Rejoining the Real World

I think one of the main things to remember is that it takes a lot of time and effort to reconnect with people especially if you are very socially isolated. Its definitely not an overnight process and its so easy to feel bad when you struggle making social connections and you see others finding it easy, It really is a case of taking baby steps forward.

When I first tried to get out around people more I attended a club where talks are given and at the end of the evening I went home and cried as I felt so out of place and uncomfortable whilst I was there. No one was very welcoming and it was actually very dull. I wasn't going to go again but I forced myself to go as there isn't much else to attend locally. Now there are a few people there that I speak to. Its still not the most interesting thing to attended but its better than not trying and spending all your time alone daydreaming your life away.

There is a lot of trial and error with trying to make friends and find new hobbies but its about putting yourself in the real world more even if it is a struggle and with being consistent with your attempts. There will be some people you click with and some you don't, events you enjoy and ones you hate but its important to try and stay motivated and experiment with new things.

I think for a lot of us being social isn’t really something we naturally are. It’s something that we have to practice and learn.

It's really hard for me to come out of my isolation. Like Sam said, my dream-world is much more appealing, especially when it comes to things like talking to people, being part of a circle of friends.
I think as a dreamer it's especially hard, because I have this perfect example in my head, how it should be, how it ought to be.

alvi has already put the difficulties much better then I can, so I just add the things I'm doing:

1. Communicate
I try very hard to communicate with people. dd is the easiest theme, because I do it a lot. So I read and write here. That's not the "real world", I know, but it's  the easiest way for me to be outside my dreams.
I try to have small conversations with people, in shops for example. Last week I was at a DIY-Store and I was standing beside a women looking at paintbrushes. I said "I never knew there are so many different brushes.", she said something like "oh yes, hard to choose, isn't it". That's all. I'm ashamed to say it, but that was a huge achievement for me on that day. 
I try to stay in touch with people, people I know from school or work. There is always the "do you remember..." or "what's xy doing now?" talk in the beginning and most of the times it stops there, but sometimes it develops into a semi-regular contact.

2. Volunteer
I volunteer at a small charity. Because I have a "job" to do there I don't have to talk to people much if I don't want to. I don't have to justify(?) my being there, I'm the one who does xy. 
I think volunteering for a one-off event with more people is something I should try, like a clean-the-park-day.

3. Hobbies with other people
Dimmer did a video on that. I'm still looking for one. :-)
 
 

Over the lat few weeks I have been doing fine with controlling my daydreaming now my life has been getting hard to cope with again and I can't sleep and night because of anxiety. Its like all the emotions we bring into our daydreams are out in the open waiting for me to deal with them and I don't know how to. When I do focus on them I go to one extreme to the next with the way I am feel and have to level my emotions by the only way I know how daydreaming.
Hope this makes sense.

I am sure if I wasn't going to my psychotherapist or counselling I would be ignoring my feeling and somewhat numb towards them. Plus I live with my family because I was sick they keep an eye on me so hard not to have no feeling within the house when they annoy you or make you upset. As for now my feelings are on the front of my mind because I am opening up about my trauma which my counselor thinks its I had at least 5 different traumas in my life.