sam
New Daydreamer
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Post by sam on Oct 22, 2019 8:22:16 GMT
Hello,
Couple of years ago my roommate pointed out that sometimes I stare at the wall a lot. I started noticing after that and realized that I daydream a lot and its not normal. I procrastinate, forget about the important things and daydream to escape reality. Like I read in other profiles, I too dream about my insecurities, I dream about how I could have handled a particular situation better, I dream about showing off random great things that I don’t have, I dream about being a certain someone from the movies. Whenever I have a crazy creative idea( example, I business idea or a surprise birthday party for a friend) instead of writing it down and planning around it; I just dream about it from start to end and feel the adrenaline rush so bad that I feel there is no adrenaline left to actually execute it. I am already satisfied with my imaginary result. I have wasted many years in it and now I feel I am out of time, I need help.
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yasmine
Active Daydreamer
i see mdd as a gift but i want to reduce it cause it starts looking like a curse
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Post by yasmine on Oct 22, 2019 13:32:28 GMT
Hello, Couple of years ago my roommate pointed out that sometimes I stare at the wall a lot. I started noticing after that and realized that I daydream a lot and its not normal. I procrastinate, forget about the important things and daydream to escape reality. Like I read in other profiles, I too dream about my insecurities, I dream about how I could have handled a particular situation better, I dream about showing off random great things that I don’t have, I dream about being a certain someone from the movies. Whenever I have a crazy creative idea( example, I business idea or a surprise birthday party for a friend) instead of writing it down and planning around it; I just dream about it from start to end and feel the adrenaline rush so bad that I feel there is no adrenaline left to actually execute it. I am already satisfied with my imaginary result. I have wasted many years in it and now I feel I am out of time, I need help. hey sam. i just wanted to say you summarised it all so incredibly good. a lot of us have these problems and it indeed sucks. i too sometimes daydream about doing something and afterwards not doing it because i feel like it cant life up to my daydream results. i try to shake those ideas out of my mind but it sometimes just doesnt help. i am sorry but i cant help with it, maybe there is someone else who can tho. |
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Post by katie on Oct 22, 2019 14:59:55 GMT
Hello, Couple of years ago my roommate pointed out that sometimes I stare at the wall a lot. I started noticing after that and realized that I daydream a lot and its not normal. I procrastinate, forget about the important things and daydream to escape reality. Like I read in other profiles, I too dream about my insecurities, I dream about how I could have handled a particular situation better, I dream about showing off random great things that I don’t have, I dream about being a certain someone from the movies. Whenever I have a crazy creative idea( example, I business idea or a surprise birthday party for a friend) instead of writing it down and planning around it; I just dream about it from start to end and feel the adrenaline rush so bad that I feel there is no adrenaline left to actually execute it. I am already satisfied with my imaginary result. I have wasted many years in it and now I feel I am out of time, I need help. Hi Sam we are all here for you to help and each other if you want I can message me I have my own subreddit group maybe sign up to reddit and add what you need on it. I joined so many subreddit on it like anxiety, depression, trauma and can add a post thread on any of them for help its like incorporating groups together on reddit that you may need. My subreddit is trail an error and is so quiet at the moment but I have here too to to help out with. Here is a bit about my subreddit if you are instead to join, always here or there if you need to talk. www.reddit.com/r/Selfhealingmadd/This is a community for people may have maladaptive daydreaming and want to start down the road to feeling better. We are not medical professionals but hope that we can help support each other using our own experiences. Our motto is sharing to feel better. I have added strategies that I am working on and so have other have a look and see if anything pops out that may help. The first step in dealing with this is to write out your triggers like you like worry or that and see if one comes up what way to deal with it and we are here to talk if you have anything that you may need to share to make yourself feel better pm me if you want it left private. |
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Post by bee on Oct 22, 2019 19:47:29 GMT
Hey sam,
welcome to the Forum!
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Post by Sam on Oct 23, 2019 2:45:19 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
I can really relate to most of what you wrote.
Could you maybe closely evaluate whether you're actually satisfied with your daydream scenarios? On a superficial level you might be, but I've personally found that when I look at it very closely, the satisfaction I feel when daydreaming about doing something doesn't come close to the satisfaction I feel when actually doing something. True, the emotions and feelings of real life experiences might not be as satisfying (because you don't control all of them), but you will have something tangible that you can point to and say "I did that," and that sometimes makes up for it.
Its still difficult to resist the urge to daydream and untrain your habitual daydreaming response, but knowing that you aren't satisfied with your real life accomplishments can help motivate you.
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Post by serenity on Oct 25, 2019 20:26:11 GMT
Hey Sam. I understand, really. I look back at my projected potential (school and college) and where I am now, and it makes me angry that I've stopped myself, through mdd, from achieving what I could have. But the thing I've worked out recently, or started to work out, is that it can change. 6 months ago I would never have joined a forum like this, even if I'd known it existed. I'd have been too scared or ashamed to do so. I started to think about where I am and, for the first time, I've started to pull away from my internal world. They say recognition is the first step. Perhaps it's possible to reconcile the inside and outside. Or leave the inside behind. I know I'd rather try and fail, now. I hope this is of some value to you. I will say this: I do feel, even after the most peripheral exposure, that this community will help me - knowing I'm not alone. Good luck.
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