, 2019 17:28:15 GMT
Welcome to the forum! Lots of things can be triggers for MD, maybe the happy thing is because "ive got a happy feeling, lets keep that going by making more of it, what makes more of it? oh yeah, daydreaming, imma do that"
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