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Post by katie on Nov 5, 2019 14:02:27 GMT
I was thinking of why is it that for me I hate been the center of attention but my madd is me staving for that attention and putting my para first in those situations but I am not able for it all. Just a taught on it. Anyone feel the same. :)
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Post by kokimon31 on Nov 5, 2019 15:14:59 GMT
I can totally relate to that. Maybe because we have complete control of the attention we want when we daydream. The attention we get irl is not always good or confortable and we don't have a second chance to not be awkward.
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Post by katie on Nov 5, 2019 15:18:08 GMT
I can totally relate to that. Maybe because we have complete control of the attention we want when we daydream. The attention we get irl is not always good or confortable and we don't have a second chance to not be awkward. this make true. :) |
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Post by kokimon31 on Nov 5, 2019 15:39:59 GMT
It's easier said than done but ideally we shoukd accept that it's better to be a bit awkward than to escape in a dream
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Post by katie on Nov 5, 2019 18:22:32 GMT
It's easier said than done but ideally we shoukd accept that it's better to be a bit awkward than to escape in a dream I am a socially awkward person it gets to me at times and then other times I just don't care depends on who I am around. It what make me less of a boring person anyways never know what I might say or do. Yeah you are right its part of who we are I suppose. :) |
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Post by Sam on Nov 6, 2019 18:22:55 GMT
I was thinking of why is it that for me I hate been the center of attention but my madd is me staving for that attention and putting my para first in those situations but I am not able for it all. Just a taught on it. Anyone feel the same. :) I think that pretty much everyone craves attention, but being the center of attention in real life can bring up a lot of anxiety and insecurity that really isn't there when you're the center of attention in your daydreams. |
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Post by katie on Nov 6, 2019 21:12:20 GMT
I was thinking of why is it that for me I hate been the center of attention but my madd is me staving for that attention and putting my para first in those situations but I am not able for it all. Just a taught on it. Anyone feel the same. :) I think that pretty much everyone craves attention, but being the center of attention in real life can bring up a lot of anxiety and insecurity that really isn't there when you're the center of attention in your daydreams. For me I am always first in my daydreams always the one to be in front of the stethoscope within my daydreaming world as I see it and when I am not its people talking about me and because my main character is me in ways its always focused on her. I find that when I am in reality I can't even deal with people fussing over me or a complement is hard to take. These things I will have to learn to cope with and say thank you when I get a complement but I cringe inside when these things happen to me. Its like I have to abort whats happening before I zone out. |
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Post by pandowa on Dec 8, 2019 12:14:34 GMT
Sometimes in my DDs I am the centre of attention and other times I’m not in them at all.
I agree with all the reasons everyone’s posted on here.
Another thing for me personally would be that as studies suggest that MD is related to other mental health issues like trauma I think it also stems from that.
I was neglected a lot since the age of 4 due to my family’s circumstances and therefore didn’t receive a lot of attention growing up. I think I sometimes escape into fantasy worlds with imaginary characters where I’m the centre of attention to combat that. It happens a lot more when i feel isolated and alone.
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Post by kondiao on Dec 9, 2019 15:03:52 GMT
I can totally relate to that. Maybe because we have complete control of the attention we want when we daydream. The attention we get irl is not always good or confortable and we don't have a second chance to not be awkward. this make true.  I can relate. But I am not so sure that I have complete control in my DD world. I mean like today when I went out into fantasy several times about a small scene that happened earlier. I had confronted some s.o.b. about something he did that was out of line. It was about my g/f. In the event I felt that I had done right to tell the A-hole not to flirt with her. Then later on, at leisure, I kept on re-playing the scene and tripping on the words he said in reply :"Lucky you,", and then he went on talking about what a cool guy he was, while my g/f got in between us and and placated me to de-escalate things. But I was realizing that his response showed contempt for me. So, in my mind I say something insulting back to him, or threatening... and then he answers in kind and so I hit him - sitting there at his ease, fearless, like he was not under any threat at all - and then (after I pause to move her out of the way so she doesn't get hurt) - and/or I take his wrist and twist him to the ground and break it and maybe step on his throat... About there it ends and I come back to rl and stop fantasising; and then I go back into another cycle. I know, I know I should be matured beyond this juvenile level of emotions and primitive  and act my age but I am stuck in teen-age emotional development , or even younger. And I am trying to live with me the way I am and to be present irl even though it is awkward and I am socially inept and insecure. And the issue here is DDing and how to not do it. I thought I made some slight progress today by acting instead of being passive and doing nothing. But it did not help much. And I do not have that much control over the DD world because I go from mildly irritated to raging in a couple seconds when i lose control over my emotions. |
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and act my age but I am stuck in teen-age emotional development , or even younger. And I am trying to live with me the way I am and to be present irl even though it is awkward and I am socially inept and insecure. And the issue here is DDing and how to not do it. I thought I made some slight progress today by acting instead of being passive and doing nothing. But it did not help much.