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Post by hope on Jan 3, 2020 7:12:24 GMT
Hi Im 15 and I have been having MD problems from 4 years.At first I was making up scenarios with the people near me but then I started imagining things and Ive never stopped ever since.I imagine myself as the perfect woman who's successful and beautiful and I have people to care for me and who love me deeply.And I usually make up friends who would give up everything for me.I also imagine my family to be really proud of me in every way.Till yesterday I actually thought I was crazy and that it is not normal to go through this but coming here calmed me down knowing that there are other people who go through this.I don't have sleep problems although its like Im addicted to it.If I study for half an hour then I daydream for one hour.Hell I even reward myself that If I finish these many chapters I'll daydream for sometime.I can't really talk to anyone about this because im embarrassed and don't have people who would support me so please tell me if there is something I can do except for going to therapy cause that is not possible
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Post by audrey11 on Jan 3, 2020 16:42:49 GMT
I’ve had my symptoms completely disappear when I’ve cut sugar out of my diet. I don’t know what kind of food you have in your house and I know, you’re 15 so you don’t have a lot of control, but do whatever you can to quit drinking soda, especially with caffeine, and try to say no to sweets most of the time. I could get really detailed with this but in general, remember that there is a physical connection to our mental condition. Exercise helps me as long as I’m doing something that doesn’t allow my mind to wander too much. Walking with a friend or following a workout video keeps my mind from daydreaming. Anyway, not an easy answer, but I did these things when I didn’t have therapy and I felt normal for the first time in years! I’ve had this happen twice but it’s hard to maintain. I get stressed and quit taking care of myself, but I know I was well. I’ll never forget how good it was and I’ll keep trying to take care of myself so I can be there again.
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Post by fellowmder on Jan 4, 2020 4:02:38 GMT
I had a very similar situation as yours at that same age. My daydreams were really all about it- success, love and fame. Calm down cause all of us on this forum have such similarities. What i have mostly learnt is that your daydreams can be all that you wanted in real life but you don't currently have it in reality. They could be your dreams like the success part you talked of or they could be things you lost on the way- like maybe you don't have those many friends or company that you expected.basically everything that is unrealised in your reality, you seek in your daydreams. Find truly what it is. And find ways to enculcate those in your real lifestyle. It will take a lot of time and as you said it doesn't let you study, you need to force yourself to.
The thing is, out of experience, if you have come to a realisation about your daydreams just recently then it is better to take action from now itself. At the same age when i had come across this, i was sternly able to take an action against it cause at that time it was my coping mechanism and not a habit. Moreover so many people on the forum had written how it hindered their everyday life- so i was very aware of its consequences. I was able to keep it away for some two months. You can do better than me and might have it leave you for good.
There are a lot of posts on how you can start. Mindfulness, exercise and a good social life are a start. I know it is easy saying it but you can do it.
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Sasha
Junior Daydreamer
School is life
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Post by Sasha on Jan 10, 2020 19:29:45 GMT
Hi Im 15 and I have been having MD problems from 4 years.At first I was making up scenarios with the people near me but then I started imagining things and Ive never stopped ever since.I imagine myself as the perfect woman who's successful and beautiful and I have people to care for me and who love me deeply.And I usually make up friends who would give up everything for me.I also imagine my family to be really proud of me in every way.Till yesterday I actually thought I was crazy and that it is not normal to go through this but coming here calmed me down knowing that there are other people who go through this.I don't have sleep problems although its like Im addicted to it.If I study for half an hour then I daydream for one hour.Hell I even reward myself that If I finish these many chapters I'll daydream for sometime.I can't really talk to anyone about this because im embarrassed and don't have people who would support me so please tell me if there is something I can do except for going to therapy cause that is not possible Trying apps like 'Youper' and 'Woebot' may be great tools for you if you don't feel you can go to therapy (which I don't blame you at all for). I'm so glad you found maladaptive daydreaming disorder, the community is full of amazing, wonderful people. Good luck! :) |
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Post by hope on Jan 11, 2020 12:26:36 GMT
I’ve had my symptoms completely disappear when I’ve cut sugar out of my diet. I don’t know what kind of food you have in your house and I know, you’re 15 so you don’t have a lot of control, but do whatever you can to quit drinking soda, especially with caffeine, and try to say no to sweets most of the time. I could get really detailed with this but in general, remember that there is a physical connection to our mental condition. Exercise helps me as long as I’m doing something that doesn’t allow my mind to wander too much. Walking with a friend or following a workout video keeps my mind from daydreaming. Anyway, not an easy answer, but I did these things when I didn’t have therapy and I felt normal for the first time in years! I’ve had this happen twice but it’s hard to maintain. I get stressed and quit taking care of myself, but I know I was well. I’ll never forget how good it was and I’ll keep trying to take care of myself so I can be there again. thanks a lot👍🏻 |
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Post by hope on Jan 11, 2020 12:29:42 GMT
I had a very similar situation as yours at that same age. My daydreams were really all about it- success, love and fame. Calm down cause all of us on this forum have such similarities. What i have mostly learnt is that your daydreams can be all that you wanted in real life but you don't currently have it in reality. They could be your dreams like the success part you talked of or they could be things you lost on the way- like maybe you don't have those many friends or company that you expected.basically everything that is unrealised in your reality, you seek in your daydreams. Find truly what it is. And find ways to enculcate those in your real lifestyle. It will take a lot of time and as you said it doesn't let you study, you need to force yourself to. The thing is, out of experience, if you have come to a realisation about your daydreams just recently then it is better to take action from now itself. At the same age when i had come across this, i was sternly able to take an action against it cause at that time it was my coping mechanism and not a habit. Moreover so many people on the forum had written how it hindered their everyday life- so i was very aware of its consequences. I was able to keep it away for some two months. You can do better than me and might have it leave you for good. There are a lot of posts on how you can start. Mindfulness, exercise and a good social life are a start. I know it is easy saying it but you can do it. yes that is so true my daydreams are exactly about that and I think the reason is also true.I do have a lot of people I can call friends or people who love me but no one really gets me or can understand me so I think that's why I try to escape this reality and create an alternate universe where I have really caring and understanding friends. Thanks you,I will look into it more😇 |
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Post by hope on Jan 11, 2020 12:30:53 GMT
Hi Im 15 and I have been having MD problems from 4 years.At first I was making up scenarios with the people near me but then I started imagining things and Ive never stopped ever since.I imagine myself as the perfect woman who's successful and beautiful and I have people to care for me and who love me deeply.And I usually make up friends who would give up everything for me.I also imagine my family to be really proud of me in every way.Till yesterday I actually thought I was crazy and that it is not normal to go through this but coming here calmed me down knowing that there are other people who go through this.I don't have sleep problems although its like Im addicted to it.If I study for half an hour then I daydream for one hour.Hell I even reward myself that If I finish these many chapters I'll daydream for sometime.I can't really talk to anyone about this because im embarrassed and don't have people who would support me so please tell me if there is something I can do except for going to therapy cause that is not possible Trying apps like 'Youper' and 'Woebot' may be great tools for you if you don't feel you can go to therapy (which I don't blame you at all for). I'm so glad you found maladaptive daydreaming disorder, the community is full of amazing, wonderful people. Good luck!  Thank you 😇 |
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