Post by thedreammademecry on Sept 22, 2019 16:43:21 GMT
I'm that smart sibling. It's not as fun as you think. We still struggle with what to write and still get stuff wrong but my mom doesn't seem to understand. I've been put in. Journal group at school and it's basically where the good writers go. It's every thrusday and there's an after school group for it as well but I can't attend the after school group (where most if the work is because I have theatre school. I want to be an actor btw. So I have to do the work at home. I wrote the introduction then my mind went blank and couldn't write anything. My mom didn't seem to understand and didn't offer to help once while I was sat there crying she just sat there saying I can't do any of the other clubs if I'm like this. I explained that most of the help is at the after school club but she didn't care. I want to leave the group but she said I can't as it's important which I get but if its so important why aren't you helping or just suggesting any ideas. It's not even like she was a smart student. She doesn't have that much of an education or job and I get she's not the best but she just expects me to be the best at everything all the time have you got any ideas
Maybe try to explain to her that going to the journal group without also going to the after school group is a waste of your time? Like, if you aren't going to get anything out of the group (which it doesn't sound like you will if you aren't enjoying yourself), then your time would be better spent on something that you actually enjoy.
Not to get super overanalytical, since I don't know much about you or your situation, but there's a chance that your mom is pushing you because she thinks that it will make it so that you will succeed more than she has. If its something that you would feel comfortable talking to her about, you might want to bring that up with her. Its okay for her to want you to work hard and succeed, but forcing you to do something half assed (since you can't go to the after school group), without help, and that makes you miserable, isn't okay.
It sounds like she needs to sit down and understand that you don't have to be the best at everything. You're allowed to not be good at something, or to not like something. Everyone has at least one thing that they aren't good at. I don't have the links or anything, but I'm almost positive that there have been studies correlating parents who push their children too hard and force them to be perfect and the child's mental health issues. That type of attitude is a breeding ground for perfectionism and self hatred (not to mention a dislike or distrust of the parents) that follow the child into adulthood. And I think that your mom needs to understand that.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.