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Post by Sam on Sept 29, 2019 18:31:09 GMT
Hello and Welcome To keep our online community a welcoming, supportive and safe place we ask that all members follow our Forum rules so before posting please take a moment to read the guidelines found here. You can get started by adding a bit about yourself here in the introduction board (not required). Or just jump in--you can post in any thread at any time or start your own. Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them, but I promise you; everyone here wants to hear what you have to say. The forum is monitored by a team of volunteer moderators who are here to offer advice and support when they can and will also be looking out for any posts which do not follow the forum guidelines or are abusive to other members and will remove them if necessary. If you have any questions about how to use the forum, please message one of the moderators and we'll get back to you as soon as possible. If you'd like to introduce yourself to all of us here on the forum, go back to the "New Members" board (the board that this thread is in) and click on the yellow button in the upper right corner that says "Create Thread." You can share as much or as little as you like :) We look forward to getting to know you better and to hear more about you about your experiences with maladaptive daydreaming. Best Wishes from all at Daydream in Blue x Moderator Introductions- Dimmer : Hey, Dimmer, 34, married, one kid. Been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It goes through it's cycles of kinda ok and very bad, I found out about MD a few years ago but sort of ignored it for a while, and then things got a lot worse so I finally started addressing it and trying to curb the 'mal' part. It's going alright, been some ups and downs but I'm making progress. Glad to be here!
- alvi : I'm Alvi and I've been a member of Daydream in Blue since day one. I really don't remember a time when I didn't excessively daydream. I first found out about MD in 2015 and I've been part of the community since then. I think the reason I have this problem is that has been a source of comfort and my way of coping with a difficult past, mental health problems and it is a way for me to escape from my health conditions. At the same time it has made me lose out on real life experiences and has caused many missed opportunities. I'm trying harder to change and get some control over my daydreaming but its a long and painfully slow progress.
I'm not an expert on MD by any means but I will always try to answer your posts, messages and chats to the best of my ability so please don't feel shy to reach out for support.
- Sam : Hi everyone! My name is Sam. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since my preteens and I'm almost 20 now. The daydreaming is mostly a coping mechanism for my severe anxiety and the isolation that I've had as a result of my anxiety. I became a member of this forum shortly after it was started and its helped me so much. Being able to talk about my experiences with other people has benefitted me in so many ways and I love being able to use my knowledge to help others. I try to check in when I can, usually a few times a day, so if you ever have any questions about MD or the forum in general, feel free to message me and I'll respond as soon as I can.
- Theaxe :
Hi everyone! I am one of the co-creators of DIB when we launched in 2018, and I also manage the maladaptive daydreamers' Twitter account @md_SupportGroup. I was born in 1974, and throughout my entire life I have had daydream-addiction. I have found various ways to live with it, talk about it, yet I can never seem to truly eliminate it. I spend time taking on some real-life projects that include some freelance writing and taking a course to learn a new language which I have found helps me manage my MD. I'm here on daydream in blue and on other platforms to engage in some great discussion about MD with you all and to offer my help and support.
- katie : Hello to all our members my name is Katie. I am 30F from Ireland. As far as I can remember I was a daydreamer and it became maladaptive when I was about 6 or 7.
I remember getting my first CD player and that was it I was stuck into my daydreaming world and made it so comforting that I didn't want to get away. It help me through some pretty hard time and I am grateful for that but now I am wanting to ease it and to talk to people that I can relate and have this in common with too.
I found out about madd 2 years ago and joined this group when it was a month after starting so far I have been trying ways to help control and ease my daydreaming and also give non professional advice and share my knowledge and experience to help others through it. If you need to talk to me about anything please pm me thanks.
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Post by umbriel on Mar 3, 2020 5:01:40 GMT
Greetings everyone, my name is Umbriel. I am a 29 year old Canadian woman who has been excessively day dreaming since I was around 8 or 9. I believe it is due to my past bullying trauma. I am currently undergoing medical therapy to diagnose some potential other illnesses that I may have (Cyclothymia, Avoidant Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder). When I was in my mid to late teens/early twenties, I would often stay up until 4 in the morning, listening to music and getting lost in my mind. Luckily I have grown out of that phase, but it is still very much prevalent. Video game characters tend to be my go to subjects for day dreams. I just found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming today. I was too often scared to look into what was going on, because I knew it was not normal and it frightened me. I’m so glad to have found this community and I hope it is still active. Thanks for reading my rambling.  |
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Post by Sam on Mar 3, 2020 5:37:04 GMT
Greetings everyone, my name is Umbriel. I am a 29 year old Canadian woman who has been excessively day dreaming since I was around 8 or 9. I believe it is due to my past bullying trauma. I am currently undergoing medical therapy to diagnose some potential other illnesses that I may have (Cyclothymia, Avoidant Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder). When I was in my mid to late teens/early twenties, I would often stay up until 4 in the morning, listening to music and getting lost in my mind. Luckily I have grown out of that phase, but it is still very much prevalent. Video game characters tend to be my go to subjects for day dreams. I just found out about Maladaptive Daydreaming today. I was too often scared to look into what was going on, because I knew it was not normal and it frightened me. I’m so glad to have found this community and I hope it is still active. Thanks for reading my rambling. <3 Welcome to the forum Umbriel! It's not super active here, but there are usually a few people who come on occasionally, a few regulars, and the mods check in as frequently as we can, so you'll always find someone willing to listen :) |
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Post by ibowtiesandfezes on Mar 7, 2020 5:13:18 GMT
Hi, I'm ibowtiesandfezes. I'm 17 years old, and I've been a daydreamer for as long as I can remember. More recently though, daydreaming has gotten pretty out of control. I'm constantly zoning out, and repeating dialogue of characters I'm  about out loud without realizing I'm doing it and receiving some odd looks. After I was so deep in a daydream I didn't even realize I had ran past my classroom, or that I was even running at all, I thought something was off. I ended up finding out about MD through memes, and I thought it fit what I'm going through. I was kind of apprehensive about joining an online community, since I've been told about dangers online, but I really wanted some people to talk to who would understand what's going on with me. If anyone reads this, thanks for listening to my nonsense, and it is a pleasure to meet you! |
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Post by Sam on Mar 7, 2020 5:51:57 GMT
Hi, I'm ibowtiesandfezes. I'm 17 years old, and I've been a daydreamer for as long as I can remember. More recently though, daydreaming has gotten pretty out of control. I'm constantly zoning out, and repeating dialogue of characters I'm thinking about out loud without realizing I'm doing it and receiving some odd looks. After I was so deep in a daydream I didn't even realize I had ran past my classroom, or that I was even running at all, I thought something was off. I ended up finding out about MD through memes, and I thought it fit what I'm going through. I was kind of apprehensive about joining an online community, since I've been told about dangers online, but I really wanted some people to talk to who would understand what's going on with me. If anyone reads this, thanks for listening to my nonsense, and it is a pleasure to meet you! Welcome! As far as online communities go, this one seems to be pretty safe. If you're really concerned, just make sure you don't share any personal information that you don't want strangers to know. Basically, just follow the usual internet safety protocol, and you should be good. One of the greatest things about the existence of this forum is that we can talk to other people who understand what we're going through. Not many of us have told people we know in real life, and even when we do, even when they're helpful and sympathetic, they just don't understand. With a condition like this, the only way to truly understand what it's like is to experience it yourself. I hope we're able to offer you support and help you. |
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Post by kels on Mar 7, 2020 7:34:18 GMT
Hi, Kelsey 18, I remember my daydreams more than my actual memories. I got mis-diagnosed a lot and only recently started figuring out that the reason was they couldn’t concretely diagnosis me was because they literally couldn’t... so at first they thought it was schizophrenia. It was not (thankfully, I guess it depends on how you look at it) because it also caused a lot of confusion... but I have been off all psychiatric meds for 6 months so I’d like to think I’m getting better. Anyway that’s that.
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Post by maya on Mar 31, 2020 4:50:20 GMT
 ! I'm maya. I just turned 16 and I live in Canada. I had no idea this existed but it definitely explains a lot, haha. It's so cool to see that other people do this, too. |
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Post by tree on Apr 2, 2020 5:55:08 GMT
Hello I’m 27 and have been dreaming since I was about 8 years old. Started doing it after a lot of trauma and it has really helped me.
I just found out a year or so ago that it had a name and was a actual diagnosable thing. I’ve never been diagnosed but I know this is what I have. I’m happy I found out what it is. The only person that knows I do this is my bf, that I live with, but he doesn’t quite understand when I tell him. And he obviously has never seen me do it. With the coronavirus I’ve been feeling super anxious because I haven’t been able to dream in awhile, since my bf works from home now. It’s been difficult, usually I can control it just fine and go a week or two and not do it, but this anxiety has made it an issue.
I’m glad this forum exists. Thanks for reading.
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Post by charxcey on Apr 5, 2020 9:17:48 GMT
Hi my name is Ceyda. Im from Turkey. I have been daydreaming since i was 10. Actually im thankful for them because i had a bad trauma when i was 10 and it lasted 2 years. My dreams help me to get over it and they made my life so much fun. But when i get older it become a big problem. I cant study my exams. Its affecting my daily life so much. Sometimes i feel like im crazy. Im realizing that im talking to myself laughing, crying and walking in circles in my room. So  that there is no treatment yet. I was feeling alone than i figured out that there is so much people feeling like me. I hope we all figure it out how to control and get over this disorder. I dont want to lose them but at least i want to control them. |
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Post by charxcey on Apr 5, 2020 9:18:11 GMT
Hi my name is Ceyda. Im from Turkey. I have been daydreaming since i was 10. Actually im thankful for them because i had a bad trauma when i was 10 and it lasted 2 years. My dreams help me to get over it and they made my life so much fun. But when i get older it become a big problem. I cant study my exams. Its affecting my daily life so much. Sometimes i feel like im crazy. Im realizing that im talking to myself laughing, crying and walking in circles in my room. So that there is no treatment yet. I was feeling alone than i figured out that there is so much people feeling like me. I hope we all figure it out how to control and get over this disorder. I dont want to lose them but at least i want to control them. |
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Post by lucy13 on Apr 5, 2020 13:21:17 GMT
Hi all, my name is Lucy and I'm 25. I've had MD since my pre-teens, but only discovered last year that there was actually a term to describe this. For most of my teenage and college years, I was completely stuck in various fantasy worlds that I had created in my own head. It meant that I missed out on a lot of opportunities and closed myself off to a lot of people. I always thought that daydreaming never really harmed me or anyone else, and that it helped my creativity and imagination to flourish. That is true to some extent, but recently I've realised that it also leads me to engage in increased negative and self-criticism. I think MD functions for me as a symptom of anxiety - whenever I'm feeling low I always have these imaginary worlds, characters and plot lines to keep me company. And in these worlds, I'm always an ideal version of myself (beautiful, courageous, intelligent etc). But slipping into these worlds actually reinforces my idea of myself that I'm not enough, these feelings of inadequacy cause me to retreat further into imaginary worlds, and the cycle continues. To borrow a phrase from Mark Manson, it's a feedback loop from hell. I'm so glad to have found this forum and it's made me realise that I'm not alone in this. Most of all I look forward to finding coping techniques to avoid MD. I'm grateful for the solace it's given me over the years, and I do think part of my creativity stems from being able to build these worlds for myself, but it's also incredibly self-destructive and I'm ready to move on. |
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Post by simon on Apr 20, 2020 1:36:02 GMT
Hey I’m Simon. I’m 17 and I’ve been daydreaming since i was around 10 or 11 years old. I’m also trans ftm.
It started in middle school right after I moved, I actually vividly remember the day I started. I was obsessed with youtube stars and was extremely lonely. So, I used to daydream about being in their collab groups and honestly about boys having interest in me even tho I was 11. I think it was mostly to cope with people never having crushes on me and constantly being rejected by my crushes.
Every time I watch a new show or discover a new universe, I have an itch to plug myself in it. I can always feel the plot and my new character brewing and sometimes its a strain to have the idea sit there without being in the place to act it. I always felt uncomfortable daydreaming while other people could see me because I talk out loud and do the actions almost all of the time. so it prevents it from getting in the way of schoolwork. It was just comforting to be able to be whoever I wanted to be and hang out with whoever I liked in a show or movie. Go on super adventures or just do really regular things. I think I also use it as a distraction from when my mind wanders to the negative side of things. I’m undiagnosed, but I’ve wanted to be assessed for OCD and anxiety for a while.
I’m pretty good with stopping myself, I think only because I feel ashamed of it. I kind of associate it with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (my mom is a narcissist) because I do daydream of success and being loved and cared for in whatever universe I’m dreaming about, but I think I just scare myself into all these tunnels of thought and that’s why I’d like to see a professional.
It’s really hard to be open about this and I don’t think I’ve ever said anything about it to anyone in real life out of fear of being made fun of or judged. It’s relieving to find a community, but I still feel like there will be negative consequences for acknowledging it’s actually a thing I do.
I’m also struggling a bit with the format of the site, but I’m sure I’ll catch on. Hopefully this posts in the right place. Feel free to talk to me if you have a similar experience or any advice or input. Anything at all really. Hope you’re all safe and well :D
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Post by Sam on Apr 22, 2020 16:33:59 GMT
Hey I’m Simon. I’m 17 and I’ve been daydreaming since i was around 10 or 11 years old. I’m also trans ftm. It started in middle school right after I moved, I actually vividly remember the day I started. I was obsessed with youtube stars and was extremely lonely. So, I used to daydream about being in their collab groups and honestly about boys having interest in me even tho I was 11. I think it was mostly to cope with people never having crushes on me and constantly being rejected by my crushes. Every time I watch a new show or discover a new universe, I have an itch to plug myself in it. I can always feel the plot and my new character brewing and sometimes its a strain to have the idea sit there without being in the place to act it. I always felt uncomfortable daydreaming while other people could see me because I talk out loud and do the actions almost all of the time. so it prevents it from getting in the way of schoolwork. It was just comforting to be able to be whoever I wanted to be and hang out with whoever I liked in a show or movie. Go on super adventures or just do really regular things. I think I also use it as a distraction from when my mind wanders to the negative side of things. I’m undiagnosed, but I’ve wanted to be assessed for OCD and anxiety for a while. I’m pretty good with stopping myself, I think only because I feel ashamed of it. I kind of associate it with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (my mom is a narcissist) because I do daydream of success and being loved and cared for in whatever universe I’m dreaming about, but I think I just scare myself into all these tunnels of thought and that’s why I’d like to see a professional. It’s really hard to be open about this and I don’t think I’ve ever said anything about it to anyone in real life out of fear of being made fun of or judged. It’s relieving to find a community, but I still feel like there will be negative consequences for acknowledging it’s actually a thing I do. I’m also struggling a bit with the format of the site, but I’m sure I’ll catch on. Hopefully this posts in the right place. Feel free to talk to me if you have a similar experience or any advice or input. Anything at all really. Hope you’re all safe and well :D Welcome to the forum! We do our best to keep this community a safe and welcoming place, so do your best not to worry about being judged. Most of us have fairly similar experiences, so we can really understand what each other is going through. I can really relate to wanting to insert yourself into new universes. Its actually one of the reasons why I've lost some of my love for reading. I know I'll end up creating a new daydream and I don't really want to do that. A lot of us dream about success and such. Actually, that's one of the most common daydream themes, even among non-MDers. I've said it before--it feels really good to daydream about success and love because you get those feelings instantly, without any of the effort and hardship that come along with attaining those things in real life. |
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Post by toota on May 2, 2020 16:29:51 GMT
Hello and Welcome To keep our online community a welcoming, supportive and safe place we ask that all members follow our Forum rules so before posting please take a moment to read the guidelines found here. You can get started by adding a bit about yourself here in the introduction board (not required). Or just jump in--you can post in any thread at any time or start your own. Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them, but I promise you; everyone here wants to hear what you have to say. The forum is monitored by a team of volunteer moderators who are here to offer advice and support when they can and will also be looking out for any posts which do not follow the forum guidelines or are abusive to other members and will remove them if necessary. If you have any questions about how to use the forum, please message one of the moderators and we'll get back to you as soon as possible. If you'd like to introduce yourself to all of us here on the forum, go back to the "New Members" board (the board that this thread is in) and click on the yellow button in the upper right corner that says "Create Thread." You can share as much or as little as you like  We look forward to getting to know you better and to hear more about you about your experiences with maladaptive daydreaming. Best Wishes from all at Daydream in Blue x Moderator Introductions- Dimmer : Hey, Dimmer, 33, married, one kid. Been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It goes through it's cycles of kinda ok and very bad, I found out about MD a few years ago but sort of ignored it for a while, and then things got a lot worse so I finally started addressing it and trying to curb the 'mal' part. It's going alright, been some ups and downs but I'm making progress. Glad to be here!
- alvi : I'm Alvi and I've been a member of Daydream in Blue since day one. I really don't remember a time when I didn't excessively daydream. I first found out about MD in 2015 and I've been part of the community since then. I think the reason I have this problem is that has been a source of comfort and my way of coping with a difficult past, mental health problems and it is a way for me to escape from my health conditions. At the same time it has made me lose out on real life experiences and has caused many missed opportunities. I'm trying harder to change and get some control over my daydreaming but its a long and painfully slow progress.
I'm not an expert on MD by any means but I will always try to answer your posts, messages and chats to the best of my ability so please don't feel shy to reach out for support. - Sam : Hi everyone! My name is Sam. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since my preteens and I'm almost 20 now. The daydreaming is mostly a coping mechanism for my severe anxiety and the isolation that I've had as a result of my anxiety. I became a member of this forum shortly after it was started and its helped me so much. Being able to talk about my experiences with other people has benefitted me in so many ways and I love being able to use my knowledge to help others. I try to check in when I can, usually a few times a day, so if you ever have any questions about MD or the forum in general, feel free to message me and I'll respond as soon as I can.
- katie : Hello to all our members my name is Katie. I am 30F from Ireland. As far as I can remember I was a daydreamer and it became maladaptive when I was about 6 or 7.
I remember getting my first CD player and that was it I was stuck into my daydreaming world and made it so comforting that I didn't want to get away. It help me through some pretty hard time and I am grateful for that but now I am wanting to ease it and to talk to people that I can relate and have this in common with too.
I found out about madd 2 years ago and joined this group when it was a month after starting so far I have been trying ways to help control and ease my daydreaming and also give non professional advice and share my knowledge and experience to help others through it. If you need to talk to me about anything please pm me thanks. - bee : My name is Bee, I'm 44 years old and live in Germany. I think my dd started to become maladaptive when I was about 9 or 10 years old.
It helped me over a lot of bad days in my life and I'm glad I had it. Over the years the intensity of my dd varied between something that didn't bother me much and something that stopped me from participating in the real world.
I learned about maladaptive daydreaming only by the end of June this year and I'm still working on understanding it and how it influenced my life.
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Post by parsley on May 5, 2020 16:53:48 GMT
Hello, I go by Parsley, sorry if that’s strange. I’m 20 years old and I’ve had daydreams since I was a little girl, but it became a problem when I was about 10 or 11. I’m  how active I will be in this forum, but I’m hoping a community can help me tame my daydreams. I’ve seen other forums that mostly just allow people to feed off of each other’s daydreams, which has the opposite effect of what I want, so I’m hoping this is a place where I can learn how to cope actually get things done without allowing dd to interfere. I have had one “friend” in my dd ever since middle school. I changed school in the 7th grade which was pretty hard for me to deal with, and I needed a sort of fatherly figure so I think my mind just created one for me. I’ll call him Basil, since I’m not comfortable sharing his name either. Anyway, Basil has been my support. I always think of the movie Nim’s Island when I think of Basil, because his relationship to me is much like the author in the Movie and her relationship with her character. He’s basically my conscience. He guides me right from wrong, comforts me when I’m distressed, and gives me courage when I need it. I didn’t plan on this being so long but here I go again. The maladaptive part of my daydreams comes from stories I write. I create new characters and never stop of them. From the first moment I wake up until I fall asleep I am of my characters, of dialogue, and how they act. I often lay in bed reading and writing, which is super detrimental to my health, but I like to find time to run outside. The catch is, I only ever run at night, because I live in Florida and it’s hot as hell, and in the dark I am allowed to daydream while I jog which is very unsafe. Aside from that, I don’t get things done because I’m constantly dreaming and it’s effecting my relationship with my family and friends. Oof, sorry that was long. |
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Post by katie on May 5, 2020 18:17:24 GMT
Hi parsley no need to say sorry and welcome to daydream in blue. :) |
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about out loud without realizing I'm doing it and receiving some odd looks. After I was so deep in a daydream I didn't even realize I had ran past my classroom, or that I was even running at all, I thought something was off. I ended up finding out about MD through memes, and I thought it fit what I'm going through. I was kind of apprehensive about joining an online community, since I've been told about dangers online, but I really wanted some people to talk to who would understand what's going on with me. If anyone reads this, thanks for listening to my nonsense, and it is a pleasure to meet you! 
! I'm maya. I just turned 16 and I live in Canada. I had no idea this existed but it definitely explains a lot, haha. It's so cool to see that other people do this, too.
that there is no treatment yet. I was feeling alone than i figured out that there is so much people feeling like me. I hope we all figure it out how to control and get over this disorder. I dont want to lose them but at least i want to control them.
how active I will be in this forum, but I’m hoping a community can help me tame my daydreams. I’ve seen other forums that mostly just allow people to feed off of each other’s daydreams, which has the opposite effect of what I want, so I’m hoping this is a place where I can learn how to cope actually get things done without allowing dd to interfere. 
