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Post by zoie on Dec 3, 2019 13:25:36 GMT
Hello,
I discovered a couple of weeks ago that this is a condition though I've been dealing with MD for more than 20 years now (I'm almost 30).
I managed to pass through school, college, job, without much damage... I guess my sense of duty was always higher that my need to daydream.
I discovered that in a work environment was where I could focus on my duties and develop my skill more freely, since I did not felt the need to engage in my imaginary world.
However, now I'm married and got the opportunity step back and change my working field, to do something that I'm more passionate about it. The problem is that now I'm not in a working environment, I'm doing online courses alone at home. Now every day is a constant battle between my desire to learn and my daydreaming. I'm considering telling my husband so maybe he can help me, although I have no Idea how.
I notice that most of people here wants to give up of the daydream world, and I'm in the opposite side, I want to control it and be able to do it only when I can, when I'm not putting at risk my future. The problem is to how. u_u
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Post by Sam on Dec 3, 2019 21:51:21 GMT
Welcome to the forum Zoie!
As someone else who's alone most of their time, I can really understand how hard it is to resist the urge to daydream. As for telling your husband, you could perhaps just let him know that you're prone to spacing out and hope that he could help with that in some way. From there you can decide how much you want to share with him about the details of the spacing out (daydreams).
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Post by someone on Dec 4, 2019 6:59:16 GMT
Hi Zoie. I am also new here. I found out about MD some days ago. What you're going through is what I went through in high school. I took only online courses and my MD went from just interfering with homework focus to interfering with all schoolwork. Returning to a public environment made staying focused much easier in college, but only initially. The daydreaming had gotten so bad in highschool that once college was no longer new I found I would lose focus in class too. Sometimes even often. I know things are a lot different for you because you are doing online college and you didn't have online high school, but I really think it's a good idea to try to address it early before it gets so bad you can't even keep it from happening when you're surrounded by an actual, active school or work environment. I'm glad you reached out here. I know it is unlikely because you go to an online college, but if you know anyone who's willing to help you study or help you focus or even wants to talk with you everyday about what your learning it would help MD stay in check and you'd keep it from getting that bad. One thing that also worked for me sometimes is imagining someone was there working with me on it.
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Post by zoie on Dec 4, 2019 9:27:07 GMT
Thank you everyone!
About telling my husband, he knows that I like to space out. I guess since I started living with him I develop the skill to have my MD in bed, faking that I was sleeping or trying to. I guess with time he realized that I liked to spend too much time in bed and I just told him that I like to be in my own world sort of speak. But I think he doesn't realize that this is a problem since probably he never heard nothing about MD.
I will see what I can do about finding someone to talk about my course. For now I'v been able to study almost every day, but only a couple of hours, at maximum. Which is unacceptable since I have the whole day. =/
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Post by alvi on Dec 5, 2019 23:27:27 GMT
Welcome to the forum Zoie.
I'm glad you've been able to open up about your problem to your husband even if you haven't been able to tell him the full extent of the issue. I think most of us will never be able to give up our daydreams but hopefully it will be possible to find a happy medium and not let it take over our lives.
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virtualreality
New Daydreamer
I'm suffering from MD for 4 years looking for help and guidance
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Post by virtualreality on Dec 11, 2019 19:34:13 GMT
Hi I'm new here I think i have serious problem of MD and day by day it's getting worse I'm not able to do any work in whole day
My life is getting ruined . Well it's already quiet ruined
I am hopeing to find ways to control it and get back to my normal life
I used to think day dreaming is normal but since past 4 years i can see my life going up side down my day dreaming habit is becoming excessive and now I'm at a point where I can't do any thing .
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Post by Sam on Dec 15, 2019 1:12:45 GMT
Hi I'm new here I think i have serious problem of MD and day by day it's getting worse I'm not able to do any work in whole day My life is getting ruined . Well it's already quiet ruined I am hopeing to find ways to control it and get back to my normal life I used to think day dreaming is normal but since past 4 years i can see my life going up side down my day dreaming habit is becoming excessive and now I'm at a point where I can't do any thing . Daydreaming itself is normal, its the excessive daydreaming that interferes with your life that isn't healthy. There are a lot of good tips around the forum that could be beneficial to you, so I would definitely recommend looking around. Personally, I think that becoming more aware of your triggers is a good first step to regaining control. |
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