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Post by katie on Dec 12, 2018 19:13:14 GMT
Growing up I didn't know I had a heart condition until I was about 21. This meant that over doing anything like playing with my friends example catch made me sick so I kept quiet and most spent time on my own playing with toys so I isolated myself away from the friends. I was also bullied though out school until I was about 19 which cause my social anxiety. I think loneliness and social anxiety caused mine.
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Post by Sam on Oct 1, 2019 18:19:09 GMT
i have no idea what caused my MD. sometimes i think it might be the divorce that my parents went through when i was 8 (i'm 24 now). but when i think about my childhood, i remember daydreaming way before my parents divorced. sometimes i think it's just how my brain was wired. maybe the area in the brain that activates daydreaming and imagination is abnormally active? i wish we had more research on that. i study psychology and my main focus is to do my research on this topic. Daydreaming itself isn't bad. Pretty much everyone daydreams, especially children. Its when it starts interfering with your real life that it becomes maladaptive. |
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Post by tshark73 on Oct 1, 2019 20:14:00 GMT
Child abuse.
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Post by katie on Oct 1, 2019 22:50:03 GMT
I am so sorry to hear that was going to like your post so instead sending you. Thanks for sharing Heart: |
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hanaiyah
New Daydreamer
Self-Acceptance is the way forward!
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Post by hanaiyah on Oct 2, 2019 9:37:07 GMT
I have no idea why I have MD. I know when it started, but I have no idea why.
I know that MD is supposed to be caused by some sort of trauma- but I didn't have any. My childhood was quite good. I did experience bullying but my MD started before then. I think I daydreamed in a happy way, but now my daydreams are a way of coping for me. I realise that I have some symptoms akin to social anxiety- which may have made it maladaptive. Most of my daydreams are about social situations. I am way more assertive in my daydreams and am a strong person not caring what anyone says about me or to me.
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Post by outofdagame on Oct 2, 2019 11:30:14 GMT
i have no idea what caused my MD. sometimes i think it might be the divorce that my parents went through when i was 8 (i'm 24 now). but when i think about my childhood, i remember daydreaming way before my parents divorced. sometimes i think it's just how my brain was wired. maybe the area in the brain that activates daydreaming and imagination is abnormally active? i wish we had more research on that. i study psychology and my main focus is to do my research on this topic. Daydreaming itself isn't bad. Pretty much everyone daydreams, especially children. Its when it starts interfering with your real life that it becomes maladaptive. i know it isn't bad, but since i remember myself it altered my real life, so much that sometimes i forgot who i am. it has always been like that. sometimes i wonder if it was abnormal even for a child |
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Post by ananya1765 on Oct 12, 2019 16:47:45 GMT
I don't think I know for sure, but when my dad passed away my daydreams started taking over a huge part of my life. I Have daydreams in which I have an amazing stepdad but other daydreams are about my life partner. I can understand the first one but the second one is kind of weird cause I'm just 14.Also,In my daydreams I'm always older than my real age,like 18, 24,27 and sometimes I'm more than 30.
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Post by Sam on Oct 12, 2019 21:26:41 GMT
I don't think I know for sure, but when my dad passed away my daydreams started taking over a huge part of my life. I Have daydreams in which I have an amazing stepdad but other daydreams are about my life partner. I can understand the first one but the second one is kind of weird cause I'm just 14.Also,In my daydreams I'm always older than my real age,like 18, 24,27 and sometimes I'm more than 30. There's a thread somewhere around here about your age in your daydreams. Personally, when I was younger I daydreamed about being older as well and I think that it was probably because I felt like if I was older, people would take me more seriously. As for daydreaming about a life partner, I don't think its really that weird. Your mid to late teens are generally when you transfer from having short, superficial romantic relationships to having longer, more meaningful ones. I can't pretend that I have a lot of experience with that, but its not illogical for your daydreams to also move in that direction. Especially if your daydreaming is in any way a coping method, having the comfort and connection of a life partner in your daydreams would fulfill some of that real life desire. |
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Post by ananya1765 on Oct 13, 2019 15:34:50 GMT
I don't think I know for sure, but when my dad passed away my daydreams started taking over a huge part of my life. I Have daydreams in which I have an amazing stepdad but other daydreams are about my life partner. I can understand the first one but the second one is kind of weird cause I'm just 14.Also,In my daydreams I'm always older than my real age,like 18, 24,27 and sometimes I'm more than 30. There's a thread somewhere around here about your age in your daydreams. Personally, when I was younger I daydreamed about being older as well and I think that it was probably because I felt like if I was older, people would take me more seriously. As for daydreaming about a life partner, I don't think its really that weird. Your mid to late teens are generally when you transfer from having short, superficial romantic relationships to having longer, more meaningful ones. I can't pretend that I have a lot of experience with that, but its not illogical for your daydreams to also move in that direction. Especially if your daydreaming is in any way a coping method, having the comfort and connection of a life partner in your daydreams would fulfill some of that real life desire. That's the thing my daydreams aren't about Some silly relationship a teen has, they involve marriage,my kids and all that but In real life I've never been in a relantionship. I've been daydreaming about my life partner (they are always very serious relationships) since I was 11. |
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Post by kokimon31 on Nov 15, 2019 16:46:35 GMT
I really don't know what causes my daydreaming... I'm trying to recognize my triggers but i really have hard time, im lost. Does anyone have some tricks or advice in how to recognize triggers?
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Post by Sam on Nov 15, 2019 18:18:17 GMT
I really don't know what causes my daydreaming... I'm trying to recognize my triggers but i really have hard time, im lost. Does anyone have some tricks or advice in how to recognize triggers? Tracking or just paying attention to what you're doing right before you daydream can help a lot. It does require a fair amount of awareness around your daydreaming. Mindfulness would probably help with that. Some common triggers are stress, depression, strong (especially unpleasant) emotions, music, and media like tv, movies, or books. |
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Post by serenity on Nov 15, 2019 23:15:14 GMT
Rough childhood for me. Dad was an alcoholic, who drank our mortgage away. Mum took it out on me. Physically and verbally. Entirely forgiven, I must say. Mum had no choice to respond otherwise. Product of her upbringing and culture. Once I understood thst, could nave blame her, or my dad, for what they were. To do so would be entirely unfair. Before they divorced, house was a war zone. Always hid with my toys. I had star wars, Mask, Transformers, etc. But never played with them as their characters. One was always me, rather than whomever. Hid there, and progressed into MDD from there. Didn't help I was very different from my most of my peers. Council estate kids. They were into football, and army stuff, and fighting etc. I was into books, and reading. My IQ is tested significantly above average. Not in a conceited way, im really not that at all, but I had nothing in common with them. But the characters I created in my head were my friends, who understood me, and conversed on mh level. Ridiculous thing is, they were just aspects of me. But I'm getting better. 21 days MDD free.
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Post by itazmia on Nov 16, 2019 19:54:20 GMT
Hello Ali,
I am really interested in the twitching aspect - do you get twitching straight after and during day dreams? Do they occur anywhere? Are the like twitches under skin..? Look forward to hearing from you?
As far as I can remember, I’ve always had MD even as a young child without even realizing it. Growing up, I didn’t have many friends which caused me to feel extremely lonely and have a lot of time on my hands. So I’d just lie in bed, put some headphones in, and go wild with daydreaming and twitching and HOURS would pass. I missed many opportunities in life because it got so bad, which only worsened my depression and made the daydreaming worse. On top of that, I found out at kind of a young age that my parents were divorcing and not only that, but I was struggling in school between not being able to keep up with the work and dealing with two abusive best friends and an anxiety disorder, and so I just coped with everything by isolating myself and always listening to music, always daydreaming. It’s always been and probably always will continue to be a habit of mine that nobody really knows about. Maybe one day it’ll become less of a strain on my life if my situations get better, but yeah, that’s what I believe caused it. |
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Post by itazmia on Nov 16, 2019 19:57:21 GMT
Hello,
Thats the issue i habe its highly addictive, and at the same time i dont want it - i am sorry to hear about your dad - i had a very simiar traumatic start to life.
It causes strange psyhosomatic symptoms like a dull colour of skin soo after daydreaming. It also causes stress which is visible on my face.
When I was 5 years old my father had a heart attack and he stayed for 7 years in a permanent vegetative state. It was very traumatic for a kid. I didn't had a father to raise me, I couldn't bring any friends to my house, in the father day at school mine wasn't there (everyone asked if he was dead or something like this). I start daydreaming very early, to scape from this life. But for me, a kid with 5 or 6 year old, that was just a normal way to play and distract myself, but I didn't tell anyone, I tought it was embarasing. As I was growing up I kept daydreaming knowing that wasn't normal, but also just ignoring this problem in my life. One day, like 2 ou 3 years ago, I just found out what is MD and I could see myself in the post I read about it. Since that day, there are times that I try to control myself, I know what is my trigger, I know the roots, but is something that is out of my control, because gives me pleasure like I was addicted. |
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Post by bud on Nov 17, 2019 1:46:46 GMT
Hi
I’m a new member
I never knew they had a name for this until now. Never realize how this could be a problem or what really trigger this so called fantasy world I called it. I’m there yet to talk about what has trigger it. I just know it helps get rid of the real world.
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Post by bee on Nov 17, 2019 6:41:12 GMT
Hi I’m a new member I never knew they had a name for this until now. Never realize how this could be a problem or what really trigger this so called fantasy world I called it. I’m there yet to talk about what has trigger it. I just know it helps get rid of the real world. Hey bud, welcome to the forum! |
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