Hey everyone. I'm going to tell someone about my MD. Almost everything about it. I'm going to do it in a couple of days. For background information, this is someone who I trust VERY much. This person has been nothing but helpful and nonjudgmental throughout the time I have known her. I'm feeling really good about telling this person, and I have no doubt in my mind that they will be accepting about my situation.
From what I have read on this forum, not a lot of you have positive experiences from telling people. Even if you have had good or bad experiences, do you have any advice for telling this person about my MD? I've never told anyone else, and I don't intend to tell anyone else in the foreseeable future. If you had a positive experience, let me know what went great and why it did! If it didn't go as well as you expected, what do you think could've gone better (that was in your control)? Any advice would be appreciated. That being said, please don't feel pressured in any way to say anything about your experiences. Thank you!
Post by thedolphinbaby57 on Dec 14, 2020 22:34:19 GMT
In my experience, trying to tell someone about my MD never really worked or came across as I hoped it would. Maladaptive Daydreaming is very hard to describe to non mders and I feel like if I tell someone what MD is they'll either think I'm insane or just tell me the ol' classic "EvErYBoDy dAYdReaMs So You'Re fINE." There will be a mixture of responses and to be honest I think it will just be brushed to the side and forgot about and no one notices. It's just never been the best experience to me. I try to tell some of my closest friends but I think they just don't understand and just think "oh she just spaces out a lot nothing new". I never even told my parents not one bit about it. Oh well. It's good that you have someone you trust..but still have them look at some websites and articles and videos about the thing so they can get a better understanding of it. It may help.
I told one therapist about it. He asked me several questions. I really hadn't analyzed my MD enough to give him good answers. He basically just glossed over the whole thing and focused on his forte which was ADHD/ADD.
I have a real beef with ADHD/ADD. It may be a real thing for some people. But blaming my condition on something that I was born with ignores the way I felt as a child, and the subsequent C-PTSD that I think I got from it. I was diagnosed with ADD once; took Ritalin; it didn't help. End of story. Don't tell me i have ADD!
I think if you're going to tell a therapist about it, you should journal about your daydreams first, so you have enough information to give them. (really... that's the therapist job: to tell you to journal) And print out some info about it from the web, so they can see it’s a real thing.
I did let my husband and mother know about five years ago. I posted an entry on my blog about how I did it and how it was received. In the end, I did feel better and though they might not have really understood, they listened and accepted. I also told a co-worker once who was showing signs that he had maladaptive daydreaming traits, that he might want to look into it (since I had) and when I described what MD was, with each symptom and description his eyes widened and said, "That IS me!" We weren't close, and I think that's why I felt comfortable to tell him because it's not like he could say anything to people I knew, and since I understood what a private disorder this is, just my telling him made him feel like he wasn't alone.
It's not like these things made it better for me and the people I told, or that I daydreamed less. It's more like a weight taken off my shoulders that I no longer needed to lie or hide something about what I was doing.