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Post by dreamsalot on Oct 2, 2019 0:19:18 GMT
For years I have wondered why I was doing what I was doing and it wasn't until I landed upon the term maladaptive daydreaming that I found the answer. My first thought was, "this is amazing!" I'm finally able to give it a name, but then I also thought "what if I have a psychological disorder of some sort and what if it will get worse or what if I pass it on to my kids." I have no idea if any of that is true, which is why I am here. I want to talk with other people who understand why I daydream and I want to find some ways to help me through it as well.
I can't remember exactly when it started. I know everyone daydreams as a kid but I guess I just never stopped. All I knew when I was little and when I got older was that it gave me comfort. I was shy in school and it was hard for me to socialize, but when I daydreamed I was able to be the person I wanted to be.
Often my dreams consisted of me being famous or well known and I was friends with other people who were famous and well known. It was all about getting recognition or being praised for how talented, beautiful, and smart I was. I would also dream in such a way where it was like I was rehearsing what I was going to say next in the conversation with my friend or now with my boyfriend.
There was a period of time in my early 20s where it got worse and I felt like I was doing it all the time and I felt like it was affecting my life because I was up so late daydreaming. I'm in my late 20s now and it has gotten better a bit. I don't daydream as much and I think it's because I'm working on dealing with a lot of underlying issues, which is probably the reason why I daydream.
It's still there though, so I thought it would be a great idea to finally join one of these forums to get additional support.
Thanks everyone and I hope to keep talking!
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Post by Sam on Oct 2, 2019 4:28:19 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
Your experience is pretty similar to others on the forum. I think that a lot of us had a hard time socializing when we were kids, so unlike everyone else, we continued to rely on daydreams for social interaction as we got older, and now here we are.
We hope to hear more from you!
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Post by bee on Oct 2, 2019 11:50:23 GMT
Welcome to the forum, nice to meet you!
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Post by Dimmer on Oct 2, 2019 13:33:37 GMT
Mine got a lot worse in my teens/early20s... I guess that makes sense as it's a time of transition. Then it got better for a bit, then worse, then better... lol... kinda noticing a theme. Guess we're all just trying to break the cycle. Welcome to the forum!
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Post by dreamsalot on Oct 2, 2019 15:33:28 GMT
Yeah it comes and goes depending on what's going on in my life. If I'm under a lot of stress then it tends to happen more because I know that it will make me feel at ease. I just feel like it's not a healthy way of dealing with my stresses because I feel like I'm just hiding away. And it makes it hard when nobody in my life knows about it because I feel so ashamed and embarrassed that I do it. People would think I'm crazy if they knew. Thanks everyone for the welcome! If there are any tips you have or anything you think would be helpful for me to read, I am all for it!
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Post by Sam on Oct 2, 2019 17:04:05 GMT
Yeah it comes and goes depending on what's going on in my life. If I'm under a lot of stress then it tends to happen more because I know that it will make me feel at ease. I just feel like it's not a healthy way of dealing with my stresses because I feel like I'm just hiding away. And it makes it hard when nobody in my life knows about it because I feel so ashamed and embarrassed that I do it. People would think I'm crazy if they knew. Thanks everyone for the welcome! If there are any tips you have or anything you think would be helpful for me to read, I am all for it! I would definitely recommend checking out the help and research board, there's a lot of good threads there that include strategies for dealing with your daydreaming.
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Post by alvi on Oct 2, 2019 19:11:43 GMT
Welcome to the forum
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Kat
New Daydreamer
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Post by Kat on Oct 3, 2019 15:35:54 GMT
Isn't it crazy and amazing to find that we're not alone in this situation? Welcome to the forum dreamsalot, nice to meet you!
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