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Post by javen99 on Dec 18, 2019 1:19:05 GMT
So I just found Maladaptive daydreaming and it all makes sense now, I always daydream vividly and would physically move and make expressions while daydreaming, I’m 20 now and was getting increasingly concerned since i thought it would pass when I grew up.
Last year I was getting very depressed, I was in my second year of university and I wasn’t attending at all and failing my modules, this is when my daydreaming started to take a dark turn. I used to go out to nightclubs because all my friends did but half way through the night I always started daydreaming to myself, after a while my daydreaming turned from fun fantasies to imagining my own suicide, writing my suicide letter and imagining how each person in my life would respond to my death and if they would care.
I started to become scared of myself and these dreams since I would only think suicidal things when daydreaming and would want to live when not, I went to doctors and they didn’t help me, in the end I encountered some new friends who helped me with my university work and ended up lifting a lot of stress off and the thoughts went away.
I still daydream most of the day but now it’s about movies, games etc. Has anyone else experienced this? It feels weird describing these events now but I guess if I’m gonna write it anywhere it’s here.
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Post by someone on Dec 18, 2019 2:01:54 GMT
I was daydreaming about suicide and reactions to it since I was like 7 or 8. I definitely don't do it often anymore. I used to either exaggerate cruel uncaring reactions in my daydreams or very hurt and and self-blaming reactions. I would hardly think about realistic reactions, but I think the cruel ones were likely closer. Last year during my freshman college year I'll imagine suicide in front of a friend who would feel bad and shocked as I die in front of him. I think that was likely the most realistic reaction. Actually, even recently I was imagining the reactions of my professors should they find out I committed suicide. I have not done it too often recently, and sometimes I don't even think in my imagination it was suicide, it's just an unexplained death. I know that's because I know someone who actually is suicidal and it frightens me so bad that suicide does not accompany my mind often anymore. I know I'm not actually suicidal because I couldn't bring myself to do those things, but I can get destructive in my daydreams to express my painful feelings to myself (usually self destructive). I wasn't even scared of it until I started getting things in dreams mixed up with real life when I was half awake half asleep, and I realized I was talking in real life to dream voices. Then I started worrying about what if I did anything self-destructive in real life that my dream self would do, and my dream self is more likely to do something self destructive if I daydream about it a lot. Now I'm not daydreaming about suicide often, but you are not alone in having had daydreams about suicide while not wanting to actually do that.
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Post by granger on Dec 18, 2019 6:40:55 GMT
Indeed for me it was my negative daydreams that disturbed me most. I was like I don't want these things happening to me then why am I fantasising about them. Its even more embarrassing to admit that these would sometimes lead to arousal. And I can relate so much to Someone and Javen. Many of my characters have committed suicide, while I am definitely not suicidal. I feel so strong emotions through them. Its as if I am addicted to strong emotions. And not just suicide ones, mine can get darker than a quick death. You are definitely not alone. One of my reoccurring themes is being neglected and abused by a loved one that pushes me(character) to suicide. And I can also relate to Someone saying about half sleep and half awake state. It only happens when I am dding compulsively and more intensely than usual for long hours, for at least some days in a row and when the theme is negative. And although I am not very happy, I don't think that I am depressed either.
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Post by fellowmder on Dec 18, 2019 16:46:48 GMT
I was once like that. I guess a year ago, or maybe two. It was similarly about stress due to school load, competition and not living up to people's expectations. Back then, my daydreams were largely vivid. I still remember one of them in which i'd leave the house and die in a fake car accident at night or maybe get killed by a burglar. Then there were others in which i always wished that the transportation back to school would go under some accident and i die in that. I always, every single day thought about the latter one. I wanted to run away from it that bad. Well these are not the suicidal ones but some accident that i always wished would occur. Currently i don't have them.
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Post by javen99 on Dec 18, 2019 23:39:28 GMT
Thanks for the replies, yeah it seems it’s pretty common for this to happen then, for a time I think I was confused about my feelings but now I understand.
The more stressed I am the more likely the dreams are about myself and my own life, usually imagine either a better version or one where I’m not there and it’s just my loved ones and friends. In times when I’m not stressed (summer breaks etc.) it shifts back to things not involving me such as fantasy’s from films and games.
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