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Post by bunnylove on Nov 20, 2019 23:40:11 GMT
I would really love some advice and words of wisdom from anyone who has overcome or cut down on their MD. I have been daydreaming since I was a child, my daydreams have changed over the years from filling the void with daydream siblings and now my daydreams revolve around relationships. I have recently realised that I have had the same celebrity MD boyfriend for nearly 2 years. He remains the same but the daydreams change from a relationship just starting to us being settled with a family. I daydream about him whenever I have free time, before I go to work, when I get back home, before I go to bed, sometimes for whole days if I have a day at home. MD has really impacted on me actually living my actual real life. I find due to my MD romance I am not seeking out real romance. I have signed up to dating apps and spend time looking for someone like the guy in my MD or I get this weird feeling in the pit of my stomach when I think about leaving my daydreams and being with an actual person. It's weird but it feels like a loss. I know I need to stop or at least find someway to manage my obsessive daydreams but I don't know how. My mind constantly wanders and I find myself  of him as soon as I wake up. If you have managed to stop or have been able to at least dramatically cut down, please can you share with me any tips on how you manage? I feel like my life is slipping away and I am letting it. Thank you for any help you can give. |
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Post by serenity on Nov 21, 2019 0:18:11 GMT
Hi There. I'm on day 26 cold turkey. The first thing is to realise that you want to stop. Then, just go day by day. I've been over 30 years inside my MDD, and the stories have spent that long evolving. There's a part of you that will feel you're abandoning a whole life, or lives. Leaving 'people' behind who've shared your life with you. But it isn't real. The truth is, every comforting word, laugh shared, smart retort or stellar weekend have been you. The different parts creating call and response. Your MD friends? How cool they are? How smart? All you. I feel by quitting MD I'm reassembling myself from all those parts.it's tough, painful at times, but I've enlisted in a psychology degree, gotten better at my job, and come out if my shell. I'm still just beginning, but it's a journey worth doing. To paraphrase JFK, 'I don't do this because it is easy. I do this because it is hard'. You're amongst friends here. People with the same story, same fight. We have each others backs. Welcome and good luck.
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Post by serenity on Nov 21, 2019 0:19:06 GMT
Oh, I have am ongoing diary here called Day One. You can read my journey if you like? S
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Post by Sam on Nov 21, 2019 2:18:37 GMT
Understanding why you rely on daydreams so much is a good step. Personally, I've been logging my daydreaming episodes for about a year and have been able to identify a lot of patterns and behaviors. My daydreaming was already reduced a bit, and I've been working with other things too, but recently (over the past week or so), I've had great success in walking on a treadmill instead of daydreaming. My daydreaming usually takes the form of walking up and down the stairs in my house, so walking on a treadmill while listening to music (especially the music I usually listen to while daydreaming, as long as I don't actually start daydreaming) is a good replacement. I get all of the feel good hormones from the exercise and music, minus the daydreaming.
Sorry if this isn't super well written, and its also missing some important chunks of information that might be beneficial. I'm coming off of my third migraine in four days and it feels like my brain has been short circuited. I'll try to remember to come back soon to explain in more detail, if that's something that you would like.
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Post by bunnylove on Nov 23, 2019 22:51:24 GMT
Thank you for your responses, I have tried to block my daydreams cold turkey before and I have ended up falling back into them as soon as I feel stressed or lonely. I have been home from work this week and I have tried cutting down on my daydreams instead of blocking them completely as I find this too stressful.
I have been watching shows that don't trigger my daydreaming and also I have started reading before bed. I have also tried to go out most days even just to the shops so I am distracted by what I am looking at and also I am aware there are people around so I would feel to self conscious to daydream. I have found this gives me at least a few hours away from my daydreaming.
I think it will be more difficult when I return to work as I use daydreaming especially in the mornings when I am getting ready to block my anxiety. But I feel I have wasted my life inside my head and it is time to spend more time in reality before it is too late.
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Post by dragontooth00 on Dec 4, 2019 6:47:14 GMT
I’ve actually taken up playing DnD on a discord server, it gets me that feeling of fantasy and escape without me being in my head. Plus, I’m bonding with and making new friends! It gives my brain the stimuli it’s looking for without making me feel like I need to MD. I still MD sometimes, but honestly DnD is more satisfying, especially if I’ve had a nice long session like I did tonight. It’s not giving up fantasy, but I think it’s probably a lot healthier for me than being in my head all the time.
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Post by granger on Dec 5, 2019 14:03:01 GMT
I’ve actually taken up playing DnD on a discord server, it gets me that feeling of fantasy and escape without me being in my head. Plus, I’m bonding with and making new friends! It gives my brain the stimuli it’s looking for without making me feel like I need to MD. I still MD sometimes, but honestly DnD is more satisfying, especially if I’ve had a nice long session like I did tonight. It’s not giving up fantasy, but I think it’s probably a lot healthier for me than being in my head all the time. What is DnD? I google but could not find. |
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Post by dragontooth00 on Dec 5, 2019 15:00:25 GMT
I’ve actually taken up playing DnD on a discord server, it gets me that feeling of fantasy and escape without me being in my head. Plus, I’m bonding with and making new friends! It gives my brain the stimuli it’s looking for without making me feel like I need to MD. I still MD sometimes, but honestly DnD is more satisfying, especially if I’ve had a nice long session like I did tonight. It’s not giving up fantasy, but I think it’s probably a lot healthier for me than being in my head all the time. What is DnD? I google but could not find. Dungeons and Dragons. |
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Post by lzg on Dec 15, 2019 8:45:16 GMT
I think its addictive and good to try and replace it with something to do ASAP when you realise you're doing it.
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of him as soon as I wake up.
