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Post by Sam on Sept 29, 2019 18:31:09 GMT
Hello and Welcome To keep our online community a welcoming, supportive and safe place we ask that all members follow our Forum rules so before posting please take a moment to read the guidelines found here. You can get started by adding a bit about yourself here in the introduction board (not required). Or just jump in--you can post in any thread at any time or start your own. Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them, but I promise you; everyone here wants to hear what you have to say. The forum is monitored by a team of volunteer moderators who are here to offer advice and support when they can and will also be looking out for any posts which do not follow the forum guidelines or are abusive to other members and will remove them if necessary. If you have any questions about how to use the forum, please message one of the moderators and we'll get back to you as soon as possible. If you'd like to introduce yourself to all of us here on the forum, go back to the "New Members" board (the board that this thread is in) and click on the yellow button in the upper right corner that says "Create Thread." You can share as much or as little as you like :) We look forward to getting to know you better and to hear more about you about your experiences with maladaptive daydreaming. Best Wishes from all at Daydream in Blue x Moderator Introductions- Dimmer : Hey, Dimmer, 34, married, one kid. Been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It goes through it's cycles of kinda ok and very bad, I found out about MD a few years ago but sort of ignored it for a while, and then things got a lot worse so I finally started addressing it and trying to curb the 'mal' part. It's going alright, been some ups and downs but I'm making progress. Glad to be here!
- alvi : I'm Alvi and I've been a member of Daydream in Blue since day one. I really don't remember a time when I didn't excessively daydream. I first found out about MD in 2015 and I've been part of the community since then. I think the reason I have this problem is that has been a source of comfort and my way of coping with a difficult past, mental health problems and it is a way for me to escape from my health conditions. At the same time it has made me lose out on real life experiences and has caused many missed opportunities. I'm trying harder to change and get some control over my daydreaming but its a long and painfully slow progress.
I'm not an expert on MD by any means but I will always try to answer your posts, messages and chats to the best of my ability so please don't feel shy to reach out for support.
- Sam : Hi everyone! My name is Sam. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since my preteens and I'm almost 20 now. The daydreaming is mostly a coping mechanism for my severe anxiety and the isolation that I've had as a result of my anxiety. I became a member of this forum shortly after it was started and its helped me so much. Being able to talk about my experiences with other people has benefitted me in so many ways and I love being able to use my knowledge to help others. I try to check in when I can, usually a few times a day, so if you ever have any questions about MD or the forum in general, feel free to message me and I'll respond as soon as I can.
- Theaxe :
Hi everyone! I am one of the co-creators of DIB when we launched in 2018, and I also manage the maladaptive daydreamers' Twitter account @md_SupportGroup. I was born in 1974, and throughout my entire life I have had daydream-addiction. I have found various ways to live with it, talk about it, yet I can never seem to truly eliminate it. I spend time taking on some real-life projects that include some freelance writing and taking a course to learn a new language which I have found helps me manage my MD. I'm here on daydream in blue and on other platforms to engage in some great discussion about MD with you all and to offer my help and support.
- katie : Hello to all our members my name is Katie. I am 30F from Ireland. As far as I can remember I was a daydreamer and it became maladaptive when I was about 6 or 7.
I remember getting my first CD player and that was it I was stuck into my daydreaming world and made it so comforting that I didn't want to get away. It help me through some pretty hard time and I am grateful for that but now I am wanting to ease it and to talk to people that I can relate and have this in common with too.
I found out about madd 2 years ago and joined this group when it was a month after starting so far I have been trying ways to help control and ease my daydreaming and also give non professional advice and share my knowledge and experience to help others through it. If you need to talk to me about anything please pm me thanks.
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Post by gaya on Feb 13, 2021 12:18:53 GMT
Hi everyone, first of all, I would like to say my user name is a form of being anonym, I am 22 years old, I started daydreaming about a year and a half ago and it resulted in being maladaptive daydreaming, I try to control it by any means necessary, always staying intact with my emotions, beliefs, and mind. The problem is some people get obsessed if I don't respond, it's like when I try to get back fully in reality there's a pull, and I don't know what to do about it. Not only that but even people who use daydreams as forms of threat or abuse bugs me and sets me off in a compulsive matter. this is my first time being on this site, I am grateful that I found this platform for me to talk about these things. Ever since my daydreams started I was always a bit startled and got anxious after a bit, I even started  that I might even lose my thoughts and unfortunately, after a bit of research, I found that too can happen. I try pulling out and sometimes I feel like I'm near the edge of freedom and relief but every time where I'm near that jump it's like somebody pulls me back down. Thank you for reading, G |
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Post by Sam on Feb 28, 2021 16:50:39 GMT
Hi everyone, first of all, I would like to say my user name is a form of being anonym, I am 22 years old, I started daydreaming about a year and a half ago and it resulted in being maladaptive daydreaming, I try to control it by any means necessary, always staying intact with my emotions, beliefs, and mind. The problem is some people get obsessed if I don't respond, it's like when I try to get back fully in reality there's a pull, and I don't know what to do about it. Not only that but even people who use daydreams as forms of threat or abuse bugs me and sets me off in a compulsive matter. this is my first time being on this site, I am grateful that I found this platform for me to talk about these things. Ever since my daydreams started I was always a bit startled and got anxious after a bit, I even started thinking that I might even lose my thoughts and unfortunately, after a bit of research, I found that too can happen. I try pulling out and sometimes I feel like I'm near the edge of freedom and relief but every time where I'm near that jump it's like somebody pulls me back down. Thank you for reading, G Welcome to the forum! |
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Post by maira on Mar 5, 2021 13:20:40 GMT
Hello and Welcome To keep our online community a welcoming, supportive and safe place we ask that all members follow our Forum rules so before posting please take a moment to read the guidelines found here. You can get started by adding a bit about yourself here in the introduction board (not required). Or just jump in--you can post in any thread at any time or start your own. Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them, but I promise you; everyone here wants to hear what you have to say. The forum is monitored by a team of volunteer moderators who are here to offer advice and support when they can and will also be looking out for any posts which do not follow the forum guidelines or are abusive to other members and will remove them if necessary. If you have any questions about how to use the forum, please message one of the moderators and we'll get back to you as soon as possible. If you'd like to introduce yourself to all of us here on the forum, go back to the "New Members" board (the board that this thread is in) and click on the yellow button in the upper right corner that says "Create Thread." You can share as much or as little as you like  We look forward to getting to know you better and to hear more about you about your experiences with maladaptive daydreaming. Best Wishes from all at Daydream in Blue x Moderator Introductions- Dimmer : Hey, Dimmer, 34, married, one kid. Been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It goes through it's cycles of kinda ok and very bad, I found out about MD a few years ago but sort of ignored it for a while, and then things got a lot worse so I finally started addressing it and trying to curb the 'mal' part. It's going alright, been some ups and downs but I'm making progress. Glad to be here!
- alvi : I'm Alvi and I've been a member of Daydream in Blue since day one. I really don't remember a time when I didn't excessively daydream. I first found out about MD in 2015 and I've been part of the community since then. I think the reason I have this problem is that has been a source of comfort and my way of coping with a difficult past, mental health problems and it is a way for me to escape from my health conditions. At the same time it has made me lose out on real life experiences and has caused many missed opportunities. I'm trying harder to change and get some control over my daydreaming but its a long and painfully slow progress.
I'm not an expert on MD by any means but I will always try to answer your posts, messages and chats to the best of my ability so please don't feel shy to reach out for support.
- Sam : Hi everyone! My name is Sam. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since my preteens and I'm almost 20 now. The daydreaming is mostly a coping mechanism for my severe anxiety and the isolation that I've had as a result of my anxiety. I became a member of this forum shortly after it was started and its helped me so much. Being able to talk about my experiences with other people has benefitted me in so many ways and I love being able to use my knowledge to help others. I try to check in when I can, usually a few times a day, so if you ever have any questions about MD or the forum in general, feel free to message me and I'll respond as soon as I can.
- Theaxe :
Hi everyone! I am one of the co-creators of DIB when we launched in 2018, and I also manage the maladaptive daydreamers' Twitter account @md_SupportGroup. I was born in 1974, and throughout my entire life I have had daydream-addiction. I have found various ways to live with it, talk about it, yet I can never seem to truly eliminate it. I spend time taking on some real-life projects that include some freelance writing and taking a course to learn a new language which I have found helps me manage my MD. I'm here on daydream in blue and on other platforms to engage in some great discussion about MD with you all and to offer my help and support.
- katie : Hello to all our members my name is Katie. I am 30F from Ireland. As far as I can remember I was a daydreamer and it became maladaptive when I was about 6 or 7.
I remember getting my first CD player and that was it I was stuck into my daydreaming world and made it so comforting that I didn't want to get away. It help me through some pretty hard time and I am grateful for that but now I am wanting to ease it and to talk to people that I can relate and have this in common with too.
I found out about madd 2 years ago and joined this group when it was a month after starting so far I have been trying ways to help control and ease my daydreaming and also give non professional advice and share my knowledge and experience to help others through it. If you need to talk to me about anything please pm me thanks.
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Post by maira on Mar 5, 2021 13:21:06 GMT
Hello and Welcome To keep our online community a welcoming, supportive and safe place we ask that all members follow our Forum rules so before posting please take a moment to read the guidelines found here. You can get started by adding a bit about yourself here in the introduction board (not required). Or just jump in--you can post in any thread at any time or start your own. Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them, but I promise you; everyone here wants to hear what you have to say. The forum is monitored by a team of volunteer moderators who are here to offer advice and support when they can and will also be looking out for any posts which do not follow the forum guidelines or are abusive to other members and will remove them if necessary. If you have any questions about how to use the forum, please message one of the moderators and we'll get back to you as soon as possible. If you'd like to introduce yourself to all of us here on the forum, go back to the "New Members" board (the board that this thread is in) and click on the yellow button in the upper right corner that says "Create Thread." You can share as much or as little as you like We look forward to getting to know you better and to hear more about you about your experiences with maladaptive daydreaming. Best Wishes from all at Daydream in Blue x Moderator Introductions- Dimmer : Hey, Dimmer, 34, married, one kid. Been daydreaming as long as I can remember. It goes through it's cycles of kinda ok and very bad, I found out about MD a few years ago but sort of ignored it for a while, and then things got a lot worse so I finally started addressing it and trying to curb the 'mal' part. It's going alright, been some ups and downs but I'm making progress. Glad to be here!
- alvi : I'm Alvi and I've been a member of Daydream in Blue since day one. I really don't remember a time when I didn't excessively daydream. I first found out about MD in 2015 and I've been part of the community since then. I think the reason I have this problem is that has been a source of comfort and my way of coping with a difficult past, mental health problems and it is a way for me to escape from my health conditions. At the same time it has made me lose out on real life experiences and has caused many missed opportunities. I'm trying harder to change and get some control over my daydreaming but its a long and painfully slow progress.
I'm not an expert on MD by any means but I will always try to answer your posts, messages and chats to the best of my ability so please don't feel shy to reach out for support.
- Sam : Hi everyone! My name is Sam. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since my preteens and I'm almost 20 now. The daydreaming is mostly a coping mechanism for my severe anxiety and the isolation that I've had as a result of my anxiety. I became a member of this forum shortly after it was started and its helped me so much. Being able to talk about my experiences with other people has benefitted me in so many ways and I love being able to use my knowledge to help others. I try to check in when I can, usually a few times a day, so if you ever have any questions about MD or the forum in general, feel free to message me and I'll respond as soon as I can.
- Theaxe :
Hi everyone! I am one of the co-creators of DIB when we launched in 2018, and I also manage the maladaptive daydreamers' Twitter account @md_SupportGroup. I was born in 1974, and throughout my entire life I have had daydream-addiction. I have found various ways to live with it, talk about it, yet I can never seem to truly eliminate it. I spend time taking on some real-life projects that include some freelance writing and taking a course to learn a new language which I have found helps me manage my MD. I'm here on daydream in blue and on other platforms to engage in some great discussion about MD with you all and to offer my help and support.
- katie : Hello to all our members my name is Katie. I am 30F from Ireland. As far as I can remember I was a daydreamer and it became maladaptive when I was about 6 or 7.
I remember getting my first CD player and that was it I was stuck into my daydreaming world and made it so comforting that I didn't want to get away. It help me through some pretty hard time and I am grateful for that but now I am wanting to ease it and to talk to people that I can relate and have this in common with too.
I found out about madd 2 years ago and joined this group when it was a month after starting so far I have been trying ways to help control and ease my daydreaming and also give non professional advice and share my knowledge and experience to help others through it. If you need to talk to me about anything please pm me thanks.
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Post by hols45 on Mar 11, 2021 16:14:10 GMT
 I'm 19 and I think I'm doing this right? I'm not entirely sure I have Maladaptive daydreaming but I do think all the symptoms line up with things that I do. I've been daydreaming since I was about 4 or 5, usually about a film or story I liked, and I always thought it would be something I grew out of. Obviously that hasn't happened. I would often doze off in class or when I was walking to school; I'd snap out of a daydream and realize I was at the school gates but I wouldn't remember anything between leaving my house and getting there. From about 15, the daydreams moved away slightly from fantasy and became more about real life, with a sort of idealized version of myself who wasn't shy and awkward. Normally it's music that triggers it. Recently, I think it's gotten a bit out of hand. I've been spending hours on end just sitting with headphones in and staring at my wall, which is what made me decide to join the forum. I think I need help to stop doing it. |
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Post by Sam on Mar 13, 2021 18:37:09 GMT
Hi! I'm 19 and I think I'm doing this right? I'm not entirely sure I have Maladaptive daydreaming but I do think all the symptoms line up with things that I do. I've been daydreaming since I was about 4 or 5, usually about a film or story I liked, and I always thought it would be something I grew out of. Obviously that hasn't happened. I would often doze off in class or when I was walking to school; I'd snap out of a daydream and realize I was at the school gates but I wouldn't remember anything between leaving my house and getting there. From about 15, the daydreams moved away slightly from fantasy and became more about real life, with a sort of idealized version of myself who wasn't shy and awkward. Normally it's music that triggers it. Recently, I think it's gotten a bit out of hand. I've been spending hours on end just sitting with headphones in and staring at my wall, which is what made me decide to join the forum. I think I need help to stop doing it. Welcome to the forum! Daydreaming itself is completely normal and what it was like when you were younger was pretty common for children. Children naturally spend more of their time daydreaming but as they get older, they usually make the shift from prefering daydreams to prefering and prioritizing reality. Now that you're older, because you haven't made that shift and your daydreaming interferes with your ability to function in real life, it's become maladaptive. |
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Post by aboli on Mar 19, 2021 11:35:22 GMT
Hi... I am 27 and i have been daydreaming ever since i remember, i didn't know that it was a problem to me untill i found myself stucked so much in fantasy achieving and living how i wanted to live my life far away from reality and i do not know how to avoid or walk away from daydreaming.
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Post by alexsasha on Apr 3, 2021 10:25:34 GMT
Hello everyone!!! I am Sasha and I am 20 years old. I decided to join the forum because I need someone to explain me what Maladaptive Daydreaming is and if I am a Maladaptive Daydreamer. I daydream all my life and my daydreams include people that I would like to meet and people that I make up with my mind. I dream about going on vacation with them, moving to different countries, that I have a different family and that I received a different education. However, I have a very normal life, I have friends, I attend a university, I am doing sports, I have hobbies and my very detailed daydreaming hasn’t stopped me by resuming my daily activities. When I was at school I always finished top of my class and now I am passing most of my university exams....But I am feeling very anxious about my daydreaming situation and I am seeking for answers and help....So please....help me if you can
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Post by Sam on Apr 3, 2021 20:57:22 GMT
Hello everyone!!! I am Sasha and I am 20 years old. I decided to join the forum because I need someone to explain me what Maladaptive Daydreaming is and if I am a Maladaptive Daydreamer. I daydream all my life and my daydreams include people that I would like to meet and people that I make up with my mind. I dream about going on vacation with them, moving to different countries, that I have a different family and that I received a different education. However, I have a very normal life, I have friends, I attend a university, I am doing sports, I have hobbies and my very detailed daydreaming hasn’t stopped me by resuming my daily activities. When I was at school I always finished top of my class and now I am passing most of my university exams....But I am feeling very anxious about my daydreaming situation and I am seeking for answers and help....So please....help me if you can Welcome to the forum, Sasha! In very simple terms, maladaptive daydreaming is any kind of daydreaming that interferes with your ability to function. Often, the interference is trouble completing tasks at work/school/home or trouble maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships. The content of your daydreaming is not anywhere near as indicative of whether you're a maladaptive daydreamer as it's interference level is. To me, your daydreaming doesn't sound like its maladaptive. Non-MDers can have vastly complex plots and well-developed characters and can even spend large amounts of time daydreaming, but if their daydreaming doesn't interfere with their ability to function in some way, then it's not likely maladaptive. |
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Post by caroline on Apr 12, 2021 8:54:46 GMT
Hello, I am Caroline, 46 from Scotland. Feel like a lifelong daydreamer, mostly while listening to music. Worried ATM because I feel like I neglect my partner and children. People mostly think I have mental health issues but I am just daydreaming but they think I am depressed.
Anyway I am hoping joining this forum helps
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Post by caroline on Apr 12, 2021 8:55:33 GMT
Hello, I am Caroline, 46 from Scotland. Feel like a lifelong daydreamer, mostly while listening to music. Worried ATM because I feel like I neglect my partner and children. People mostly think I have mental health issues but I am just daydreaming but they think I am depressed.
Anyway I am hoping joining this forum helps
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Post by caroline on Apr 12, 2021 8:56:09 GMT
Hello, I am Caroline, 46 from Scotland. Feel like a lifelong daydreamer, mostly while listening to music. Worried ATM because I feel like I neglect my partner and children. People mostly think I have mental health issues but I am just daydreaming but they think I am depressed.
Anyway I am hoping joining this forum helps
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Post by tibha on Apr 21, 2021 22:45:18 GMT
Hi everyone, this is a big step out of my comfort zone and I don't even know if being here is going to help me. I just want the daydreaming to stop. I've been daydreaming since I was a kid. I'm a 21 year old college student now about to graduate this semester and I have an idea of what I want to do with my life. I majored in something completely irrelevant to what I want to do so me wasting my four years in undergrad is practically on me. My maladaptive daydreaming stops me from focusing on taking the next steps I want to take in my life.
I tell myself that I am going to be left behind while everyone around me prospers because everyone around me is working the hardest they can to build the life that they want for themselves. So many people have great expectations from me but others think I won't be able to do anything with my life. I want to prove the naysayers wrong and I tell myself that if I didn't have this condition, I would be exactly where I want to be by now. There would be no time to waste.
I waste so much of my time lost in multiple different worlds. I know my worth and potential and I know I could easily become successful with hard work and dedication. But, my maladaptive behavior has more control over me than I do over my mind. I'm so scared of failure because in my family failure isn't an option. At the same time I know that failure is inevitable and things can't be learned without failure.
I just want to face reality and create a meaningful life for myself. I want to stop daydreaming. It stops me from becoming exactly how I wish to see myself in the future.
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Post by Sam on Apr 26, 2021 15:02:37 GMT
Hi everyone, this is a big step out of my comfort zone and I don't even know if being here is going to help me. I just want the daydreaming to stop. I've been daydreaming since I was a kid. I'm a 21 year old college student now about to graduate this semester and I have an idea of what I want to do with my life. I majored in something completely irrelevant to what I want to do so me wasting my four years in undergrad is practically on me. My maladaptive daydreaming stops me from focusing on taking the next steps I want to take in my life.
I tell myself that I am going to be left behind while everyone around me prospers because everyone around me is working the hardest they can to build the life that they want for themselves. So many people have great expectations from me but others think I won't be able to do anything with my life. I want to prove the naysayers wrong and I tell myself that if I didn't have this condition, I would be exactly where I want to be by now. There would be no time to waste.
I waste so much of my time lost in multiple different worlds. I know my worth and potential and I know I could easily become successful with hard work and dedication. But, my maladaptive behavior has more control over me than I do over my mind. I'm so scared of failure because in my family failure isn't an option. At the same time I know that failure is inevitable and things can't be learned without failure.
I just want to face reality and create a meaningful life for myself. I want to stop daydreaming. It stops me from becoming exactly how I wish to see myself in the future. Welcome to the forum! I can understand your desire to completely stop daydreaming, but it’s not really a realistic goal. Daydreaming is a natural function of the brain that helps with creativity and problem solving, among other things. What is a more realistic goal is to regain a balance between real life and daydreams, one that non-MDers already have. |
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Post by moon moon on Apr 29, 2021 10:22:37 GMT
Hey everyone! My name is Weronika, I am 23 years old and I am from Poland. Have been daydreaming pretty much as long as I can remember. It's been both better and worse at certain times, but it's been a constant in my life. Recently, since the first lockdown, the daydreaming has gotten really out of my control. I've known about this forum for a while now, but I was a bit too shy to actually join. But I finally decided to give it a try |
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that I might even lose my thoughts and unfortunately, after a bit of research, I found that too can happen.
I'm 19 and I think I'm doing this right?