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Post by Sam on Jul 1, 2020 19:35:59 GMT
Well, we're apparently halfway through the year already, which doesn't seem accurate because it feels like January was like 2 days ago *cue very loud screaming*
Now that we've got my regularly scheduled existential panic about the passage of time out of the way, onto the thread.
As always, this thread is a place where you can post about any goals you might have and give and receive encouragement in achieving them. Sticking to goals can be really, really difficult for MDers, so we wanted to create a place where you have some sense of accountability about them. The goals can be big or small, short term or long term, and about anything, MD-related or not.
I often post monthly goals for myself, and I make a new thread each month (so that it doesn't get super long and cluttered), but you can post about goals as short term as today or even this hour, or as far into the future as you'd like.
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Post by Sam on Jul 1, 2020 19:45:21 GMT
I'm starting my summer class today, so my main goal for this month is really just going to be maintaining a healthy balance in my life. I have a terrible habit of focusing only on school and allowing everything else--socializing, leisure time, even personal care--to take a back burner. So I want to make sure that I don't do that.
As per my therapist's instruction, I need to work on sitting with my emotions. I have trouble processing my emotions, which causes me to run away from them (usually by daydreaming) and I need to work on not doing that. The first step in processing your emotions and experiences is sitting with them and allowing them to be. If I'm feeling lonely, I need to sit with that and accept what I'm feeling. Emotions aren't wrong or bad, and they don't make me wrong or bad. And no matter how unpleasant they might feel, they can't hurt me, and its important that I just sit with them.
I'd also like to try to pleasure read a little bit. I may not have a lot of time with my class, but I've been completely unmotivated to read 98% of the time since like December of last year. I've started and not finished at least 6 books, which is super unlike me. So I'd like to try to read, to take advantage of that 2% of the time that I do feel motivated to read, and read just a little bit. Maybe after a while of doing that, I'll end up with the motivation to read more.
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Post by ophelia on Jul 2, 2020 0:40:29 GMT
My goal is to be more in the present moment. I know that my daydreaming really distracts me from conversations with people and I am guilty of daydreaming and meanwhile keeping the conversation going with family and friends. So, in order to be in the present moment, I want to try mindfulness activities like breathing exercises in times where I want to daydream. I just want to be more attentive to people who give me their time even though they do not have to.
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Post by Sam on Jul 2, 2020 20:56:04 GMT
My goal is to be more in the present moment. I know that my daydreaming really distracts me from conversations with people and I am guilty of daydreaming and meanwhile keeping the conversation going with family and friends. So, in order to be in the present moment, I want to try mindfulness activities like breathing exercises in times where I want to daydream. I just want to be more attentive to people who give me their time even though they do not have to. This is a good goal. I'd like to give you a few tips on your mindfulness if that's okay (if not, just ignore everything past this point). Mindfulness can be really helpful in teaching you to continually come back to the present moment. But it's essential that you do so nonjudgmentally. Whether you're doing a formal practice or just coming back to the present when you drift off in conversation, you need to do so with kindness and nonjudgmental acceptance. You're going to drift off. That's just a fact. Unless you're enlightened or brain dead, you can't completely stop your brain from having thoughts. The goal is to notice that you've drifted off, and then gently bring yourself back to your point of attention (often the breath in formal practice, but it could also be the conversation you're having, etc.). It's also important that you don't judge your practice as being good or bad or focus too much on your goal of practice (whatever you're trying to get out of practicing mindfulness). A common misconception about mindfulness is that if you're constantly having to bring yourself back to your point of focus, you're practicing "wrong" because your mind isn't clear enough. That's incorrect. The practice is the act of bringing your focus back. Not any clearness or calmness. Even if you have to bring yourself back to the breath 50 times in 2 minutes, it's okay. That is the practice. Nonjudgmentally bringing yourself back to your point of focus no matter how many times you drift off is the practice. You also aren't going to see instantaneous "results." Over time, you'll get better at bringing yourself back, but its important to not focus on that goal. If you do, you'll miss out on the practice.
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Post by jacob on Jul 3, 2020 16:50:08 GMT
Well My Goal Was Simply Have Some Friends Even Just One Cause I Don't Have Any!! It's Been A Long Time That I've Been Loner! Well I Have Been Some Friends In The Past They All Gone On Contact So Life Sucks!!
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Post by Sam on Jul 3, 2020 17:47:40 GMT
Well My Goal Was Simply Have Some Friends Even Just One Cause I Don't Have Any!! It's Been A Long Time That I've Been Loner! Well I Have Been Some Friends In The Past They All Gone On Contact So Life Sucks!! Talking to other people here on the forum can be very beneficial for this. Not only can you have friends on the forum, it also gives you practice for talking to people in real life and should make socializing and making friends easier.
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Post by Heidi on Jul 4, 2020 17:51:33 GMT
Well My Goal Was Simply Have Some Friends Even Just One Cause I Don't Have Any!! It's Been A Long Time That I've Been Loner! Well I Have Been Some Friends In The Past They All Gone On Contact So Life Sucks!! i can relate to you in this
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Post by someone on Jul 14, 2020 22:40:46 GMT
Just for today, I want to finish reading these notes that the professor had provided online, and I want to get some homework assignments submitted. Maybe all of them for this class.
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Post by Sam on Jul 15, 2020 18:04:21 GMT
We're about halfway through the month, does anyone have updates or new goals that they'd like to share?
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Post by Lissa periera on Jul 17, 2020 6:19:48 GMT
Hii, I'm a 16 yr girl Well, I'm not a very active daydreamer. I just try to imagine my future, my career as if I'm very successful and have a perfect life. It makes me feel good, it brings happiness. And i think its because i don't have a perfect life now I just want to be as if I'm in my dream and i want everyone to care about me. And due to this there is surely lack of concentration in my studies but sometimes it inspires me to study
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Post by someone on Jul 21, 2020 1:52:17 GMT
This is my plan for just right now.
1) do what I want for 30 minutes 2) work on my homework for an hour 3) if I want a break, do what I want again, but for a decided amount of time I didn't come up with yet
If I don't, then keep working for up to 15 minutes and then reconsider a break
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Post by someone on Jul 21, 2020 7:24:07 GMT
This is my plan for just right now. 1) do what I want for 30 minutes 2) work on my homework for an hour 3) if I want a break, do what I want again, but for a decided amount of time I didn't come up with yet If I don't, then keep working for up to 15 minutes and then reconsider a break I did this right for the first part. But I ended up daydreaming a bit during my scheduled working time, and I didn't pause my timer when I had to take a break to keep an eye on my siblings twice for a few minutes each. I went sightly over on my first break. Like, a couple minutes. On that second break, I went way over. I forgot to start the timer for both my breaks at first, but then I did. Even so, I went way over the time the timer went off for my second break. I also realized I got into reading about the topic I've been obsessing over. I was trying to read about addressing the problem, but it went south and I realized I was going over time to read what I was trying to stop reading. What a friend of mine had even said I should stop obsessing over. I scrolled through to find more helpful info in the article, but got stuck on the subject again before I finally gave it up. I was way passed the time I was supposed to stop but I don't even know how long because I didn't even reset the timer. I'm going back to work now. I'll work for an hour, and then I'll take a 30 minute break again, and hopefully not go into reading about anything that could lead me into the topic I've been obsessing over.
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Post by sarah on Jul 29, 2020 4:56:47 GMT
I need to go to physiotherapy. I've been diagnosed with sciatica which means something's wrong with my back. I suspect that all these years of exercising and dding may have done some damage to my spine. I'm not quite sure what the best way to tell the physiotherapist about the repeditive movements I do while dding is. I hope it's not the repeditive movements I do that's the cause of what's wrong with my spine.
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Post by Sam on Jul 29, 2020 19:13:45 GMT
I need to go to physiotherapy. I've been diagnosed with sciatica which means something's wrong with my back. I suspect that all these years of exercising and dding may have done some damage to my spine. I'm not quite sure what the best way to tell the physiotherapist about the repeditive movements I do while dding is. I hope it's not the repeditive movements I do that's the cause of what's wrong with my spine. You could mention them as being stims? That's essentially what they are anyways.
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Post by sarah on Jul 30, 2020 1:38:16 GMT
I need to go to physiotherapy. I've been diagnosed with sciatica which means something's wrong with my back. I suspect that all these years of exercising and dding may have done some damage to my spine. I'm not quite sure what the best way to tell the physiotherapist about the repeditive movements I do while dding is. I hope it's not the repeditive movements I do that's the cause of what's wrong with my spine. You could mention them as being stims? That's essentially what they are anyways. Would stepping back and fourth qualify as stims?
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