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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2019 21:45:46 GMT
 I am Nixee, and I am new here.
So, I created this thread because I would like to find other people that are in the same position as I am. In the real world, when I exit my daydreams, I don't really have anyone to talk to. My friends aren't really my friends, and I doubt they would understand anything about this. I am scared of rejection, and I don't want them to consider me as some kind of a freak ( at least not as much as they do now ). I my own world, I have lots of friends. It's funny how, when I look back, whenever I went outside, whenever I had mental breakdowns, whenever I needed someone and I couldn't bear being alone anymore, they were always there for me. My daydream friends, I mean. A few days ago, I was talking to my mother about the dance competition I went to that was held in town. I went there by bus and by foot, because it was close. When she asked me how my my trip, I almost answered, ' It was fine, /name/ (sorry, I don't feel comfortable saying her or theirs names) accompanied me!'. But I stopped myself before I could say it. I just answered with a mere 'It was fine'. That is the first time I realized how serious my daydreaming has become. That is how I found out about maladaptive daydreaming. And from the moment I read the article, I knew I had it.
Some time later, I realized how, without my daydreaming and everyone in it, I would be lonely. Even though I was never alone. I guess my maladaptive daydreaming saved me in a way.
But, it is not enough for me. Now, I actually realized that I am not alone. I thought that I was the only one that would have such a bizare mind, I hated myself for it, but now I realize, I don't care if it's bizare, and I don't care if it is freaky. I want to meet and talk to other people who are same as I am. I want to, for once in my life, talk about all of the problems, visions, daydreams and just everything that has been going on to me. I want to be heard, but I also want to listen to others. And, hopefully, make friends that are not my imagination, and will not leave me because of who I am. I really hope that you will, if you read this message, answer and help me. So that I can help you, too.
Thank You.
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Post by wendy on Nov 2, 2019 22:24:01 GMT
Hi Nixee! Well if you're looking for people like you,you're in the right place.It's quite a shock when you find out that you're not alone, I remember that when I read through everyone's stories for the first time I cried the whole evening. My daydreaming started when I was very young, when I was in preschool. My family moved to a different country and I didn't speak the language, I had serious difficulty connecting with others. I made up scenarios to compensate my lonliness and growing up the stories never stopped. Like you said, whenever things got difficult I could go back to a place of comfort and security. I guess in someway it helped me cope with change and adapt to my environment without having a breakdown. I always knew that what I did was odd and not socially acceptable, but I only found out about MD in my twenties. Today I'm 24. Can I ask how old you are? Why do you think you're friends are not really your friends?
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Post by Sam on Nov 2, 2019 22:34:01 GMT
Welcome to the forum Nixee!
I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I'm generally incredibly lonely in my real life (though I'm doing my best to connect with people more) and as such, I rely on my daydreams for the interaction that I need. I will say that talking to people on this forum has helped me a lot with the loneliness. Not only does it give me more interaction with others (and practice talking to people), the people who I'm talking to actually understand what I'm going through.
Feel free to reach out to me any time you want to talk and I'll get back to you as soon as possible :)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2019 22:48:00 GMT
Hi Nixee! Well if you're looking for people like you,you're in the right place.It's quite a shock when you find out that you're not alone, I remember that when I read through everyone's stories for the first time I cried the whole evening. My daydreaming started when I was very young, when I was in preschool. My family moved to a different country and I didn't speak the language, I had serious difficulty connecting with others. I made up scenarios to compensate my lonliness and growing up the stories never stopped. Like you said, whenever things got difficult I could go back to a place of comfort and security. I guess in someway it helped me cope with change and adapt to my environment without having a breakdown. I always knew that what I did was odd and not socially acceptable, but I only found out about MD in my twenties. Today I'm 24. Can I ask how old you are? Why do you think you're friends are not really your friends?
Well, I have 2 friends in the real world. Lets call them 'Lucy' and 'Sara'. I have known 'Lucy' since the first grade of elementary school. Just to explain, in my country you start school ( we call it the elementary school ) when you are 6 or 7, and you finish it when you are 14 or 15. It is mandatory for everyone born in this country. Anyway, I have known her for 8 years now. In the past, the two of us would fight often, and we became 'friends' last year. She isn't very loyal to people she hangs out with, it isn't that hard to notice that. She switches between people all the time, but I guess we just kinda clicked and stayed in touch. Also, I believe that in my case and in the case of most people, 'friends' have a different meanings. To me, a 'friend' is a person that can stand you and talk to you, and that you can stand and talk to. I guess I never had a 'real friend' to hang out with, the kind I read about in stories.
'Sara' is a bit different. I met her 4 years ago. We had times when we hanged out, and times when we hated each other. But, right now, she is the best friend I have that isn't my imagination. I even stayed at her place for a day. I mean, I have done it before, but not like that. She has a other, real best friend she tells everything to. So, of course, she tells her everything about me. I once told 'Sara' about a guy that I liked, and she told it to the friend, and the next day, the whole class knew.
I had some friends in the past too. Two, to be exact. But both of them left me when I needed them the most. They just ran away from me, and stopped talking to me.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2019 22:49:57 GMT
Welcome to the forum Nixee! I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I'm generally incredibly lonely in my real life (though I'm doing my best to connect with people more) and as such, I rely on my daydreams for the interaction that I need. I will say that talking to people on this forum has helped me a lot with the loneliness. Not only does it give me more interaction with others (and practice talking to people), the people who I'm talking to actually understand what I'm going through. Feel free to reach out to me any time you want to talk and I'll get back to you as soon as possible 
Thank You, once more.
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Post by bee on Nov 3, 2019 7:44:28 GMT
Hey Nixee,
welcome to the forum, nice to meet you!
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Post by Herro on Nov 3, 2019 9:08:49 GMT
Hey, Nixee!
I felt the same about my "friends" when I was your age and I still do, except for one of them who I truly consider my friend.
It's nice to have you here. Please don't hesitate to open up and be heard.
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Post by katie on Nov 3, 2019 18:15:45 GMT
Hi! I am Nixee, and I am new here.
So, I created this thread because I would like to find other people that are in the same position as I am. In the real world, when I exit my daydreams, I don't really have anyone to talk to. My friends aren't really my friends, and I doubt they would understand anything about this. I am scared of rejection, and I don't want them to consider me as some kind of a freak ( at least not as much as they do now ). I my own world, I have lots of friends. It's funny how, when I look back, whenever I went outside, whenever I had mental breakdowns, whenever I needed someone and I couldn't bear being alone anymore, they were always there for me. My daydream friends, I mean. A few days ago, I was talking to my mother about the dance competition I went to that was held in town. I went there by bus and by foot, because it was close. When she asked me how my my trip, I almost answered, ' It was fine, /name/ (sorry, I don't feel comfortable saying her or theirs names) accompanied me!'. But I stopped myself before I could say it. I just answered with a mere 'It was fine'. That is the first time I realized how serious my daydreaming has become. That is how I found out about maladaptive daydreaming. And from the moment I read the article, I knew I had it.
Some time later, I realized how, without my daydreaming and everyone in it, I would be lonely. Even though I was never alone. I guess my maladaptive daydreaming saved me in a way.
But, it is not enough for me. Now, I actually realized that I am not alone. I thought that I was the only one that would have such a bizare mind, I hated myself for it, but now I realize, I don't care if it's bizare, and I don't care if it is freaky. I want to meet and talk to other people who are same as I am. I want to, for once in my life, talk about all of the problems, visions, daydreams and just everything that has been going on to me. I want to be heard, but I also want to listen to others. And, hopefully, make friends that are not my imagination, and will not leave me because of who I am. I really hope that you will, if you read this message, answer and help me. So that I can help you, too.
Thank You.
Nixee Hi Nixee and welcome to daydream in blue. I went through stages with my daydreaming and why I needed it and hopefully when you venture into your future of reality these stages will be what you are going through if you believe things will get easier. When it started I needed my daydreaming for loneliness I was only 6 and had plenty of people around me but was sick growing up and no one knew what was going on with me. I wanted someone to tell me everything was ok in and out of hospitals with asthma and use to blue around the mouth and be physically sick whenever I was playing with friends. I was a slow learner too. The loneliness lasted for ages and got worse over time because I lost friends along the way and got bullied. Then I needed my daydreaming for my anxiety. Now I need my daydreams to process my emotions as I am not able to do so and I have now got some friends and friends on this forum which I am grateful to have so the loneliness is gone. p.s This came to us as we needed it to cope with our lives for whatever personal reasons we maybe going through. When I go through a bad stage with my health and its there for me I am grateful that its like a protector for when we need it. Glad you are a part of the daydream in blue community |
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Post by wendy on Nov 4, 2019 8:25:32 GMT
Hi Nixee! Well if you're looking for people like you,you're in the right place.It's quite a shock when you find out that you're not alone, I remember that when I read through everyone's stories for the first time I cried the whole evening. My daydreaming started when I was very young, when I was in preschool. My family moved to a different country and I didn't speak the language, I had serious difficulty connecting with others. I made up scenarios to compensate my lonliness and growing up the stories never stopped. Like you said, whenever things got difficult I could go back to a place of comfort and security. I guess in someway it helped me cope with change and adapt to my environment without having a breakdown. I always knew that what I did was odd and not socially acceptable, but I only found out about MD in my twenties. Today I'm 24. Can I ask how old you are? Why do you think you're friends are not really your friends?
Well, I have 2 friends in the real world. Lets call them 'Lucy' and 'Sara'. I have known 'Lucy' since the first grade of elementary school. Just to explain, in my country you start school ( we call it the elementary school ) when you are 6 or 7, and you finish it when you are 14 or 15. It is mandatory for everyone born in this country. Anyway, I have known her for 8 years now. In the past, the two of us would fight often, and we became 'friends' last year. She isn't very loyal to people she hangs out with, it isn't that hard to notice that. She switches between people all the time, but I guess we just kinda clicked and stayed in touch. Also, I believe that in my case and in the case of most people, 'friends' have a different meanings. To me, a 'friend' is a person that can stand you and talk to you, and that you can stand and talk to. I guess I never had a 'real friend' to hang out with, the kind I read about in stories.
'Sara' is a bit different. I met her 4 years ago. We had times when we hanged out, and times when we hated each other. But, right now, she is the best friend I have that isn't my imagination. I even stayed at her place for a day. I mean, I have done it before, but not like that. She has a other, real best friend she tells everything to. So, of course, she tells her everything about me. I once told 'Sara' about a guy that I liked, and she told it to the friend, and the next day, the whole class knew.
I had some friends in the past too. Two, to be exact. But both of them left me when I needed them the most. They just ran away from me, and stopped talking to me.
Nixeeok I understand!fourteen is kind of the age when you start to learn about yourself and making/keeping friends is hard, MD or no MD. The trick is to find people who are like you or have the same interests and hobbies, and then create a friendship on those grounds. But you already found this forum so you're ahead of this :D |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2019 16:37:12 GMT
I am Nixee, and I am new here.
So, I created this thread because I would like to find other people that are in the same position as I am. In the real world, when I exit my daydreams, I don't really have anyone to talk to. My friends aren't really my friends, and I doubt they would understand anything about this. I am scared of rejection, and I don't want them to consider me as some kind of a freak ( at least not as much as they do now ). I my own world, I have lots of friends. It's funny how, when I look back, whenever I went outside, whenever I had mental breakdowns, whenever I needed someone and I couldn't bear being alone anymore, they were always there for me. My daydream friends, I mean. A few days ago, I was talking to my mother about the dance competition I went to that was held in town. I went there by bus and by foot, because it was close. When she asked me how my my trip, I almost answered, ' It was fine, /name/ (sorry, I don't feel comfortable saying her or theirs names) accompanied me!'. But I stopped myself before I could say it. I just answered with a mere 'It was fine'. That is the first time I realized how serious my daydreaming has become. That is how I found out about maladaptive daydreaming. And from the moment I read the article, I knew I had it.
Some time later, I realized how, without my daydreaming and everyone in it, I would be lonely. Even though I was never alone. I guess my maladaptive daydreaming saved me in a way.
But, it is not enough for me. Now, I actually realized that I am not alone. I thought that I was the only one that would have such a bizare mind, I hated myself for it, but now I realize, I don't care if it's bizare, and I don't care if it is freaky. I want to meet and talk to other people who are same as I am. I want to, for once in my life, talk about all of the problems, visions, daydreams and just everything that has been going on to me. I want to be heard, but I also want to listen to others. And, hopefully, make friends that are not my imagination, and will not leave me because of who I am. I really hope that you will, if you read this message, answer and help me. So that I can help you, too.
Thank You.
Nixee Hi Nixee and welcome to daydream in blue. I went through stages with my daydreaming and why I needed it and hopefully when you venture into your future of reality these stages will be what you are going through if you believe things will get easier. When it started I needed my daydreaming for loneliness I was only 6 and had plenty of people around me but was sick growing up and no one knew what was going on with me. I wanted someone to tell me everything was ok in and out of hospitals with asthma and use to blue around the mouth and be physically sick whenever I was playing with friends. I was a slow learner too. The loneliness lasted for ages and got worse over time because I lost friends along the way and got bullied. Then I needed my daydreaming for my anxiety. Now I need my daydreams to process my emotions as I am not able to do so and I have now got some friends and friends on this forum which I am grateful to have so the loneliness is gone. p.s This came to us as we needed it to cope with our lives for whatever personal reasons we maybe going through. When I go through a bad stage with my health and its there for me I am grateful that its like a protector for when we need it. Glad you are a part of the daydream in blue community
I am really sorry for everything that happened to you, and is still happening. I can't relate to you completely, because I didn't go through everything you went through. I went through bulling, loneliness, and being left out, and anxiety, but I wasn't particullary sick as a child.
I also need my daydreams to process my emotions, and everything I am going through, so I can relate to that.
Daydreaming really is some kind of a shield that keeps us protected from the outside world. Even though most people don't understand it, and never will, in a way I think of my maladaptive daydreaming as a gift. I don't think that I would ever actually survive without it, and it provides me some kind of a comfort. I don't know is this the same with everyone, or is it just me, but I like the fact that I am a maladaptive dreamer. Of course, there are times when I don't really like it, exemple, when I am in school or when I am studying.
Also, this is for everyone who have problems with studying, a tip in which you can use your maladaptive daydreaming to help you! I imagine my characters explaining everything I need to know to me, and it helps somehow. I just talk to myself, and imagine that they are listening to me and adding some funny comments. Like that, when the character says something on a theme, I remember it and than it's easier for me to learn. I do have some problems in school, I can't concentrate, my mind keeps slipping away, but this really helps!
I want to know a few things. Do you think of yur daydreaming as a gift, or a curse? And why? And do you ever use it to help you with anything? I really want to know is it just me, or is it usual.
Thank you!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2019 16:41:23 GMT
Hi Wendy! I turned 14 a month ago.
Well, I have 2 friends in the real world. Lets call them 'Lucy' and 'Sara'. I have known 'Lucy' since the first grade of elementary school. Just to explain, in my country you start school ( we call it the elementary school ) when you are 6 or 7, and you finish it when you are 14 or 15. It is mandatory for everyone born in this country. Anyway, I have known her for 8 years now. In the past, the two of us would fight often, and we became 'friends' last year. She isn't very loyal to people she hangs out with, it isn't that hard to notice that. She switches between people all the time, but I guess we just kinda clicked and stayed in touch. Also, I believe that in my case and in the case of most people, 'friends' have a different meanings. To me, a 'friend' is a person that can stand you and talk to you, and that you can stand and talk to. I guess I never had a 'real friend' to hang out with, the kind I read about in stories.
'Sara' is a bit different. I met her 4 years ago. We had times when we hanged out, and times when we hated each other. But, right now, she is the best friend I have that isn't my imagination. I even stayed at her place for a day. I mean, I have done it before, but not like that. She has a other, real best friend she tells everything to. So, of course, she tells her everything about me. I once told 'Sara' about a guy that I liked, and she told it to the friend, and the next day, the whole class knew.
I had some friends in the past too. Two, to be exact. But both of them left me when I needed them the most. They just ran away from me, and stopped talking to me.
Nixee ok I understand!fourteen is kind of the age when you start to learn about yourself and making/keeping friends is hard, MD or no MD. The trick is to find people who are like you or have the same interests and hobbies, and then create a friendship on those grounds. But you already found this forum so you're ahead of this :D
Haha, yeah, this time really is complicated. At least it seems to me. Whenever I look at people from my class, I can always see them surrounded by their friends, talking and laughing about thing I will never understand. It seems like everyone is doing better than I am. Am I just breaking under the pressure? Or am I imagining things? I am really confused.
I really hope I can socialize more, and make real friends on this forum. I think that for now, I am doing okey. I really hope I am not boring with all of my writing, though. If I am, you can just say it, or, well, write it down.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2019 16:44:17 GMT
Hey, Nixee! I felt the same about my "friends" when I was your age and I still do, except for one of them who I truly consider my friend. It's nice to have you here. Please don't hesitate to open up and be heard.
I guess I am not the only one who has problems in the 'friends subject'. I don't know if I suck at socializing, or is it just me. One way or another, I am really happy I found this forum, and that you replied to my message.
I hope we can become friends. If you want to..
Have a nice day!
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Post by katie on Nov 4, 2019 19:06:35 GMT
Hi Nixee and welcome to daydream in blue. I went through stages with my daydreaming and why I needed it and hopefully when you venture into your future of reality these stages will be what you are going through if you believe things will get easier. When it started I needed my daydreaming for loneliness I was only 6 and had plenty of people around me but was sick growing up and no one knew what was going on with me. I wanted someone to tell me everything was ok in and out of hospitals with asthma and use to blue around the mouth and be physically sick whenever I was playing with friends. I was a slow learner too. The loneliness lasted for ages and got worse over time because I lost friends along the way and got bullied. Then I needed my daydreaming for my anxiety. Now I need my daydreams to process my emotions as I am not able to do so and I have now got some friends and friends on this forum which I am grateful to have so the loneliness is gone. p.s This came to us as we needed it to cope with our lives for whatever personal reasons we maybe going through. When I go through a bad stage with my health and its there for me I am grateful that its like a protector for when we need it. Glad you are a part of the daydream in blue community
I am really sorry for everything that happened to you, and is still happening. I can't relate to you completely, because I didn't go through everything you went through. I went through bulling, loneliness, and being left out, and anxiety, but I wasn't particullary sick as a child.
I also need my daydreams to process my emotions, and everything I am going through, so I can relate to that.
Daydreaming really is some kind of a shield that keeps us protected from the outside world. Even though most people don't understand it, and never will, in a way I think of my maladaptive daydreaming as a gift. I don't think that I would ever actually survive without it, and it provides me some kind of a comfort. I don't know is this the same with everyone, or is it just me, but I like the fact that I am a maladaptive dreamer. Of course, there are times when I don't really like it, exemple, when I am in school or when I am studying.
Also, this is for everyone who have problems with studying, a tip in which you can use your maladaptive daydreaming to help you! I imagine my characters explaining everything I need to know to me, and it helps somehow. I just talk to myself, and imagine that they are listening to me and adding some funny comments. Like that, when the character says something on a theme, I remember it and than it's easier for me to learn. I do have some problems in school, I can't concentrate, my mind keeps slipping away, but this really helps!
I want to know a few things. Do you think of yur daydreaming as a gift, or a curse? And why? And do you ever use it to help you with anything? I really want to know is it just me, or is it usual.
Thank you!
NixeeI think for me now that I have been through a lot of things that it can be both but at the same time it is a protector in some ways. It helps me at the moment to self regulate myself when I do not know how to process my emtions in reality. Its unique that's what I think that we have this place to go too when we are lost but as long as we know the more we are there the hard it gets out here so we have to help and support each other through this. I think all I went through made me a stronger person so its ok but thanks tht post was just to show you that we will go through states of why we need our madd in life. |
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