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Post by aj on Oct 27, 2019 18:47:07 GMT
Many people complain that MD distracts them and wastes their time, which I’ve definitely experienced, but does anyone else feel like one of the worst parts of MD is how emotionally exhausting it is? Usually, my daydreams revolve around one single character who’s based on someone I know (but not well) or a celebrity. I develop extremely intense feelings for the character and find myself on this horrible emotional roller coaster of loving the daydreams and then feeling heartbroken because they’re not real and then feeling guilty and crazy for caring so much about something that’s not real. Does anyone else experience this? |
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Post by bee on Oct 27, 2019 20:07:18 GMT
Hey aj, welcome to the forum!
No, generally I don't have that sort of attachment to my characters. Sure, I like them but it is more like characters in a book/film.
As far as I can remember I had only one exception and that threw me off the rails unexpectedly. The character was a young girl, she wasn't a main character but the daughter of one. I already had dreamed the story to an happy ending and then the next day I dreamed an alternative ending and the little girl was killed. I cried for hours and felt like I really lost someone close.
Normally I can control my dd very much, I stop-and-replay a lot. But this alternative ending was uncontrollable, all I could do was "watch".
I will never forget this. The next day was the first day that I fully realized that this dd-thing might be a problem.
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Post by serenity on Oct 27, 2019 20:48:28 GMT
Hey AJ. Im trying to quit MDD. I've a diary on another thread. You're right. The emotional attachment is the hardest part. In my case, it's that I've lived inside my own head for decades,and the characters have lived with me. Grown, evolved, faced trials etc. The thing with me is, I can function. Partner, have two beautiful sons (who root me in reality), a decent job. Its just the minute I'm alone, even the bathroom, I've found myself time and again submerging. I decided, a week ago, to start looking into my 'condition', and I found this forum. Its amazing to finally see that MDD is an actual concept, and that others suffer with it, too. It's galvanised me into trying to cure myself. It's hard, but I truly believe it'll be worth it. Even if I have to go through what can only be described as grief and loss, for the characters who will no longer be with me. I hope everything goes brilliantly for you.
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Post by bunnylove on Oct 27, 2019 22:46:11 GMT
Hi aj, I completely understand where you are coming from, I have daydreamed about the same celebrity for several years now and in my daydreams we are dating.
I struggle with this the same as you when I am in the daydream I am happy and it takes me away from feeling lonely but when I am back in reality I can find it hard.
I follow fan accounts on Instagram of this person which I know is a bad idea but I can't seem to cut myself off, anyway people put pictures of themselves up with this person when they have met them out and about or at gigs etc. After I think to myself what am I doing this person is out living their life and they have no idea I even exist and I feel like I am putting so much energy into something which will never happen and is all in my mind.
I really wish i was strong enough to stop or at least cut down, I have tried but it felt like I was losing something precious to me and fell back into daydreaming.
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Post by Herro on Oct 28, 2019 10:51:59 GMT
Yes, I do experience this. That moment when I'm brought back to reality and realize that the person I care about the most is not real can truly be heartbreaking and painful.
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Post by littlegirllost on Nov 5, 2019 13:41:32 GMT
Yes I totally recognize this. In my daydreams I fantasize about being a certain 30 something celebrity (not in love with the celeb but with her life and relationship). And I feel devastated right now because she split from her boyfriend and seems heartbroken and it's affecting me so much because its like real life is making it impossible to daydream about this celeb anymore. Maybe that's a good thing, because it forces me to realize this mdd is a problem and that I should be more outside the daydreams. But still I feel so  right now. |
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Post by katie on Nov 5, 2019 13:56:00 GMT
Yes I totally recognize this. In my daydreams I fantasize about being a certain 30 something celebrity (not in love with the celeb but with her life and relationship). And I feel devastated right now because she split from her boyfriend and seems heartbroken and it's affecting me so much because its like real life is making it impossible to daydream about this celeb anymore. Maybe that's a good thing, because it forces me to realize this mdd is a problem and that I should be more outside the daydreams. But still I feel so right now. I don't know how you feel as my para is a version of myself but I am glad that you found someone that you can relate to and welcome to the forum. :) |
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