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Post by tshark73 on Aug 31, 2019 22:31:14 GMT
I was wondering if anyone else struggles with feelings of guilt in relation to spiritual life. I have been daydreaming since I was 5 or 6 years old. I thought I would outgrow it but it's my coping mechanism and I struggle with accepting the comfort it offers me. I am Christian and feel like I shouldn't need it and I'm sinning by doing it....but I can't seem to stop. I could accept it if I see it as a mental health issue but I feel like that's just me trying to justify doing something I feel is wrong. Am I making any sense??
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Post by Sam on Aug 31, 2019 22:54:23 GMT
I'm not religious, so I can't really speak to the spiritual aspect of what you're talking about.
But using daydreaming as a coping mechanism isn't inherently wrong. Everyone needs coping mechanisms. Some people choose healthy ones, others choose unhealthy ones. For us, daydreaming was a healthy coping mechanism (most people daydream at least occasionally as a way of coping) that grew out of control and became unhealthy.
In my opinion, MD is a mental health issue. A lot of us daydream because of mental health issues and others have mental health issues because of their daydreaming.
Daydreaming itself isn't wrong. Pretty much every single human being on the planet daydreams, including other adults. People with MDD are just more emotionally invested in and attached to their daydreams than others. But even those who daydream maladaptively aren't "wrong" or "bad." Generally, there is a reason behind your daydreaming. If you address this reason, you might find it easier to reestablish a balanced between your daydreams and your real life.
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Post by alvi on Sept 1, 2019 0:28:00 GMT
Welcome to the forum.
I'm also not religious so I doubt I can give much advice or comfort but I guess if I were to try and see it from a Christian point of view then it would be something like according to Christianity, God created mankind so all aspects of peoples behaviour must come from God and therefore there must be a purpose he gave you certain traits and abilities. As far as you thinking its a sin I feel that if you are using daydreaming as a coping mechanism, a way to pass time or to create a feeling of enjoyment then its a skill that God gave you and shouldn't be viewed as a sinning.
Like Sam I view MD as a mental health issue and the problem with excessively daydreaming is that it takes up you away from living a real life and causes negative emotions over the extent that you escape into fantasy.You didn't choose to have this problem so you shouldn't feel bad that you have it. Maybe you could try and re-frame your thinking on the problem and be relieved that you've recognised that this is an unhealthy and unhelpful behaviour and one you have chosen to address and try to change. Hopefully with help and support you will feel less guilty about your daydreaming and more confident in taking steps to control it.
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Post by Dimmer on Sept 1, 2019 14:51:27 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
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